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[mmiller159]

I'm 18 years old ill be 23 weeks pregnant tomorrow. My baby is already my world. My boyfriend and I haven't been together long at all, but have known each other for awhile. He's been here the whole time and been very supportive. We fight a lot, mostly from my end though. BAby hormones! We broke up yesterday morning and usually by now we'd be talking and fine again..we haven't talked when we do we argue and fight. He's actually done! I feel okay emotionally, I mean I've cried a lot and feel like crap. I'm not worried about me though, ill get through this. I'm scared for my baby. Idk if he's going to be here for the baby. We had plans to move out of state a few months after the baby is born to his dads so he can get a good job. I spent all my savings on baby stuff and can't afford a place of my own. When I can idk where I want that place to be. I'm so lost and confused as to whats best for my baby. Most of all I'm so so so scared of being a single mommy. My child deserves the best..what if I can't give him/her that without their daddy? How do I manage to get over him when I'm reminded of his memory all the time.. I just need somebody to remind me I will be okay! I don't have any friends sincce I got pregnant. My family is supportive but I don't like talking about this with them.

[anag1009]

It will be ok. If you guys are meant to be together things will turn around. Im 21. 2nd pregnancy. I left my hubby Feb.1st. Im 15 wks. Im back with mom & dad. I was 16 when I got pregnant from the 1st. So we been through EVERYTHING! Lol. Right now he is begging I move back with him. But I gotta see change in him 1st. So everything will be fine. Dont worry. If u have family support take advantage of it. I know u might not want to talk to them but sometimes its for the best. I dont wanna talk to my mom/dad bcuz they are 100% against me going back...

[trying43]

Glad things are better.  But if things go haywire again you should stick close to where your support system is.  Good luck to u.

[mmiller159]

Sorry I'm new to the site..I just figured out how to read your comments. Lol. I appreciate you all giving me advice. I believe we worked this out. We have made a new plan that I hope works for the better. If not, I will figure that out when the time comes. Thank you guys so much!! :) I can't wait to meet my little one. He/she is already my world. :) thanks again.

[mamaof4410]

It will be OK. Regardless of whether you get back with him or you stay by yourself. You will be OK. You need to talk to someone. Don't keep all of your feelings bottled up it will only make you feel worse.

[FreshLove]

I know you may not feel like talking to your family about this right now, but please do not push them away. SInce you are a single mom, your family (mom, dad, sister, or whoever) is going to be your number one support system. You will need them for emotional support as well as financial support until you can save up some money for baby. Many women raise children on their own (including my mom and multiple friends) and I'm sure you will do great :)

[Hme85]

I am 15 w. My bf and i broke up before i knew i was pregnant. He moved on i don't know how to contact him. So i am doing this on my own. And i am staying strong! Good luck to you!

[July9]

I agree do not worry things will work out. Many individuals take care of their kids without any problems. As far as your savings I would just relax stop buying things because the baby will grow fast, and most of the things you buy early on will not fit. Do not stress yourself because it will stress the baby and sice you love your child I am sure you do not want anything bad to happen so, just think of you and your child. Many times I have found that most men / women want to be chased however, do not give him that satisfaction just keep believing in yourself, and one day he will see what he missed out on. You both will be fine no worries :)  

[Mommy80712]

Every thing is going to be fine my boyfriend and I broke up a month onto my pregnancy I'm 17w1d and have gone thru exactly Wat u are feeling and you just keep your mind on the prize and tell yourself with or without my child's father my baby will b my world and get all your love ok Congrats and Good luck