just need 2 vent

[whatstheodds]

I'm sorry I just need 2 vent. I'm so tired of my bf mom always trying 2 throw her 2 cents in our relationship. This woman never comes around unless she wants something none of his family does. I picked a name 4 r first son and she decided she didn't like it so 4 him I agreed 2 change it. Well now that we r having r 2nd son together I picked Nicholas john well he decides he like the name Gabriel so I said ok long as we keep the john part cause its my dads name. Well now he is like my mom wants us 2 name him Austin! I mean really... who cares. Maybe they should have a baby together then they can name it what they want. I'm sorry I just can't stand this woman and it would take me all day 2 type all the things she has done and said towards me. I just wish she would mind her own business. Its not like she is even ever around. R other son we have together cries when he sees her cause he has no idea who she is, that's how much she comes over and she never invites us over cause between me and my bf this will b number 6 and she can't handle that many kids at her house. My bf is such a mommas boy and I don't understand how u can b that close 2 someone who only uses u. Sorry I just needed 2them let this out

[brandiw13]

:( I'm so sorry she has to be that way and that your bf can't stand up to her. My MIL is very absent in my kids lives, which I could honestly care less. She's very disconnected with my hubby (she's too interested in her retirement and my husbands sister to care about anyone else) and has only seen our twins once, yet feels the need to often put her two cents in on how to raise them. I ignore her. They're my kids and coming from someone who has seen them in person once, she doesn't know them at all. I've had many long talks with the hubby and he agrees with me to just all but cut her off.

Just stay strong and maybe your boyfriend will one day tell her to back off!

[kfrasher]

Wow..she sounds really bad..:-( see, my mom in law is just plain nosey, she has to know what we  are doing every minute of every day..she calls constantly!! And she is obsessed with food( she very overweight) and wants to know what I made for breakfast, lunch ,dinner..and will then tell me how she would've made it better!! She's not spiteful with me, just a know it all and constantly tells me how to do things better, which means HER way!! I hope you can have a good talk with your bf and try to work it our hun...I put up with my mom in law for only so long b4 I had to have a good talk with the hubby abt her..she stills bugs us but she isn't overly involved anymore!! Be strong hun!!

[whatstheodds]

Its awful cause my bf was married b4 we got together and she had passed away and his mom and wife were very close I guess. She is always trying 2 compare me 2 her. She even gave me some of her clothes and told me that his wife who passed away had much better taste in clothes. I mean who does that. She lives right around the corner from us and the only time she comes over is 2 give her dirty clothes 2 my bf 2was wash 4 her and she will call at like 9 at night and tell my bf 2 drive and get her something 2 eat. It drives me insane. I went into premature labor last weekend I was bleeding and had 2 get a shot 2 stop my contractions she wouldn't even come sit with r other kids I had 2 call my aunt who always keeps r kids 2 come. But she thinks she has a say in everything. I'm laid off till after I have the baby my bf got a job that is 20 min away it didn't pay much but when u need the money why b picky she talked him into quiting telling him its not worth it he could find something else that was a month ago and he still has no job. Y'all pray 4 me that I don't have 2 deliver this baby in jail lol

[Stacey91]

Name him nicholas john!! Its your son .. They r just taking advantage of ur niceness screw them!

[RippedonScotch]

My brother-in-law didn't tell his wife that he changed the name that they picked out together.   Just put a new one on the birth certificate and showed it to her on their copy.  She had no idea until after it was all done.    

[greatexpectations_4_2012]

Lol, I can totally relate. My MIL can be so nice sometimes but most of the time she needs to feel like she is in control. For a long time my DF gave in to her over everything. It really drove me crazy because she would do the most spiteful things to me. Finally I just couldn't handle it. I told him he could either be a man or the child she wanted him to be. One way or another I was going to be happy... With or without him. The problem doesn't lie with the MIL's, it lies in the men who let it happen.

It is you who carries this baby and you who will fill out this birth certificate. I would say.... "Look, you can either pick Gabriel or Austin. John is staying. I deserve to be able to name my child. Sorry if your mom doesn't like it. I am not having this baby with her. I am having this baby with you. A full grown man not a toddler." I would stick to it. When it come to filling out the birth certificate, that is how it would be.

[RippedonScotch]

I'm so glad I get along with my mother-in-law. I know that my friend was having an issue like that but now they don't speak at all and it's getting worse.    Good luck with your situation

[kfrasher]

I've had issues with my mom in law sticking her nose in too!! She has lots of comments/recommendations on names when preggers with my first three daughters..well this time around I flat out told her I WASN'T telling her the name I liked bc I didn't want to hear her comments!! Lol..;-) she was upset @ first but has realized I'm serious!!! You need to be strong and stand up for yourself!!! And talk to your bf abt how he needs to be strong with you, not such a mommas boy..I had issues with that too when first married..!! My husband is much better now abt that!!!

[parkersmommy]

Tell him no. You named the first one what he and his mother wanted and now you are naming this one something john. Tell him if you can come up with a compromise that would be lovely but that if his mother would like to name a baby she should go ahead and have one lol. Don't let her make this miserable for you