Ear piercing your infant daughter.

[cminamyer]

Would you get your daughters ears pierced when she is an infant?

[bimbicat7]

i wouldnt do it, i think they need to be old enough to decide for themselves i also think that piercing their ears is all for the adults benefit, why put them threw the pain? id never do this, if when they get older say 12-14 and they really want it dont then thats different.

[jenkaye21]

i am dropping this now, but i have to wonder who threw the word "skanky" in here.  sure wasn't what *I said!

[cminamyer]

WOW!  I really didn't think this would get so many posts.  Bottom line, everything Griggsy wrote I agree with!

It's kinda funny though, I've posted questions on here about serious issues.  And I get maybe one or two responses, but I ask what other people think about ear peircings and I get over 70 posts.  Wow

[Whitneylauren]

I agree with kirby26- I voted no as I do not prefer them on little girls. However I don' t have have any feelings about little girls that have them pierced, just that my preference is that mine don't. Does that make sense?

[ashiepooh]

LMAO I wonder if they make fish nets,  for little babies ahaha cause that would be kind of funny!  

But Avanaar you totally just described a 13 or 14 year old girl I saw walking down the street today ahaha!

[Avanaar]

Now, if you dressed your baby girl in fish nets, a mini skirt, and overdid her eyeshadow, then you might have a right to say she's skanky.  But even that on a little baby girl would have some cuteness ... babies are just too stinkin' cute to be labeled as skanks, no matter how their dressed.  =D  

[kirby26]

I agree with the skanky part being out of line.. bc as ashiepooh said "babies cant dress skanky" haha. My opinion is just that i dont like the way they look on babies..and i feel like they look older than they really are. I would want to wait until she can make the decision herself.

[ashiepooh]

Haha I already voted and what not, and left a comment, but I honestly have no problem with people piercing babies ears, it's just something I want to hear my kids tell me.  And I in no way dress my girls in pink!  I hate the color!  Hahaha!  So I just wanted to state that.  But as I re read this everyday I keep thinking about the circumsition thing, and my god.  I don't know why people have to get all bent out of shape over everything!

Oh but off subject and back to the pink thing, I let my kids honestly pick our their clothes at the store, and my evil MIL only buys my daughter pink, "Because i'm a bad mother who wont let her wear it" ahaha BUT i've told her to even ask her son, my husband, and my daughter doesn't even really care for pink herself.  She has two things that are pink that she will wear, and throws every other pink thing in the garbage, I'm not even kidding.  

Anywho, like someone else mentioned, it's a choice every mother can make, same with the circumsition.  Personal choices shouldn't affect everything to be thrown in a bad mood over something!  But that skanky remark way up there, was really uncalled for.  It's a baby, babies can't dress skanky.  =)

[AnitaRFrith]

I voted no because Its against my religion.  I'm a Apostolic Pentecostal.  We don't wear jewlry, make up, or pants/short/Capri.  ( We wear skirts/dresses.)  I was not raised that way though.  My mom had my ears pierced what I was about 3.  Anita

[Griggsy]

The medical issues are pretty much brainers. . . you know my kid has chicken pox, or a fever, or was diagnosed with this can someone relate or help. . . , but when it comes down to the stuff that doesn't matter like getting your ears pierced, or whether or not you should bath them as new borns or just do a sponge bath, people get really opinionated, and sometimes down right nasty towards those that do not share the same opinion.

I respect someone with a different opinion than myself as long as it is presented in a nice, friendly way, and as long as they are okay with me disagreeing. The best thing we can teach our children is that being civil towards each other goes a long way in the world.

[chantal21]

I totally agree ladies...we need to be more kind and loving on here because I can't imagine we would talk to eachother like this or put eachother down over silly things face to face. I have been attacked and put down for things I believe are right, and it doesn't make me a bad person or a bad mother. I don't think any of you on here are bad mothers or horrible people for piercing your baby's ears (or anything for that matter) even though I don't completely agree with it. Everyone does everything in a different way and I think we should just learn to be respectful and keep nasty comments to ourselves. =) I think you ladies are very helpful on here and that's why I keep coming back for advice. I've been here almost 3 years and I am learning a lot! =)

[ArmyWife208]

I have had pleanty (not the majority) but many people honestly yell nasty things to the moms who have had their babies ears pierced and to me (the person doing the peircing.)

Will I pierce my daughter as a baby? No.
And I can't say that I enjoy piercing babies (or causing any kind of pain to any age) No.

But seriously... be nice people! So many people just get invloved and it's not even worth it. Why be a ****starter? Oooooh! It's my biggest pet-peeve!

This was a good topic though, I can relate to it even though I don't have a child yet. I like checking this page out... It is helping the time pass until I get to take a pregnancy test... I am so nervous!!!

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I totally agree w/ you both!  

I actually got in a semi argument the other day on another forum over this same thing.  It wasn't even about the original post.  I just stated that we should all respect each other's DIFFERENT opinions and be nice about it.  No reason to put anyone down just because they are not like you.....

[nsrchofbaby]

LOL...that last comment was cute. Glad people have come to a concensus on the issue, not regarding the earrings, but that everyone's opinion should be respected. :)

[Avanaar]

Pretty much ... if the child is healthy and not forever harmed by it, let the parents do it.  If you don't agree with their opinions and the way they parent, state your opinion in a kind, matter-of-fact way, then get on with parenting your children the way you want.  Again, I will state that there is no right or wrong (unless you're doing physical/emotional harm to your child) of parenting or making decisions about your child.

More power to the earring'd princesses of the world!  *dangles her pretty earrings and prances about*

[Griggsy]

No gloves type brawl. We would all be walking away with huge chunks of hair missing, and blood everywhere.  It is a personal choice: Raise your kids the way you feel is right, but don't belittle someone for not doing, what you would do.

[GRose]

I guess I didn't stick around long enough for the circumcision post, I can't believe THAT got ugly. Although, I cant believe this got to where it did either.

[Avanaar]

As I was reading this post and typing my response, I couldn't help but think of the circumcision post from the other day.  And my biggest thought was: "It's all about personal choice.  None of us are right or wrong in our decisions or our opinions."  Ear piercing is just another one of "those" discussions.

[GRose]

Griggsy- I think a HUGE brawl would break out if we all met in person lmao.

[Griggsy]

I honestly wonder sometimes if any of us met in person if we would actually like each other.

You are standing behind a woman with an infant and you look because we all do, and you see that her ears are pierced. Would you really say out loud to the mother how skanky she looks, or how age inappropriate it is, or would you physically grimance and pull back with a terrified look on your face. I seriously doubt it. However I do believe you would recall the situation over the phone or to your shopping buddy.

It's like the conversation a few days ago about circumcision. My goodness it's all a personal choice, but you don't have the option of being disgusted when it comes to that. . . not unless you were doing something illegal.

Just because parents do or raise their children in a different manner than you do doesn't make them bad parents, it just makes them different.  There are a million pros and cons on both sides, but be civil about it. My word you act like we are talking about tattooing a 2 month old.

[Avanaar]

After reading mommom's comment, I forgot to mention that I would think it would be easier to clean their ears yourself when they're younger instead of worrying about letting them take care of their ears.  How many 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, etc year olds do you know who are diligent about hygiene?  I'm sure you'd be constantly reminding them to clean their ears ... or end up doing it yourself anyway.  Personally, I'd much rather do it myself and know it's been done right.

[mommom2]

I said no, I would leave the decision up to her when she is old enough to take care of them herself and I myself hate to see infants with their ears pierced, I kind of grimace every time I see it.

[Avanaar]

I believe I was 6 months old when my mother had mine done, and I'm glad for it.  I may have asked when I was older to have them done, but I probably would have ended up like Joy and chickened out!  =D

When I have a girl, I would like to get her ears pierced around the same time I had mine done when I was a baby.  I agree with what GRose said about buying your little girl pink dresses to look cute ... they don't have a choice to wear that pink dress, but you put it on them anyway.  When they're older, if they don't like wearing pink dresses, they can take them off.  Just like earrings.  If they don't like them when they're older, they can take them out and the holes will close up.  No worse for wear.  

Getting your daughter's ears pierced early on is a personal choice.  Whatever you decide will not be right or wrong ... it just is.  

[GRose]

This is so funny to me. Of course we want our babies to look cute. Do you buy pretty pink dresses and cute hair ribbons because your infant asked for them??? NO. You buy them because YOU want your baby to look cute, it is basically the same thing as ear piercing, you do it because you want your little girl to look cute and their is nothing wrong with that. I think it pretty silly to say that earrings in infants is age-inappropriate, it isn't like we are talking about make-up on a baby, it is a cute little stud.
I could care less that some people don't want to pierce their daughters ears but don't say it is inappropriate.