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OT - VERY OT - Am I just being hormonal and over reacting?
So, I left this weekend to go up north for my first baby shower. Besides the actual party, everything was a total disaster. I hired someone to watch my dogs while I was gone. It was a teenage boy of a friend. I had him come over in advance, told him the rules, and wrote them all down.
Well, the problems started before I left. On Thursday Toby (the teenager) was supposed to come over and check on the dogs around 4-7 in the evening. I left to go to the store at 11 and when I returned at 12, his mom was there eating a frozen meatloaf meal I bought for her son during his stay.
Then, she text me on my trip saying the dogs pooped on the floor, but most of it was on the puppy pad and only a little got on the carpet. I told her the dogs should not be on carpet, except at night time when Toby is sleeping. She said the dogs must have opened the bathroom door and got on the bedroom carpet. Whatever.
Well, I get home yesterday and notice that the laundry soap is out of place. I go to move it and the bottle is nearly empty. It was a brand new bottle when I left. I can't imagine what my electric bill is gonna look like.
Then I walk inside to notice that the door I specifically said to KEEP CLOSED is wide open. I go in there to look for the cat and when I lift up the pull out bed, there is cat vomit all over the brand new white carpet. I rent my home and this is NOT good. So I clean up the stain and try to move on.
I go into my bedroom and the smell is overwhelming. I look around and the new tan carpet in my bedroom has 11 bright yellow urine stains on it. They are all dry and there is no hope of removing the smell now. And one of the stains is nearly 7 inches wide. My dogs are not 7 inches wide - it must have been her dog that peed on my floor. Awesome.
Then, yes, it gets better, we notice the switch that is labeled "Do NOT Touch" has been flipped, and apparently a lot of times because the surround sound system is fried and now the tv doesnt work. I go into the bathroom where the dogs should have been kept and there is black hair dye all over my white counters, back splash, yellow walls, and toilet.
But there is more...the dogs were supposed to be watched for 1 evening, 2 days and 1 morning. I don't know how that equals 12-17 meals being eaten from my home, but whatever. All the quarters and dimes are missing from the change jar too. I get up this morning and there are a ton of urine stains on the patio outside too. Were my dogs ever let out?
Am I getting too upset about all of this? She keeps calling me and texting me about how was my trip (it was horrible) and how are the dogs, and now she says Toby wants to know if he did a good job - it was his first job. Um, her son is in school and shouldn't be out for another hour or two.
I'm pretty sure that she was taking care of my dogs and feeding her family while she was there doing all of her laundry. And that reminds me - her hubby works in concrete and it ruins their washer all the time. I bet hers was broke and that's why she was using mine. I hope my washer and dryer isn't trashed too...I haven't tried to use it yet.
I don't want to talk to her or see her. If she didn't have my house key, I would just drop off the money in her mailbox and run. At this point, I might just do that and change the locks. I don't know what to do about the situation. I feel like I shouldn't pay Toby what I was going to pay. Instead, pay him what's left over after renting a steam cleaner (which will only remove surface stains, and not the urine that has soaked and dried into the padding).
I don't want to talk to her about what happened because I don't think it's Toby's fault and I don't want to get him in trouble. Plus, I think she is just going to make up a ton of excuses and it's not going to help anything. I don't see how either of us will benefit from me talking to her about it.
What would you do? How much should I pay her/her son? There is evidence of someone being there and the dogs did sleep in bed with someone. It's not like nothing was done...it just wasn't done well and there is a ton of damage done to the house that I rent. I take very good care of my home and went to extra lengths to make sure the house was in prisitine condition before I left. Now my home looks like no one has taken care of it for a month. It's disgusting. I will have to replace the carpet before Ava is born because she can NOT be exposed to nasty urine and feces like that.
Sorry this is so long and not in the appropriate forum, but I'm just so mad and need advice on what to do.
Well, the problems started before I left. On Thursday Toby (the teenager) was supposed to come over and check on the dogs around 4-7 in the evening. I left to go to the store at 11 and when I returned at 12, his mom was there eating a frozen meatloaf meal I bought for her son during his stay.
Then, she text me on my trip saying the dogs pooped on the floor, but most of it was on the puppy pad and only a little got on the carpet. I told her the dogs should not be on carpet, except at night time when Toby is sleeping. She said the dogs must have opened the bathroom door and got on the bedroom carpet. Whatever.
Well, I get home yesterday and notice that the laundry soap is out of place. I go to move it and the bottle is nearly empty. It was a brand new bottle when I left. I can't imagine what my electric bill is gonna look like.
Then I walk inside to notice that the door I specifically said to KEEP CLOSED is wide open. I go in there to look for the cat and when I lift up the pull out bed, there is cat vomit all over the brand new white carpet. I rent my home and this is NOT good. So I clean up the stain and try to move on.
I go into my bedroom and the smell is overwhelming. I look around and the new tan carpet in my bedroom has 11 bright yellow urine stains on it. They are all dry and there is no hope of removing the smell now. And one of the stains is nearly 7 inches wide. My dogs are not 7 inches wide - it must have been her dog that peed on my floor. Awesome.
Then, yes, it gets better, we notice the switch that is labeled "Do NOT Touch" has been flipped, and apparently a lot of times because the surround sound system is fried and now the tv doesnt work. I go into the bathroom where the dogs should have been kept and there is black hair dye all over my white counters, back splash, yellow walls, and toilet.
But there is more...the dogs were supposed to be watched for 1 evening, 2 days and 1 morning. I don't know how that equals 12-17 meals being eaten from my home, but whatever. All the quarters and dimes are missing from the change jar too. I get up this morning and there are a ton of urine stains on the patio outside too. Were my dogs ever let out?
Am I getting too upset about all of this? She keeps calling me and texting me about how was my trip (it was horrible) and how are the dogs, and now she says Toby wants to know if he did a good job - it was his first job. Um, her son is in school and shouldn't be out for another hour or two.
I'm pretty sure that she was taking care of my dogs and feeding her family while she was there doing all of her laundry. And that reminds me - her hubby works in concrete and it ruins their washer all the time. I bet hers was broke and that's why she was using mine. I hope my washer and dryer isn't trashed too...I haven't tried to use it yet.
I don't want to talk to her or see her. If she didn't have my house key, I would just drop off the money in her mailbox and run. At this point, I might just do that and change the locks. I don't know what to do about the situation. I feel like I shouldn't pay Toby what I was going to pay. Instead, pay him what's left over after renting a steam cleaner (which will only remove surface stains, and not the urine that has soaked and dried into the padding).
I don't want to talk to her about what happened because I don't think it's Toby's fault and I don't want to get him in trouble. Plus, I think she is just going to make up a ton of excuses and it's not going to help anything. I don't see how either of us will benefit from me talking to her about it.
What would you do? How much should I pay her/her son? There is evidence of someone being there and the dogs did sleep in bed with someone. It's not like nothing was done...it just wasn't done well and there is a ton of damage done to the house that I rent. I take very good care of my home and went to extra lengths to make sure the house was in prisitine condition before I left. Now my home looks like no one has taken care of it for a month. It's disgusting. I will have to replace the carpet before Ava is born because she can NOT be exposed to nasty urine and feces like that.
Sorry this is so long and not in the appropriate forum, but I'm just so mad and need advice on what to do.
Well, I didn't want to live unsanitarily so I tried to remove the stains last night with high concentrate carpet cleaner and the floors were still damp this morning, so I am not entirely sure if they came up or not. But I don't think taking pictures is going to help. I'm not going to press charges or anything. I did let them into my house, in fact I invited them. And nothing they did is against the law. It's just against good manners and hygene.
I guess I just feel like she should have said something. When she came over at noon to eat the meatloaf, she should have said "Oh, I thought you were gone this morning so I came to check on the dogs while Toby was at school and I got hungry, so I made some food." Instead, she just said "Oh, I though you were gone already. When is your husband coming home?"
And if my dogs were peeing all over the place, why didn't she call me and ask if something was wrong that was causing them to pee all over? Or leave a note that said "sorry, but your dogs had quite a few accidents on the carpet...hope we were able to clean them up well enough." Don't just ignore the problem. I think she took advantage of me and it's a hard lesson learned. I won't be asking her or her son to enter my home again. That is for sure! I doubt I will ever talk to her again either. I don't want to harbor anger, but I don't see any benefit from talking to her about it or making a police report (if I could even do that).
I guess I just feel like she should have said something. When she came over at noon to eat the meatloaf, she should have said "Oh, I thought you were gone this morning so I came to check on the dogs while Toby was at school and I got hungry, so I made some food." Instead, she just said "Oh, I though you were gone already. When is your husband coming home?"
And if my dogs were peeing all over the place, why didn't she call me and ask if something was wrong that was causing them to pee all over? Or leave a note that said "sorry, but your dogs had quite a few accidents on the carpet...hope we were able to clean them up well enough." Don't just ignore the problem. I think she took advantage of me and it's a hard lesson learned. I won't be asking her or her son to enter my home again. That is for sure! I doubt I will ever talk to her again either. I don't want to harbor anger, but I don't see any benefit from talking to her about it or making a police report (if I could even do that).
Well, I don't think that the teenager actually watched the dogs. I've had this girl Erin clean my home before and we noticed all the quarters were missing from our change bucket, but thought well maybe we used the quarters and didn't remember. This just seems to familiar.
Another reason I don't think that Toby watched the dogs is because he was supposed to come over in the evening on Thursday (between 4 and 7 specifically) but instead I walked in and caught her eating the expensive frozen meals I bought for her son (she specifically requested them for him after I asked what he wanted to eat during the weekend).
Also, she didn't walk through the house to learn the rules, only Toby did. And there were not that many rules (keep dogs off carpet, put cat food up when dogs are out, don't flip the switch and stay out of these two rooms). All the simple rules were broken.
And she did at least 20 loads of laundry while she was there. I don't see a teenage boy doing that much laundry over a weekend.
Finally, you can tell by the size that some of the pet urine stains are from her dog. She brought her dog over to my house (after I told her that my dogs do not get along with her dog and to not bring him) and I don't think she would leave her son with 4 dogs to take care of, especialyl knowing that my dogs might start to fight with her dog.
I could care less about the food, spare change, and laundry soap missing. But I do care about the pet stains and the electric bill I am about to face next month.
She is now texting me about when I am going to pay Toby. Ugh, I just want to avoid this. I told her several times that I would pay Toby the day after I returned. I told her yesterday that I would be by to pay Toby today. I've told her in the past what I have paid for this service, so she will know something is up when she is not paid that much.
My husband and I are convinced that she is bugging us so much about this because she took care of the dogs and is going to keep the money. My husband said that he does want to talk to Toby alone and ask who took care of the dogs. He is going to pay them like $25 (what would be left over from steam cleaning, $60-35), get the key, and just let it be. I told hubby that I didn't care what he said or did, just be civil, pay them and we are not talking to them again or being friends. We were not that close before and it's no skin off my back to lose her as a friend. But I don't want to cause animosity between us. I am glad hubby is going to take care of it so I can avoid them...
Another reason I don't think that Toby watched the dogs is because he was supposed to come over in the evening on Thursday (between 4 and 7 specifically) but instead I walked in and caught her eating the expensive frozen meals I bought for her son (she specifically requested them for him after I asked what he wanted to eat during the weekend).
Also, she didn't walk through the house to learn the rules, only Toby did. And there were not that many rules (keep dogs off carpet, put cat food up when dogs are out, don't flip the switch and stay out of these two rooms). All the simple rules were broken.
And she did at least 20 loads of laundry while she was there. I don't see a teenage boy doing that much laundry over a weekend.
Finally, you can tell by the size that some of the pet urine stains are from her dog. She brought her dog over to my house (after I told her that my dogs do not get along with her dog and to not bring him) and I don't think she would leave her son with 4 dogs to take care of, especialyl knowing that my dogs might start to fight with her dog.
I could care less about the food, spare change, and laundry soap missing. But I do care about the pet stains and the electric bill I am about to face next month.
She is now texting me about when I am going to pay Toby. Ugh, I just want to avoid this. I told her several times that I would pay Toby the day after I returned. I told her yesterday that I would be by to pay Toby today. I've told her in the past what I have paid for this service, so she will know something is up when she is not paid that much.
My husband and I are convinced that she is bugging us so much about this because she took care of the dogs and is going to keep the money. My husband said that he does want to talk to Toby alone and ask who took care of the dogs. He is going to pay them like $25 (what would be left over from steam cleaning, $60-35), get the key, and just let it be. I told hubby that I didn't care what he said or did, just be civil, pay them and we are not talking to them again or being friends. We were not that close before and it's no skin off my back to lose her as a friend. But I don't want to cause animosity between us. I am glad hubby is going to take care of it so I can avoid them...
Oh my that is terriable!!! I dont know what I would do to be honest, but I am so sorry... That should have not been done and I would for sure wait and pay him after you get a steam cleaning and pay whats left if there is any. I know stnaley steemer can get most if not all the stain and smell out but you shouldnt have to spend that money on top of paying someone to ruin your home.... I would talk to the teenager and find out what really went down and make sure to take pictures of all the damage!
Unfortunatelly I have been in your shoes since I have many pets. Everytime we go out of town I have to pay someone to come and take care of them. I used to pay someone to stay there but ran into problems like you had with laundry soap, stained carpet, messes, food and money just missing, etc. I have since then found someone much older (elderly lady) that can come 4 times a day to let my dogs out and back in. It is a nightmare to have to leave like this and I totally understand but as far as paying the kid you need to have him over, set him down and discuss what went on. HE may deny it all, my person did, but you need to let him know that you know and aren't dumb. Let him explain himself and then talk to him about the $ part. Did you discuss an amount before you left? As for the mother, tell her you would like to talk to him about things after school.
oh my gosh. I would REFUSE to pay the full amount i owe. THATS BS.
They basically messed up your entire place and your goin to pay him for it? Why not talk to the boy, NOT HIS MOM. And ask him what on earth happened before paying him. GET THE TRUTH Out of him before you had over any $$$$. I would then tell him that whatever is left over from you cleaning the carpets and what not....
BULLLLL... i think i would HAVE police over there for vandilism. (sp??) lol. sry
They basically messed up your entire place and your goin to pay him for it? Why not talk to the boy, NOT HIS MOM. And ask him what on earth happened before paying him. GET THE TRUTH Out of him before you had over any $$$$. I would then tell him that whatever is left over from you cleaning the carpets and what not....
BULLLLL... i think i would HAVE police over there for vandilism. (sp??) lol. sry
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