Semen is wet, and it protects the sperm in it. If he is in fact dry, there is no semen or pre-ejaculatory fluid present. Without some wet substance to keep it alive, sperm will not survive.
If a woman has a lot of lubrication and her vagina is wet, and the man has sperm present in whatever liquid is coming from his penis (either semen or pre-ejaculatory fluid), as long as the sperm can stay swimming in the fluid, there is a possibility of sperm being able to travel from the man to the woman in the bridge created by the fluid.
A lot of things would have to work for a pregnancy to happen this way. There would have to be enough fluid, not dried out, it would have to contain sperm (pre-ejaculate does not contain it unless the guy has just ejaculated), and the liquid the sperm is in would have to be the right temperature (not cold). An important other aspect is that the woman would have to be in the right window in her cycle. You are not fertile every day (though unfortunately you don't always know when you are).
Finally, the biggest problem with what you are doing is not the technical issue of whether sperm can travel on a dry penis. The problem is that if you are in a position where a penis is touching a vagina, and you are not protected by birth control, one of the two of you can lose control and let things go farther than you both intended originally. In other words, if you don't want to get shot in the head, don't play Russian Roulette.
Oh, and about the "through clothes" question -- the clothing adds another layer of difficulty to the getting-pregnant scenario, but if you were to, say, have a lot of lubrication and sperm were to reach it, tights and underpants would not present an absolute barrier. (They don't make condoms out of cloth for a reason.) Again, it's not like it would be *easy* to get pregnant that way, but it probably is not impossible.
So with what I told you though, i seem pretty safe? I dry skin to skin contact was literally for a couple of seconds, he was dry, and not near the opening at all....do i seem safe?
But when we was touching down there it was with his hands, and i wasn't even very wet. Plus he had *** on his hand, but wiped it off, which further reduces the risk, correct? AND i had the two layers of clothes on. There wasn't really a "moist" place for the sperm to live, correct? and what ever was on his hand was wiped off and dried. so do i seem safe?
i wasn't on a not fertile day when this happened, i have been tracking my fertile days and ovulating day, that makes it even less risky right?
Correct.
But please remember, like annieBrooke mentioned, if you dont intend to fall pregnant, please use some precaution.
All of you, thank you so much. So lets sum it up one last time, I should be okay? All of the things i asked if correct were correct, and theres barley a chance?
Again thank you, I feel very reassured.