newborn/visitors/advice

[christenalex]

So I have a 1 year old who just started walking, I gave birth to a baby girl Sunday March 8th at 5:42 am. I didn't sleep that night I went into labor so the last night I had sleep was Friday night. Anyway I am married and my husband is a pushover who wouldnt tell anyone to leave the hospital room or that I needed rest. I had to be cut and have stitches, with that being said I am extremely tired and exhausted.  I am also breastfeeding, Sunday morning about 6am the visitors started in.... all 37 of them from 6am -830 at night.  Did I sleep that day? No. Did I get to be comfortable and go pee if needed while my bloody butt is hanging out the gown? No. It was ridiculous!!! My husband won't man up and tell people I need rest I'm hurting etc. Now we are home and the visits are STILL coming we havent had 1 night alone..he doesn't even ask me he just says yeah come by, its his parents mainly that don't understand I need rest and to heal. They keep calling and coming I feel like I'm at a party I wasn't even invited to nor want to attend. I need help and advice I've tried telling him and to tell people no but I don't think he hears or understands because it's his first child.... advice?

[Tricia0818]

You are not the bad person because you want to rest! And make it clear you aren't trying to hurt anyone's feelings but your having a hard time resting with everyone constantly at your house! I made people leave the hospital when I was there cause I was over exhausted

[mamichalke]

I had to lay out the rules about visitors at my 1st birth. I had a no visitors allowed for the 1st week rule. I would suggest leaving the baby with your husband and going to your room to get some rest. Also maybe say to the guests as they are leaving.  Thanks for coming we are not going to be taking visitors for xxxx days so we can get some rest and recover.  That way they know not to even call and ask.

[Sareney_beany12]

I feed in the living room with a blanket or my udder cover. I refuse to have to leave the room just to feed my daughter. Tell them that you need to rest and that they need to come back later. They should understand

[ciara07]

For me now that he is a little older i hate wen his friends come over, i have to fed in the babys room with no tv or mine room with no tv.

[ciara07]

I felt like that when we first brought home our buddle. But now that i think back it was a good thing. everyone wanted to hold and play with him. So when we would have company i would excuse myself and go nap and my hubby would bring me the baby wen he was hungry(also breastfeeding)

[Love35888]

You should just go get some rest in your room. Have the baby in the room when you want, just tell them your breastfeeding her. When your sleeping or the baby is fussy, have a your husband take her then.

[sabbylopez]

Tell them yourself sounds like you have ppd

[beckyMH]

Try talking to the visitors yourself. I'm sure they will understand xx

[christenalex]

I have and apparently I'm the bad one because of it and they still don't listen and come...

[Cassi1992]

I would just hide in the room with the baby and if he asks you to come down and visit just say "i am to sore and to tired to do anything so let me rest." Just be blunt about it. My husband was like that i have 2 kids and this baby was his first so he was excited to show off baby and i had to tell him 5 times to start saying no.

[Tricia0818]

Tell them your self! Explain you'd just like sometime to rest with no visitors. I've been thinking about not having any visitors while I'm in the hospital.