OT Rant: MY MOM!!! I want INPUT from you! :)

[martikadragoon]

Ok, this is my little rant for the night.... so as some of you know, I've only gained 7 1/2 lbs. and I'm 6mo 1 week pregnant with my son.

I just had an appointment on WEDNESDAY and the Doctor measured me and said I measure FINE>.. I'm only supposed to gain a total of 15-25lbs this pregnancy as I started out at 5'8 177.. So my weight gain is normal, just on the low side.

Most of the time ppl think for a woman to have a healthy baby she HAS to put on 30-40LBS.... well, I've also had morning sickness this WHOLE pregnancy... and tonight my mom tells me,

"I don't want you to be offended, but have you been making yourself throw up or not eating in order to not gain weight?"...

Obviously not..I've never had a problem with anorexia or bulemia.
Today I ate 2 bowls of cereal, lunch , AND most of my dinner.. Simply because I was ABLE to eat without feeling full to the gills. Yesterday tho, I ate breakfast, 4 cheese sticks (small size) and a few curly fries... then I was full all day.

Yes, I have always had issues with my weight, and yes, at the beginning DH said he was scared I'd see it as a lisence(sp?) to eat and put on 20lbs by my 2nd month. But I didn't and that was 4-5mo. ago. I'm not even worried about weight now, I'd be fine with adding another 10 lbs.
STILL THO: she tried to tell me "maybe your doing it SUBCONSIOUSLY! and don't realize it".. etc. etc.

I KNOW she's worried, but I take my prenatals, I eat when I can what I can be it junk food 1/2 time or not.I try to eat extra some days but I've learned not to push it as it makes me throw up if I over eat. (probably from the 3 mo. of constant puking from m/s I had) AND i'm trying to drink the recommended amt of water which makes me full too!

Yes, she's my mom, and yes, she wants the best for me and the baby. but she's trying to tell me I'm gonna have a low weight baby... and it's because i'm "SO MUCH SMALLER" than the other women she's seen at 6 mo. (I look maybe 3-4mo... my tummy has basically stopped growing out as fast and is growing up, so less rounded) I think it's because the fat in my midsection is redistributing or something. IDK...

but it really, REALLY offended me that she'd suggest that, knowing all I've gone thru with this pregnancy already. I asked DH if he thought I had a problem with my eating or making myself puke (I don't do that) and he said NO... personally I'd rather let HIM be the judge since he sees me 24/7... even if he did make an insensative remark early on.. he want's his son healthy as well as me!

She just doesn't realize that even tho every pregnancy is different... that maybe this is my "normal"  and maybe since it's my first baby my muscles aren't stretched enough to feel kicks outside yet. *I definitely get them inside!, And maybe also... that's why I'm not showing alot yet.

I mean, look at Nicole Kidman.. she's TINY and didn't even begin showing til she hit 7 months recently! So me at my 184.5lbs... sure as H*ll may not be showing a whole lot yet!

[martikadragoon]

Goingon5kids~ Actually I do have BAD heartburn but I take PepcidAC for it. it's a MIRACLE drug. lol, (doctor ok'd it first) I also try to eat several small meals thru out the day, my problem is if I dont' eat fast, then my stomach fills up and I never know if I'll be full part of the day or ALL of the day! esp. if I'm nauseaus, which I take Dramamine for (dr. ok'd that too)

LosingMyMindinGA~ OMG I'm sorry,but I had to laugh about that. (working so hard to be a B*tch)  I didn't blow up at her or anything, but I did remind her that the dr. said I measure fine. etc. etc. But she thinks like you said that she knows it all or most of it.

The funny thing is I began thinking about it, She BRAGGED before that when she got pregnant she was a size 3 or so, and that she didnt even SHOW with ME until she was just over 6months pregnant!!!!!!

I haven't brought THAT to her attention, simply because I haven't talked to her. it's gotten to the point where I've decided not to take her to any more dr;'s appointments because A) she drives ME nuts with advice.. etc. and B) she bugs the doctor more than I do.  and C)... she's been to all the big appointments now, I think the rest should be left up to me and hubby.

BTW... today I managed to choke down 3 chili dogs and 1 big bowl of cereal. (I was REALLY HUNGRY!) That's all ive eaten today... plus, I haven't been nauseaus for a couple days so that definitely helps. However, I think she's now got it stuck in her head that I'm making myself puke or not eating to not put weight on...And if she brings it up again I am liable to go off on her, and tell her I don't wanna see her for a month or two. :)

Oh... update. We're getting a Sugar Glider tonight. (a tiny squirrel pet) There illegal here in Cali, but it'll be in a cage, and all... my hubby's friend didn't want it anymore as they're getting Ferrets (also illegal!) So we'll probably be up for a couple hrs. playing with it!

[tookies01]

I agree with all of these ladies. I have known women who gain 10-35 lbs and some that didn't look pregnant at all during their whole 9 months of pregnancy. Their babies came out just gorgeous and healthy. I'm talking 7- 9 pounds. I also knew some mothers who got huge and their babies had a low birth weight. So if the doctor says you are fine, I would listen to the expert.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I think it was extremely insensitive of your mother to say that.  Being a mother or not there are far better ways to approcach something like that.  Had that been my mom I would have been tempted to blurt out something along the lines of "do you work hard at being such an insensitive b**** or does it just come natural for you?"  but I tend to be more outspoken than I should be.  

Hard as it may be, it's probably best for YOU to let it ride for now.  Then when you feel comfortable let he know just how much it hurt you that she'd say that.  Let her know that while you appreciate her thoughts and opinions that a) your doctor feels your weight gain is just fine and HE is the expert and b) your husband who is with you a far greater amount of time than she is, sees no problem.   Unfortunately every pregnant woman has someone in her life that thinks they know it all.

[GoingOnFiveKids]

I carried very small for all four of my boys until maybe the last two months when my belly started to look like a small basketball. If your feeling full fast, chances are the baby has been in a position that is pushing your stomach up. Doctor's suggest many small meals a day rather than the normal major three. This will help with feeling full quickly, and it will help with heartburn if you have it, and it will help with nausea, and it will help with getting more in your belly througout the day which will help you put on more weight. Dont worry, if the doctor says you're measuring fine then that's all you needed to hear. He is the expert here, he knows by the feel of your stomach how large or small the baby is. I'm 30 wks and weigh 203 now. But before I was pregnant I was 192. (11lb gain)  I'm 5ft 6. it wasnt until I hit my 25th week that I started to gain some weight because before that I had only gained like 7lbs for being 25wks, and this is from the begining. My doctor just told me on Friday that I'm measuring on target which is 30wks. Take it easy, dont let others make you feel like you're doing something wrong. If you must, put them in their place and remind them that the doctor himself said that you're on target.