how do you deal with the fear 4 the 1st 12 weeks

[zulema2010]

I am trying to stay positive and occupy my mind on other things, such as work. Nonetheless, I still worry about these weeks ahead. My last baby is now 8 years old and it has been so long since I was pregnant that I even forgot exactly what happens and when.

[ivy_kween88]

Don't worry, it's hard for me to say this because 10 months ago i had a stillborn at full term..it was the hardest for me ever! I am at times scared, but for the past two weeks i have had so much faith and hope that if Jesus gave me a second oppurtunity to be a mommy its going to work out just fine!! Stay positive and you'll see everything is going to work out just fine, we'll have our beautiful babies in Dec wich will be the best christmas gift for all of us! have faith and stay strong, love ivy!

[WifeofAnt]

What got me through this far (I'm almost 11 weeks) was remembering that SO many pregnancies ARE successful!  After all there are over 6 billion people on this earth!  You, your siblings, your parents, everyone you know was once an unborn baby and they survived and made it.  So many of their moms were probably just as nervous as you but everything worked out just fine.

[kele1129]

I think the fear is normal and natural. it reminds us that we are already caring for another little life and to think about things before doing them. IWe spent 5 years TTC and finally turned to IVF to achieve conceiving our son, I spent the whole pregnancy being nervous about every twinge, cramp, ache and pain. This pregnancy (achieved naturally!) has been much calmer for me in my mind. I am looking at it as a natural process this time around and something that will be ok. If yours becomes an obsessive fear then I suggest talking to a counselor in order to get help. I was close to counseling last time around as I just couldn't let go and enjoy finally being pregnant.

[JadedSweetheart]

I think everyone deals with fear differently.  I find it helps to read and respond to posts on this site.  I've had two m/c, so I worry a lot about this time, but the morning sickness helps to remind me that everything is going well.  
My last baby is now 9, so I know what you mean about not remembering what happens when.  I bought "What to Expect When You're Expecting" to help with that.  I like it.

Try to relax, I know it's hard, but this is a good place to express how you're feeling and relate to women going through the same things at the same time.