trying to have a baby

[qbslim]

hey im 18 and ive been trying to have a baby for about a year now
and i havent got any good news. ive been folloming my cycle and
my fertile days. its starting to get very upseting. is there any one who
had the same problem then after a while finally concived. if so can you tell
me what you did and how long it took. thank you.

[Lucey12]

Im not saying you are too young. Im changing my mind a bit here. Im only 20. Just gont married a month and a bit ago. I want kids really bad. My incentive to have kids now is that my husband is going over seas and we both wanted to have kids before he left so I wouldnt be so lonely. We realized thats not a good reason to have a kid. We arent ready and Im especially not ready to have a youngen while he is gone. I thought it was a good idea at the time but unforeseen circumstances caused me to have to wait. Im glad I did. Living on my own and having payments is alot of work. Even knowing we have been on our own in this house for 7 months, things still arent really stable. We are having more payments, trying to get by on one salary and dont know how what the next year will bring. I think after a year on our own, we will get a good idea of who the next year will go. Get your routine and life going first!

And 18 is not a baby making prime age. Sorry, no!

Teko your so funny, "done went and got her self pregnant!" Bahaha

I have to say, hubby doesnt clean out the bath, but he has started to wipe off the part under the seat of the toilet when he dribbles on it! haha

And for all of you who hate hair down there, seriously, brazillians only sound horrible. ITs really not bad. I was talking to the lady the whole time she was doing it. It was fast  (about 20 minutes start to finish) and its so smooth for about a week. I really want another one. And dont be nervous, they have seen all sorts of stuff.

Nice choice of words Teko, "hairy mood" Bahaha.
Congrats on the no nicotine! Thats awesome. I wish my mom would quite smoking.

[mami1323]

I'm sorry but 18 is not the prime age to get pregnant.  Although your body is saying yes, being financially stable and emotional ready is another.  A woman's body is ready to get pregnant at 13-14, does that mean that she should get pregnant at that age?  All people are saying is enjoy your life, get prepared because a baby changes everything.  It's not all sunshine and roses.  It's hard work and when you aren't ready for the stress a baby can add to a relationship than you are in for a real surprise.  Should she not focus on getting married and enjoying her alone time with her husband for awhile.  Go on vacations, finish her nursing schooling.  Do you really think that she will be able to finish school while taking care of a newborn?  All the studying it takes to finish and on-hands training it takes.  You can't exactly do that when you have to wake up every 2 hours to feed a baby.  What about the costs of daycare?  Who will watch her baby while she finishes school.  Do you know how expensive daycare is?  It's not about mothering her it's about giving life experience and knowledge.  But heck, I guess that's not what this site is about.  We aren't doctors so the only advice we can give is personal experience right?

[teko]

I am 3 weeks and one day off nicotine! I am in one hairy mood!!!!

[teko]

It sounds like you have never had a child or raised one, otherwise you would realize how stupid your remarks are. The mom advice might be the only thing keeping this girl from ruining her and her childrens life. My mother was 13 when she got married and had 10 children and was married 55 years before she died.  Question? How many 13 year olds do you know today that could or even would do this? Ya wanna give some more judgement my way, lets hear it lady. So dont go throwing around words like judgemental unless ya apply it to yourself first. HMMP!

[heatherlynn22]

the worst is when they leave their hair everywhere RIGHT after you clean! dh does that ALL the time and it drives me nuts!

[91004]

I don't think that is it at all. I think it is because we have been there done that and it *****. We are trying to help her wether it seems that way or not. I was 22 when I got married and pregnant. We bought a house, I started school I thought life was perfect and then my hubbie decided we couldn't afford the bills. Our lights got turned off, he went to drugs and I was left with a 600 dollar mortgage and a 3 mnth old and 100 dollar a week daycare, I had a decent job back then but I only made 8 dollars an hour. You do the math. I was broke. My uncle paid my daycare because my so called hubbie that said we would have it all was nowhere to be found. I had to sale my new house, brand new just built and move to a 30 yr old trailor for 350 a month. I am now a single mother I did manage to make it thru school and finish what I started which was nursing. I graduated 2 yrs ago and still haven't got a job doing what I went to school for. They all want experience one to two yrs. experience. It is hard very hard to raise a child if you only make minimum wage. If you have family to bail you out everytime your in trouble then have a baby. No not all stories are like this but in less you come from alot of money and you have some of it. Then plan on struggling. Most people that believe in big families like the above poster said have a plan and most of them the women don't plan on going to school, the men work and the men and their family already have their futures in line.



To the other posters: This has turned into the funniest comments. Totally agree I hate hair, I shave almost everyday and yeah I think your right men just don't care or they can't see the hair all over the tub and floor or sumthin. I know I couldn't handle the waxing, I have never even had my eyebrows waxed. You know the movies of the men screaming bloody murder that would be me.