how soon after d&c to try again

[whitney08]

I had a d&c due to a blighted ovum a month ago tomorrow and im on my second week of birth control. i still havent had a period since my last period before i got pregnant, march 11. i know ive read that its okay to get pregnant right away, but idk if i should be waiting until after my first period, or when my first period is even going to come. im ready to try again but im not sure when the best time to try is and i have no idea when ill be ovulating either because i havent had my period in so long. im just looking for a little advice or something please. and thank you! :)

[whitney08]

yeah he told me to wait a couple weeks after the d&c meaning the 2 weeks i wasnt supposed to even have sex. he didnt say anything after that. im not trying to make things up to convince myself its okay. convincing myself isnt goin to make anything happen. if that were the case im sure alot of people could convince themselves they have and can do alot of things they dont have and cant do and get away with it. im not stupid and im not in la la land.

[claire5522]

You said in an earlier post that your doctor said to wait a couple of weeks before trying now in a later post you are saying that your doctor didnt mention when to start trying again.  I followed the advice that was given to me but my situation is different to yours as I said before the information your doctor gave to you is specifically for you.  You SHOULD follow your doctors advice and not make up things to convince yourself that it is ok to start trying again. I know the feeling you are having at the moment but really waiting a few weeks is not the end of the world.

And if your on the pill I wouldn't advise stopping half way through a cycle and forcing a period to come.  Your womb has been under enough pressure and your lining may not be thick enough to get pregnant.  Continue on this month of the pill and get your period and start trying then.

[PetiteWonder]

My doctor told me ideally I would wait 3 cycles as it takes a bit to get things back to normal... I planned on waiting 2...  Got my first period 6 weeks after my d&c but the second one, & third in the end came regularly....

After we stopped using protection after the d&c, I got pregnant during the 3rd cycle we were attempting.. didnt use kits or anything .. it was a little under 6 months later overall...

I am now 21 weeks. Good luck, many people are told just to wait the one period and do that...

[whitney08]

well if my person starts along with my birth control then it will be another couple weeks before it comes, which ***** but if i have to wait then i will. the dr never really told me anything about when i could start trying again, just wanted me to have pelvic rest after the first 2 weeks. thanks for the info though!! im soo eager to try again lol
i sure was getting used to not having a monthly period though so i was happy it was taking a while, now im hoping it comes sooner then later.

[coffeebuzzedliz]

I had a D&C 5 weeks ago this Friday. They did testing and it was due to a chromosome abnormality and it was not progressing but my body didn't want to MC on its own so we had the surgery. My Dr. said no sex for 2 weeks because you don't want to risk infection. He also told me to not get pregnancy until I have had 1 period. He told me I did not need to wait longer then that but to at least have 1 so my body can get back to normal and get on a normal cycle again. You don't want to stress it too early and risk your next pregnancy, when that could be avoided by waiting another week or two. I am happy to say my period started yesterday!! so we will be TTC soon! Good Luck!

[whitney08]

thanks for all the help and advice. i think im jus goin to go ahead and do like we were doing before i got pregnant the first time. we werent trying, but we also werent preventing it in any kind of way. it seemed to work before and i dont see how it could hurt this time either. i think im just going to stop taking my birth control and see what happens. wishing for the best!! thanks everyone for all the advice.

[claire5522]

The reason they tell you not to have sex for 2 weeks is because your cervix is open and your uterus is exposed and there is a chance of getting an infection in your uterus which is difficult to treat once you get one.

By the sound of things if he said you just had to wait a couple of weeks after your lining must have been thick otherwise he would have mentioned to wait for your period. As much advice as women give you on this forum your doctors advice is always the best because it is specifically for you.  But from what you've said you are following your doctors advice if you didnt have sex for 2 weeks and have waited 2 weeks (couple) since, you should be ready to start trying now.

As far as ovulation goes its hard once you have miscarried.  As far as I know the ovulation tests that you get in the chemist are not accurate after a miscarriage (I have read this before but check that for yourself to be 100% they may be useful).  We were trying but it was blind trying we had no idea when i was to ovulate but from my dates I ovulated 7-8 weeks after my m/c.  But I think it is easier for your body to go back to normal after a d&c so i might be quicker for you.  To be honest I wasn't expecting it to happen.  I thought that we'd try and I end up getting my period and we could then go get tests etc.

Wish you the best of luck with TTC. You mentioned in another comment that your finding your loss hard at the moment.  It gets easier, to see babies and congratulate friends who are pregnant, you'l never forget but it will get easier I promise.

Best of luck :)

[whitney08]

well when i went in for my checkup the dr said everything was fine, and before the surgery he told me he wanted me to wait 2 weeks to have sex again and he said just a couple weeks before trying again....and its been a month since the surgery and he gave me the OK to have sex again so i dont see why it would hurt. how did u know when u were ovulating when u tried again? or was it an accident? lol

[whitney08]

thanks! im REALLY hoping i dont have the same thing happen again. the dr told me the chance of having another miscarriage was pretty slim considering the fact that my body didnt want to let go of the baby on its own, which is why i had to have the d&c... which i can say that ill NEVER have another d&c again. im sorry to hear about the losses of your babies. idk what i'd do. ive only had one miscarriage and it was my first pregnancy, which they say happens alot, so thats what im praying just happened. idk if i could handle losing multiple babies. and i REALLY hope it doesnt take me 6 months to get pregnant again bc im not that good at being patient either!! lol i guess i just miss being pregnant already :( i see all these people with due dates around the same time as me and their ultrasound pics and it makes me so sad to think about what im missing out on.

[claire5522]

When I miscarried I was told I could try again straight away.  That my lining was thick and I didnt need to wait.  It has been 11 weeks since and I'm 5 weeks pregnant now and keeping my fingers crossed but i didnt have a period in between.

I had a natural miscarriage not a d&c so I dont know if there is a difference in the waiting period.  Also I dont know if a blighted ovum affects this either.  Did you ask your doctor? Everyone will be different so its best to get an actual answer for your situation.  I know sometimes they can ask women to wait up to 3 months to try again

[snagglepuss1]

Hi,

I would say wait until you have had a period, just to allow the lining of the womb to thicken up again ready for a pregnancy. It's easier said than done though I know. I was trying from the moment I knew I could after mine, took me 6 months to fall pregnant again after my d&c, don't think it was d&c related but I miscarried and lost my 3rd baby that time.
I'd say get at least one period out the way and then if you feel ready go for it!
Best wishes