17 years old,

[ChelleLovesYou]

I've been having troubles being happy, and excited about having a baby boy. Not because I'm having a boy, but because of complications.
I'm not getting a straight answer from anyone, the dr.s just keep saying "We're not exactly sure what's going on, just stay off your feet." I'm only 18 weeks & 5 days!! Has anyone else had this happen?
From the beginning of my pregnancy I've basically been doing this on my own since the father has been so in and out. He was there a few days then gone a week then there n gone a month. Recently he's come back in, and has been - eh doing an okay job. But where he is living is no help, the women(no relation) says I'm going to be a terrible mother & that my baby is going to be put into the state system. :( she is controlling and has a cow every time he calls me or trys to come over.....
My mom offered for him to stay here(which has been on the table since day one) and I am still unsure about it, though I am keeping quiet. He wants to but doesn't want to in case things don't work out cause he'll have "no where to go" but I wouldn't do that and neither would my mom.
I recently got put on full bed rest due to contractions this last weekend! And so far, I hate it. I was working and loved my job and those who I worked with. But now unable to, I worry a lot about money... I don't want others paying for my little man. But what else am I supposed to do..? The father is looking for a job but he refuses to work fast food.. and I just wish he would find something..
I know I need to stop stressing out, but it is so hard. I look into my future and its so foggy. I feel like I'm not going to make it past 36 weeks.. which is scary.. my cervix is short and the placentas right over the cervix.. which is scary.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can relax, not worry so much, be happy, and or keep myself busy while on bed rest? Thanks for anything.

[ChelleLovesYou]

Thank you for the advice. I have tried to apply for assistance, but they won't give it to me until baby is born because I am still under age.. I forgot to mention baby's father has a congenital heart disease and the doctors are afraid that my baby will have the same problem. I've seen the specialist once but he didn't say much besides that he wants me to come back in a few weeks.. I plan on breastfeeding as well to save money, I just hope baby latches on.

[tlynn289]

I'm not sure if its called the same everywhere but you can apply gor cash assistance thru the state and wic. You may even qualify for unemployment some times due to certain circumstances and you have to leave your job they will give it to you. With my first I had the same prob (only eith no man and no support) I had a baby shower anf didn't have to buy anything until my daughter was 6months I also breastfed which saved a lot of money. Talk to your local assistance office they may be able to give you more advice

[kkeyser]

I'm sorry your going through all that.  I've had no experience with short cervix or bed rest,  but I have been 17 and pregnant and scared of the future.  My husband was 16 when I got pregnant,  and wasn't ready so he wasn't always around either. I stressed a lot and was emotionally unhappy while I was pregnant with my first.  Things can get better and easier.  We have now been married 11 years,  my husband joined the army when I got pregnant with our second,  and now I'm pregnant with our 3rd.  Just remember to take deep breaths and keep your chin up.  There's a lot of women who understand how you are feeling and have been there.  Remember that you are not a lone.  

[babyblues2014]

I had my first child when I was 17 and I was depressed and the doctor said my baby wasn't growing. My boyfriend at the time was just evil and I was broke with no job, but I had my mother and church members who helped me. I know it's hard but just try to focus on you and your baby things will get better. I have been married for 6 yrs now and expecting my 3 child, I thank God things happened the way it did. My oldest son father has a lot of regret but it's his lost. Be strong and take it easy

[babyblues2014]

I had my first child when I was 17 and I was depressed and the doctor said my baby wasn't growing. My boyfriend at the time was just evil and I was broke with no job, but I had my mother and church members who helped me. I know it's hard but just try to focus on you and your baby things will get better. I have been married for 6 yrs now and expecting my 3 child, I thank God things happened the way it did. My oldest son father has a lot of regret but it's his lost. Be strong and take it easy

[4Nheaven1here]

You may benefit from a cerclage since your cervix is short at 18 weeks. With the placenta preeva hopefully will migrate up as you grow bigger. I had those same things happening to me with one of my babies but sadly didn't end well. I wish you all the best for you and baby

[slindile]

Try thinking of someone else who might b going through something worse off then u dats when u will forget about wat ure going through even if it's for a little while