unappreciated

[torin94]

Lately ive bee so depressed. I feel so unappreciated around my house. My boyfriend doesnt ask how the baby is or how i am. Its like he doesnt care. I do all the house work and plus take care of our 2 year old and go to work. I tried to be nice and bought him an xbox and a game last night and like clockwork there was no thank you not even down to a hug or kiss. I want him to be here for the kids, but im tired of feeling alone. Does anyone else get like this?

[steffimariee]

Sounds like he needs to get his priorities straight. :/

[torin94]

I came home yesterday and he acutually cleaned a little but i guess thats because he had company. Ive tried to talk to him he blows it off. I just dont understand how he can be so self absorbed. Hed rather hang out with friends and play games. He doesnt understand i gave my life up when i had our baby girl. She is my friend now my company my life. We have fun watching tv. She listens when no one else does. I wish hr felt this like i do. Hed understand

[BabyTurnip]

I expect my hubby to help me around the house. There was awhile where he didnt help much and i took the ps3 remotes and hid them. Told him im not doing this "women does housework and men do nothing" bull S hit and told him things need to change or some electronic devices (computer, ps3, cellphone) would end up in the garbage. And things changed lol but my hubby is extremely excited for our son. But i know some men just dont click until they physically hold the baby. They dont have any physical connection with the baby like girls do....so its harder for them to understand. Best way is probably to talk to him and tell him how you feel.

[arlandonbloom]

Guys are just weird. I don't know if they are in shock that life is about to change or what but I am going through that right now, I'm not sure what his problem is. Although, he just started a job as a prison guard so I am sure he's just stressing out about that. I have been going to my appointments alone, when he gets home he doesn't acknowledge the fact that I'm pregnant, doesn't say anything about the baby, doesn't show much affection towards me anymore, and on top of that I have no support from my family so I have just been feeling really sad and alone. He starts his new shift (graveyard) on the 10th though, so hopefully he'll be a little more excited once he starts going with me to appointments and ultrasounds. I know how you feel, and if you need someone to talk to, to vent to or anything you could message me!

[KellyRD]

@torin94 i feel your pain and lonelyness.. I to am in a very similar situation. To bad we dont live closer.. we seem to have a lot in common.. ive been in 5yr rel. And with this preg. Making it our 3rd baby together. Ive delt with the cheating early on and forgave him. But like you said it kinda seems like thats all starting again. And i too feel not appreciated or that he doesnt even care. This preg. By far out of all of them has been the worst emotionally dealing with the hubby. Its so hard wanting to share the excitement that you are feeling about the baby to some1 that doesnt even give you the light of day. My rel. Feels like its going to be over to and it ***** bc we have such a beautiful family and here we are adding baby num. 3 to it. And it ***** even more when u kinda already now its over but yet its so hard to pick up and leave bc you want it to work so bad. Soo i feel yah.. if u even need a friend to talk to.. im here u can message me anytime. How far along are you?

[jazzalynsmommy2013]

Im actually goin through the same problem i work take care of my 2yr old and all he wants to do is play his damn xbox it drives me insane and he ask me why im always going to bed early im tired of u playing ur damn xbox

[Sarah765]

Some men just dont het excited about pregnancy.  My husnand doesnt ever talk much about baby, and just kind of listens when I do.  But he has been like this with all my pregmamcies, and the moment that baby comes he is in love, and a really amaizing daddy.  So I dont worry about it to much.  

[torin94]

Exaclty its like everything i do is the worst thing in the world. I can wake up in the morning and say oh the baby is awake on he just looks at his phone. I know he cheated before. I forgave him for that but lately thats what it feels like hes been doing. Im tired of putting my all in something that he wont. He always thought ive cheated on him and says the person who always accuses is the one thats doing. I hate being around him because he is downing me all the time. Im pretty much sure its going to be over soon. Nice 5 year run 2 babies and a lot of hurt break. Guess if something wad meant to be it would find its way. I live in Virginia and thr only friends i have are the ones i work with. Most of them are older than me. I need someone to befriend with children my age. Its hard having no one near me i can talk to. Im glad i have people that actually understand what i feel like. :(

[val_mommy2b]

Wow you took the words right out of my mouth I was just getting ready to post something like this but me and my bf aren't leaving together but everytime I mention something about the baby that I'm excited about all he says is really or k or changes the subject to me talking to other dudes and just a few minutes ago he told me karma is the biggest b**** ever and everything I've ever done to him is gon come back to me 3 times worse I'm just tired the little things he says to me they hurt and it's not my hormones its reality like my relationship maybe over

[heatherr322]

Yeah i het that feeling. My bf never wants to talk to me about the new baby and when i do everything around the house he.doesnt care plus i have to keep my 3 yr old occupied all day. He never can just play with him. He doesnt care aboit how i feel whole pregnant. Its like i just want to talk to him about it but he doesnt pay attention. Feels lonely. Although i cant complain too much i had surgery last week and he has been great with doing a lot of stuff for me. I need to find some real friends woth kids but its so hard