baby blues :(

[Aubreys_mommy]

Aubrey is 4 days old now... she is so precious and I love her so much. Its been kind of rough getting use to this big change though. And my hormones are getting the best of me. I try to sleep whenever I can but sometimes I just can't sleep no matter how exhausted I am. And I feel so guilty. I feel like my lil girl deserves a better mommy than me. I love her so much but then I feel like me and my hubby are never going to be the same anymore. He sleeps in our bedroom while I sleep in the living room with her so I won't keep him awake. It just seems so much has changed overnight and I'm just having a hard time with it. I cry a lot now. More than when I was pregnant. I even cry when I think about being pregnant because I miss feeling her move around. I just hope this goes away soon. Sorry, I just needed to get it off my chest.

[Mom2boys1980]

It's normal to feel the baby blues. I had it when I had my first child almost 8 years ago that lasted about 2 weeks. When my second son was born, my baby blues turned to PPD that lasted me about 2 months eventually it went away with time. With my third, (girl born 8 weeks ago) I had the baby blues for about 2 weeks, I felt overwhelmed and very emotional but I'm glad to say after 2 weeks I was fine and back to myself again. I felt the same way with my kids, missed being pregnant and feeling them move around. But it will go away and you will feel good. Relax, rest and ask for help if you feel that you need and if you feel emotional, cry it out it will help you feel better.

Sending you a hug :)

[brit0585]

My husband sleeps on the couch and I've got the bedroom. It's super hot tho in there so it's miserable to  sleep in but yes I cry just petting the dog lol. Just take 1 day at a time and I it will get better

[Aubreys_mommy]

Thanks everyone. At least I'm not the only one that feels like this. It makes me feel so bad :( ill be glad when it passes.. And I think I may try sleeping in the bed tonight and see how it works out.. Hope all of u and your babies are doing well.

[Heatherm4]

Oh yes totally normal. All those hormones are still having at it!! It will probably last a couple weeks but if you find it's worse and you are having bad thoughts then def talk to your doctor. And don't hold your feelings in. Let your man know how you're feeling or just vent to someone. Don't be afraid to let it ALL out!!

I agree with Lesley...sleep in your own bed. Men really don't hear much. Mine doesn't...but I have a baby that doesn't have her days and nights mixed up. Just get to baby before she really starts to cry. My set up is just like Lesley's. I have everything on my nightstand and use the bassinet night light and I have a lamp on my table. I too put a receiving blanket over it to soften the light if I need to use it! lol
Your blues will pass and yes things will be different now but for the better. In time you'll never remember what life was like without her!

[hairdid]

Im sorry hun but you are not alone. I think all of us go thru it. Im a ftm and my life has changed so much. I to love my daughter so much..... I just keep telling myself, many people have done this and got thru it and so can I. Its a biiiig change but she's worth all of it.

[Lesley27]

It really is a crazy roller coaster of emotions and its tough to deal with... it does get easier and your hormones will calm down... i suggest sleeping in your room tho, your Bf will get used to baby in no time at all and will not even know baby was ever up in the night lol guys are good at that! with my first i would take her into her room to feed and change then go back in my room where her basinette is and we would sleep in there, this round i have a really faint night light that i use(turn it on only when baby is awake) and i have a little flashlight that i hold in my mouth to aim at her bum when changing diapers... i do have a lamp if i need even more light that i put a blanket over to soften the light so its not quite so bright but seriously the flashlight is really useful! i cant take her into the baby room this round cause my 2 year old sleeps in there so i could go in the living room but its nice to just stay in the room... i have a nice little set up beside me with diiapers, vaseline, recieving blankets, water, gripe water, extra sleeper just incase and my nursing pillow :) and im set!

And i just want to add that your daughter is 4 days old! your doing great and this IS completely normal!!! i was a mess last time after bringing my daughter home... i just finished school to be an LPN and we did clinical on post partum... im supposed to be able to teach new moms everythign and i felt so clueless and paranoid and scared that i might do something wrong, or that what if i was already doing something wrong?! and deep down if i could have taken a step back to think logically i would have known i was doing a good job but im certain that logic goes away temporarily after baby is born.... you and your BF may or may not have to adjust to being parents and as awesome as it it to become a mom its pretty awesome to watch your significant other become a dad! for me it wasnt till our daughter was older that my guy started gettin into the parent role and now that shes 2 he has really stepped up!! he isnt into the newborn stage but he is amazing with her now!