what do you think?

[luvmybabes]

I have two young kids. Almost 3 year old and a One Year old. i am thinking of having another baby already. Do you think children beneift from having sibiling close in age. Or do you think it isn't fair to them because I have to spread out my attention? I am going back and forth with this. I did read somewhere that Your siblings have more of an impact on what kind of person you will be more then your parents. Which I think I agree. I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. My mother is an acholic and I never really remember her being a good mother. My dad had problems too just not a sever as hers. My mother still can't even take care of herself. And her 5 children are all happy healthy not into drugs or alchol. We were all there for eachother when things with my mom would go bad.We would come to eachother when we needed advice or help with something. Without them i don't think I would have survived my childhood and I am serious. So in my eyes I had a big family and I would love for my kids to have lots of brothers and sisters. But in my husbands eyes .... He doesn't think we should have that many so that we can focous everything we have on the 2 kids we have. Am I making sense?? I am just asking what you guys think about have lots of kids close in age?

[loismwallace]

I have 4 kids.....14, 12, 2 1/2 and one on the way.......My two oldest are close and I think it was a good thing having them so close in age. Now that they only have 4-8 yrs at home and ofcourse being teenager, the baby I'm having will be a good companion for our 2 1/2 yr old. I know he will be a good big brother to the princess were expecting. Some people  might say that age between kids is better for their upbring. I just don't think that's the case for our family. You know if your ready....I do suggest however, getting one out of diapers before you bring another little one home.

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I think it's great to have them close and after my twins are born I'm sure that after a year or so we will start TTC again.

[luvmybabes]

Oh thank you guys. You have made me feel so much better. I was going back and forth on if my kids would beneift from it. I know anytime you bring  a new baby home it's hard a first and you feel guilty that your other kids are sad or jelous but then things work out once you get a routine. I am hoping that my husband says we can try again this month. I do get worried because My one year old is a "mamma's boy" but 9 months is a long way away and kids grow alot in a year so he might be alright when the time comes for another little one to arrive

[Tasia32]

You are making complete sense. I think it is important to have siblings close in age. I had 3 sisters and 3 brothers. All of us were mostly a year a part until me and my brother came a long (the last two till my younger brother was born) we were 2 years apart. It was wonderful growing up with siblings always had someone to play with. Now my youngest brother was 8 years from my younger brother and he is all alone unless I play with him but now that I am married and not around much as we would both like he doesn't do much kids things.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I totally agree with your point of view on this.  I only have 1 brother who is 4 years younger than I am.  We were close when we were younger but not so much anymore.  I love him as much as a person can love a brother, but we don't live close.  We did for about a year and still didn't see each other anymore than we do now because we were just so busy with our own lives.  I have 5 children.  I had my son when I was 18.  He is now 14.  But I have 4 girls that are all 6 years old and younger.  The love each other so very much.  And it makes me heart just burst just to watch them play.  My gift to them is each other.  There are so many times in my life that I have wished for more siblings or even 1 sister.  Life is hard; even if you have a good home life.  There are so many curves life throws our way and it is nice to have someone there for you.  I don't even have cousins to be close to.  My husband comes from a huge family and his cousins are basically his friends.  I truly wish I had that in my life.  I don't, but I have given that to my kids.  You are making perfect sense.