boyfriend lazy and doesnt want to help..

[kendra372013]

Im 35+1 and my boyfriend hasnt even put up the babys crib or set anything else that needs to be built up ive been asking him for 2 weeks straight now he hasnt been working so hes been home to do it and all he does is when I go to work he goes out with his ******* friends and does nothing im getting so sick of it causeing us to fight all the timeand when he goes out with his friends all he does is waste money on weed and smokes and doesnt get home till late so I get really mad and when I yell at him he says ill do it tomorrow and tries to kiss my *** I just feel like he doesn't want to be a father he keeps just putting **** off and wont answer his phone when hes out cuz he doesn't want to hear me ***** well then don't hangout with people I don't like.. ughhh im getting so stressed and I want to just do it myself but everyone keeps telling me not to... should I just putit together myself and just be careful and is anyone elses bf like this or just mine?! :(

[jen_ortiz]

Weed isn't really a drug at least he's not on anything else!!!!! Hun he might be nervous about being a father n he doesn't kno how to act . I hope everything works out the way u want it just remember stress is bad for the baby !!!

[JewelzD]

what he does with his life is up to him over half the world smokes weed that doesn't make him a bad person love and I think doing it together is a wonderful idea one morning after breakfast make a nice day out of it

[kendra372013]

Oh yea and btw he plans on quitting when the baby comes so works out :)

[kendra372013]

Lol its fine everyone has their opinion, yeah I guess ill try that we were just starting to talk about it 10 mins ago and his brother came over and ruined it lmao something happens every time... but yeah ill try that today because I don't have work or tomorrow

[BabyTurnip]

Im sorry for what i said then. How about instead of gettibg someone else do it with you and msking him feeling guilty why not do it together? Just tell him to follow you and tell him the you and him are going to do it together. You guys need to be a team and while your building the crib or anything else get him to open up and talk about that little treasure that will soon be added to ur family :) and just talk to him. No fighting, no stress!

[kendra372013]

I don't think smoking weed is bad I mean I did it ocasionally before I got pregnant and that doesn't make someone a bad father.. I see plenty of men that are great fathers but smoke weed sometimes. He shows people our ultrasound pics and talks about the baby to other people because they tell me its just he doesn't talk about him with me much

[BabyTurnip]

Personnaly i would of kicked him out a long time ago. Your close to having ur baby and hes smoking weed? Not the kind of father figure i would want for my child. I got lucky my hubby loves kids and is the happiest man on earth showing the ultrasound picture to everybody. But seriously u need to sit him down and talk to him. Its no time to be stressing yourself out and fighting. You need to protect you baby now not please a guy that wants to party and smoke all the time.

[kendra372013]

Thank you ladies!

[kendra372013]

Lol no they rnt at all thank you for ur opinion :) I want to call someone and do it on my own but idk when to because he useually comes home at random times so idk when and how long he will be gone for.. and he never even looks in the babys room so he would never notice

[JewelzD]

I would put it together like i always say you want something done n done right you gotta do it yourself it ***** i know he should do it but some men need to see u dont need him to do anything u only ask so he has something to be proud of he built his kids things just have someone come help u get it all set up n dont say a word to him about it

[Mamabays]

I would just get someone to help. My hubby was kind of the same way with our first but I think it was more because he was leaving for a deployment and was just distant in general. So I had to put stuff together once he left with the help of a friend.

[Bri_1985]

Id call a friend or coworker over to help me put everything together. Then not even say a word to him about it to see if he notices. I wouldnt even mention anything about the baby's room to him until he takes notice then gauge how he feels. If he gets pissy about it - guilt trip his *** reminding him hes had all that time to pull his head out his *** yet did nothing.

And if he seems guilty in seeing that you put everything together, let him sit on it awhile. ****** has some serious making up to do in my opinion -.- Or Im just extremely hormonal today... sorry if my suggestions are too harsh.

[kendra372013]

Oh yeah and ps he doesn't ever talk about the baby with me this is our first child idk if hes like nervous or something but seems like im the only one excited?  Really a let down... :/