Trying for a baby, but he cant come! Help :(

[mlhf]

Hi, me and my partner have been ttc for a while now still with no luck.
Ttc is hard enough for me already because i dont have regular periods every month.. I have only had 3 this year alone.
- end of dec.
- beginning of march
- middle of april
- last days of may/beggining of june
According to automatic dates from this app ovulation would of been between the 2-7 of july.
So we tried, and tried. Every different way we could the day before/on/after and nothing was successful. He just cannot orgasm with me. I know it isnt his fault, and it makes him frustrated because he is trying everything he can but nothing seems to be working! But. Although he didnt ejaculate during orgasm. Im wondering if there is still a possibility it could happen through pre-ejaculation etc, because the past few days i have been feeling very weird. Yesterday when i went to the bathroom. On the first wipe there was discharge but it had a brown tint to it. I thought it would of been the start of my period but there wasnt anything else for the rest of the day. But today it has happened again. Just once, a tinted brown discharge with one wipe. According to the automatic calculations i am 15 days late, but like i say.. Im not regular, so i didnt think anything of it. I dont have any other symptoms no tenderness tiredness etc. Just discharge and a lower back ache. I took a test and said negative, but could it of been a false negative? Also. Please if anyone has had a similar experience with their partner please tell me any tips or things that have worked for you? Its extremely frustrating for us both. No amount of different positions, different ways or things we do seem to be working!:(

[mlhf]

We did try that once and he said never again (currently waiting to test in 2/3+ weeks) but because of all this stress this has caused us my fiancé has now decided to end our relationship. So there is now a slight chance i could be left as a 21 year old single parent! Definitely NOT how we had been planning things to go.

[Mcbrig]

Have you spoken to a doctor about why this might be happening? You seem to blame yourself and that isn't right either but a doctor my be able to make some suggestions. If ejaculation was a problem could you not maybe inseminate yourself after masturbation??

[mlhf]

I understand what you mean about the trying is more demanding, but it hasnt just been since we have been trying. He has always had a problem with being able to ejaculate during sex. He is perfectly fine if he masturbates himself, but when im involved it just doesnt happen. I try and tell him not to worry and not to be stressed out over it but we dont know what else to try. We have been actively trying this year. Although its something i want, and i am more than ready for, i am laid back about it. I dont put any pressure on him whatsoever. But it does take its toll. Emotionally its hard for us both. We are just a little lost with what else we can try.

[AnnieBrooke]

It's not a big surprise he's not turned on, nothing is less stimulating and more productive of anxiety than having to produce because it is a certain calendar date.  I remember those sex-on-demand dates with my husband as the grimmest sex ever.  

If you didn't get pregnant in July, the next thing to do is see the doc and find out why your periods are AWOL.  In the meantime, tell your husband to relax, and just casually ask for sex every now and then (he doesn't have to know that in your heart you are still trying).  You don't really know when you might ovulate (an app sure doesn't know, if you've only had three periods this year), so just casually ask for some sex every three or four days.  That will cover the bases, due to the long life of sperm in a woman's reproductive tract, and if you don't tell him it's all about trying for a baby, it will be lots easier for him to perform.