newborn and thanksgiving. ftm help please!!

[alyringy]

Ok so if he doesn't come before my induction on Monday morning he will be three days old on thanksgiving. How should I go about doing this.i Have to visit my husbands family and my own. What do we do. I'm so nervous

[trying43]

Keep in mind if you have ur baby naturally at 3 days after you may not be in any shape to get out.  You will most likely still have some fairly heavy post parteum bleeding, if you have to have an episiotomy you may be in no shape to drive, and  some drs will not even allow you to drive until 2 weeks after delivery because you can be at risk for blood clots and too much activity after delivery can be unsafe for you.  And if you have a c-section then that's a whole other story.  You definitely aren't allowed to drive or be too active with that because that is major abdominal surgery!  Also I don't know what state your in but the flu is bad in my area and its a different strain this year so family or not, a newborn getting the flu could be fatal, also rsv and whooping cough are around too.  Most pediatricians don't recommend getting the baby out until around 2 to 6 weeks.  I am not trying to scare you but you need to be aware of risks to you and to baby.  I am sure people will say well i did this or that and things were fine BUT why take risks on things that are easily preventable. I know for myself, my first labor/induction was very rough and both me and my son, we had to stay in the hospital for 3 days.  Good luck to you.

[Heartless512]

I have the same problem my induce day is Sunday and my daughter most likely will be born on Monday night the lastest and I still don't know if I'm having her vaginally or by c-sections so I might miss thanksgiving or end up being discharge that same day :-/ becuase Over here where I'm at if u have the baby vaginally u stay at the hospital 1-2days but with c-section it could be from 2-4days :-/ so hopefully I'm able to go home and spend thanksgiving with them since its gonna be at my house

[crstl11]

I understand that. Like some said I would go I mean it is family and they should understand the baby is new so just use sanitizer and not a whole lot of passing. Or just keep baby in carrier and let people see the baby if u don't want him or her passed around. I went to church when my daughter was 6 days old.

[alyringy]

I would have people come to our house but we live in a tiny apartment and there just isn't room

[jwilliams81]

I would go my daughter was 6 days old on Xmas when she was born I felt up to it just made everyone use sanitizer and just brief cuddles. I also didn't care if we were running late it took so much longer to do everything!

[JewelzD]

I would say have them all bring dishes to your house and greet the baby as well

[alyringy]

Ok thanks ladies I appreciate it I think we will go but just not for long.

[chelsgr87]

I'd go.  

[crstl11]

U may still be in the hospital...see if one of them can do a dinner at ur house or bring u guys some. If the weather isn't too cold I would go just make sure people sanitize there hands and no one gets around the baby that is sick.

[alyringy]

Ok I just may. I'm just super close w my family and this will be our last thanksgiving living here because we are a military family:,(

[KTowne]

It also depends on the birth, if you end up with a c-section you may still be in the hospital on thanksgiving, it's usually a 3 day stay, and if anything for your vital signs look off at all, you may still be in the hospital. I agree, maybe ask your family to bring you guys a plate?

[Ari_L_P89]

maybe talk to the families about them coming to you guys?  I know the hospital here kept me 48 hrs after baby was born and I was an uncomplicated vag. birth. if you have any problems you may even still be in the hospital or just really not up to moving much.

[Chatybaby]

Hopefully someone from either of your families would offer to bring you guys food at home if they are close by. Maybe just see how you are feeling and keep baby wrapped up if you do go. Not letting everyone hold the baby will be tough

[alyringy]

Thats true. I just can't imagine missing thanksgiving

[Chatybaby]

Im.sure people would understand if you dont make it places right after giving birth. Im a ftm too but I would want to be taking the baby out so early on. And depending on your labor you might not be feeling up to it either.