Adoption...

[caitlyn17]

I'm having mixed feelings about keeping this baby. The baby daddy isn't really stepping up like I need him to. And I don't have a job and I haven't finished school so I've really been thinking about adoption. I have a good family that can't have children, and have offered to pay off my debt to school so I can finish college if I give them this chance at being parents. I don't know what to do :(

[uhmanduhxconrad92]

Yes god did bless her with the child, but that sometimes don't mean for her to raise...God knows what's going to happen to the child before he creates it....maybe he knew she would bless a family who cant have children with this baby and that's why he blessed her with it? Or maybe she's just scared and thinking of her future and will end up keeping the child...either way what god had planned for this mother and child is going to happen reguardless of what any one wants or thinks. Girl don't let anyone make you feel like your not doing g the right thing. You know what's best for you and your baby weather you choose the struggle like I did or give some one the gift that they would have never received with out you. No matter what you choose you are still an amazing and brave woman and I wish you the best.

[tauruan92]

That is a big decision... And adoption is a better choice than the other that family sounds great but you should take your time and think about it cause once you see you baby or feel movement you may change your mind

[blessedwith2angels]

If you can't care for your child and you feel that adoption is best I would go for it.. But I would think about adoption with family.. You may be able to handle living with the adoption if you don't have to be around the child but can you deal with YOUR family having him or her.. You have to watch them grow up n know that's your child... In the end its your choice and you are not wrong for wanting the baby to have a better life if that's what will happen just think long and hard about it..you will decide what's best for you and the little one..

[Daniellerene]

It's really up to you , but how the other parents sound is as if they are bartering .. (like we give you this for the baby that is growing inside you)
But in the end is your decision to make but also remember that if you decide too keep the baby at last minute you got the other parents hopes up and they prolly spent alot of money on the baby you know .. so i would think about your decision real hard and weigh the pros and cons about it ... which finishing school with a baby is hard BUT it has been done me and my sister fished school .. i had my first son in high school and my sister had her first in high school and he is 2 and she finished collage as well ... I'm going back to college  ( maybe I can't seem to stick to anything that I wanna go for ) BUT just remember you can finish school and have a kid if that's really the only thing you are worried about and about the baby daddy my first son's father never was around so I was a single mother , and I did it with out him ... you don't need the baby daddy but it's nice too always want one to step up and take responsibility but if he don't tell him too kick rocks and be the best parent you can for that little bundle of joy you have ...

[Ezzyway1]

Don't give your baby away if god did not bless them with their own its for a reason keep ur baby and do what u have to don't take the route that looks easy or better ill regret it

[alid32]

Just because you choose adoption didn't make you less strong.  It makes you realistic about what you can offer your baby and what is the best decision for you both right now.  You have time to weigh all your options and that's what you should do.  It can be wonderful to have a baby and you can make do on your own. Lots of people do it. But if that's not what you feel you can handle then there's nothing wrong with considering adoption.  It's a wonderful option. It sounds like a good situation if you want it. No one can decide for you though.  Take your time and know that no matter what it's not a bad decision.  Good luck sweetie:)

[Zoealahna]

Take a lot of time and think about what you want and how you would feel in the long run. After caring the baby for 9 months and then giving him/her to another family is pretty scary. The baby may grow up to resent you. Or they may understand your decision. Just make sure you do things legally because you cannot trust people. I would talk to the baby's father just for his opinion and see if he agrees. I know it's a big responsibility but, there are many given government  programs that can help you raise your child  as a single mom. Many women get pregnant accidentally and still end up being great parents but if you think the child would suffer if they stay with you then consider  other outlets. Just DO your REASEARCH plz! And talk to your family. Goodluck!

[Johnnelle1995]

It is good your thinking of others and not abortion but it is also your family and later when your on your feet and out of school u might feel diffrent and the baby will be in the family yes but how will that also make u feel seeing someone raise your baby i feel your strong to think about a great option like that and i believe those are the mommys who are the strongest to keep there babies! whatever you do i believe your strong enough for

[Crystal0093]

I'm sorry to hear your feeling this way cuz having a baby is such a blessing but I will say I am happy that your choosing adoption over abortion, so many ppl it seems like don't want to give their baby a chance at life and would rather just kill them instead of giving them to a good family. I say do what your heart is telling you, I can imagine this is a real hard decision for you .. I'm here if you need someone to talk to mssg me anytime. Good luck with everything you will get through this and figure out what's best for you and your baby just pray god will help you make the right choice.

[Ftm0107]

It is a huge choice but if they can give your little one everything you could only dream of it may be right. My moms friend was fifteen when she gave her daughter up for adoption the girl is now a senior in college and thanks her everyday for giving her an amazing life that she never would have had.

[baby_ari890]

Baby .idk if wat u believe in but God gave you that baby for a reason  I went through the same thoughts and than I thought wat if that eas my mom and she did the same to me . I can't speak for everyone but do wat ur heart say

[kcanario]

Oh wow. I am sorry to hear this but I am so happy you are considering adoption and not abortion.  Only YOU know what you will be able to handle and if you feel this is right for you and the baby then I say go for it. Its amazing to give another couple a blessing so long as you trust them and feel 100% comfortable.  Good luck to you