husband frstration

[janetsullivan82]

I quit smoking the day I found out I was pregnant and my husbamd said he would too and now here we are at fifteen weeks and he is still smoking. I have not let myself slip on my cravings once. He said that I make it hard by reminding him how hard it makes it for me when he smokes and how bad it is for the baby. I do not see my reminders as a bad thing but they make him mad...any ideas on how to.get him to stop?

[janetsullivan82]

Got him an electronic one which is nice cause there is no smell and less chemicals for hin and none for us around him...but for now he is doin both the electronic one and regular ones

[lukymum84]

I know the feeling hun i really do although ive never smoked my partner does and he was quiting in oct when we found  out i was pregnant, then i was promised new yr was the time he was gonna quit, im now 17 weeks n if anything hes smoking more and to top it off drinking excessively now im closer to accepting he doesnt want to change and my opinions mean absolutely nothing to him . Wish u all the best n hope ur fella sorts it out for all of u xx

[lukymum84]

I know the feeling hun i really do although ive never smoked my partner does and he was quiting in oct when we found  out i was pregnant, then i was promised new yr was the time he was gonna quit, im now 17 weeks n if anything hes smoking more and to top it off drinking excessively now im closer to accepting he doesnt want to change and my opinions mean absolutely nothing to him . Wish u all the best n hope ur fella sorts it out for all of u xx

[janetsullivan82]

He is smokin outside and i have tried to be encouraging and not criticize. I really wamma get him an electronic one cause I do know how hard it is but around here they are all really expensive.

[Heatherm4]

He has to want to quit, forcing someone wont help. Is he at least smoking outside for the sake of you and your baby. If not, that's something I would force.

[Lesley27]

Smokers need support not criticism when they are trying to quit, i know you quit and just went through this but you have a better motivation than he does, you already have this attachment to this wonderful life growing inside you and to him it might not seem so real yet and quiting smoking is really hard! does he have any nicotine replacements or quiting aids that he can use to help quit? i also would try to get him in a habit of not smoking inside or in your vehicle as these places will be off limits after baby arrives and decreasing the places he smokes makes it harder to smoke... at times that he normally goes for a smoke if you can offer him something like a candy to suck on or gum(even nicorette) and maybe distract him with baby stuff(read from the book) i dont know, a positive replacement that makes him think baby? i dono?

also he might just need a break from quiting just to get back into the mental state needed to quit... this is a hard question, cause he does need to be ready and willing to quit and i dont think it has anything to do with the baby i think its all will power and  you do have to be in the right place to quit... if he continues to strugle you could talk to your Dr with him there for any suggestions, or talk to him that once that baby arrives there is no smoking allowed.... but you dont want to do that too early, i would say that if a month before your due date he hasnt quit that you should talk to him, that way he has a month to get ready, think about it, and he has a set date kinda thing... and hope he can do it...

i quit cold turkey but i really had to get to that place where i was just done smoking...and i got there, it took a few goes but i did it.... lots of ppl cant get there but limiting where you can smoke does help a lot... also not being around smokers is a must for me cause the second i knew someone was a smoker id buy one from them... i couldnt help it... i didnt smoke when i was prego even tho before i still would social smoke rarely but i still did it...and after havig my daughter i still havent had a smoke as i dont want to, i always have her and am honestly scared of how badly i would get sick cause its been that long.... i still to this day miss smoking but wont go back...

i feel like i really babled through this but i hope it helps...