just to get things of my chest

[newmom2012]

OK so 2011 my relationship hit 8 years my boyfriend said lets get married. Of course I said yes. So I wanted the baby too he said he was ready for anything with me:-) I'm the type of person that has everyone's at my house. I just love kids. I will be 5m tomorrow and I'm so sacred lmao. This kid I can't give back LOL. I excited but scared. I take care of my disabled brother and I wonder how is he going to act when he is not the center of my world he is 35 and I'm 26. But he sees me as his lmao. I guess it will all come to me when the time comes ;-)

[MamaBear0612]

Just make it an exciting thing for him, include him as much as you can so it can be real to him and he feels like a part of the process. My baby brother kicked me out of the baby spot when I was 10, it could have been a crisis but my parents made it fun. They even got us presents to open when the baby came, and my older brother and I were some of the first people to ever hold him. He felt like ours and we never resented him...not until he got old enough to become a smart alec lol. :)

[2012mommyV]

You sound like such a wonderful person! I hope your brother takes it well and doesn't get too jealous lol I'm sure you are gonna be a great mommy ^.^

[newmom2012]

@cnhauk really good idea I will try that out.

[cnhauk]

Talk to him about it. Maybe introduce a baby doll to him to practice with and see how he does 'taking care of' the baby doll. Make sure he still feels involved. It's like bringing a new baby into a family with other kids. They've got to feel included and still important.

[newmom2012]

I hope so he is downsyndrome so he as the mind of a 9 year old. I'm hoping he tries to take care of the baby like he does with his puppy. I got him a puppy a few months ago and he loves it.

[MsKitty84]

Well, getting married and having a child is a perfectly normal step for a couple to take after 8 years together! Your brother should have seen this coming a long time ago. He's 35, so hopefully he'll be mature enough to respond in an understanding and supportive way.