24weeks prego heartbroken lost nd confused

[skyler12]

Ive been w my guy six yrs he has proposed 3times we have two kids a four yr old lil boy nd we r expecting our lil grl in oct.he has a history of cheating on me nd i have a history of always forgivin him we r young mid 20s he was 18 whn we got together so i always blamed his age for it but three yrs ago was the first major heart break he cheated nd got a grl prego i forgave him nd im very close w his daughter it was the hardest thng ive ever done was accept the fact anthr woman had his first lil grl well we moved past it nd i became happy again well a couple weeks ago i get a call frm my frnd tellin me she met sum grl that was clamin she has been w my guy for a yr nd a half so i track ths grl down nd she shows me proof of their relationship pictures txt messages phne calls he has keys to her house she has his name tatted she even knw personal stuff about my son she has even interacted w my child,of course he denies ne relationship w her he says he jus used her for mney he says he is done cheating but i dnt believe him ive caught him w several grls nd im tired of cryin im tired of hurting nd im tired of lovin him so much ive lost all my frnds cuz they got tired of cn me hurt ive lost myself nd my self esteam is gone,i want to show my son that the shud never do ths to a grl nd i have to show my daughter she deserves so much bettet thn the crap ive put up w,i need advise on how to let go of hope that the man u love will change,im a christian woman who believes the amount of forgivness u give is the amount u r forgived so plz no negativety jus words of wisdom for a hurt soul

[naryashadow]

Honey there is no reason for you to stay in a relationship like this. He's proven that he will not change, and what is worse he is taking your child around some woman you do not even know. Obviously she does not feel bad at all for what she is doing since she knew about you and your child. Things like that can be dangerous and you may never know what is being put into your sons head. Even the excuse of it just being for money is wrong and I think you know that deep down. You and your babies do not deserve this. Its time to leave before it gets worse, I'm sorry to say it but its the truth. This boy will do nothing but hurt you and ruin your life which will in turn hurt your kids as well. Good luck and be strong. You can do it.

[Jecka_marlene]

Someone better will come in your life becuz yu deserve it don't let him run over yu anymore yu let him know whose boss n leave his cheating *** n take yur two kids n of it leads to it put child support on him he doesn't deserve forgiveness or pity after all he's done. Yu were fine before he came in yur life you'll be okay without him like my dad says the first relationships are kid love you'll find true love

[marajean21]

If she has proof, it's kind of dumb for the guy to completely deny. I doubt she'd dish money out ro him for a year and a half and the never had 'relations'. And your son was involved? I wouldn't take my son around a stranger for a couple extra bucks. I understand forgiveness, there's a lot I've had to let go and just forgive for my own sanity. I've made the mistake of repeatedly going back to someone. Two someones actually. But eventually you learn you just need to move on because you're maturing and they're obviously not. Just because you leave, doesn't mean you're holding grudges or you haven't forgave. You can easily forgive a person and still move on with your life. It just means you've learned they cannot be trusted and you know better than to blindly believe they're going to stop and you'd very much rather not get hurt yet again.
You and those babies deserve better and it's your job(whether he knows the reason or not) to show your son that's not how to treat a lady and if he tried to when he got older, his gf/fiancée/wife would not tolerate it. Your daughter will learn not to let a guy fool her into being used/played and tolerate it because she's worth more. I am in no way saying remind them every day as they grow older what happened, but one day they're going ro be old enough to ask what happened or they'll be going through a similar situation and you'd be able to relate. Just because you leave, doesn't mean you don't love your man, but he needs to grow up and take on responsibility. And you need to put you and your babies first.

[mom2b819]

Now that u are having a baby girl it is important to show her and ur son that they should not treat people that way... plus ur son is old enough to understand that ur sad and depressed.. no one can help u if u dnt wanna be helped.. u have to want to get out for the sake of ur sanity and ur kids...  please get away fron him he is no good!! He committed the ultimate betrayal by having a baby on u and since u let him slife he will probably do it again

[Chatybaby]

I don't think there is anything that should make you stay with a man who obviously has disrespected you so many times. I too have been in positions of forgiving too many times but there comes a time when you have to do what's best for you. If you can live forever knowing you are now being cheated on and will be again in the future then you may choose to live that way but if you cant its best to make the decision sooner than later