annoyed...need to vebt

[donnabaker442]

So were having our baby shower next month since I am high risk and most likely will have to have baby early but im not even wanting one anymore. This girl named april that my fiance was with before me is going to be there. They broke up because she was wanting to be with his best friend and because my fiance is a nice guy he still puts up with them. I have seen this girl five or six times I have been to her house as well as her babyshower. I gave her all of my favorite outfits from when my son was a baby and she has never even said hi to me. When we see her she talks ti my fiance non stop and is always wondering when im leaving and making him promise that he wont. She is even naming her baby after him.  I want her out of my life so badly but my fiance says she cant completely be because he will lose his friend which I understand. She made me cry last month at her babyshower because when someone asked her if she had gotten baby clothes yet after I had given her tons she said yes but she didnt like any of them so she got rid of them. They were outfits I was attached too and my fiance convinced me to give them to her cause she said she had some for our baby girl which turned out to be a snowsuit with baby poop in it. Sorry just had to vent

[donnabaker442]

Its not that he talks to her. Unless it is something to do with her husband he never txts her back. Je only puts up with her so he doesnt lose his friend. She just cant seem to let go

[jorden_rose3]

Your fiance sounds more interested in the fact that he will lose his friend than how you feel about her being there. If that's his friend, he should understand everything & not care if he talks to her. Him still talking to his ex is also a little weird & even her naming her son after him is a huge woah. That would be too much for me to handle. You need to talk to him more about this. If he doesn't understand where your coming from and says he wont stop talking to her cuz he will lose his friend, explain how a FRIEND shouldnt be saying stuff like that, especially since its his ex! I dont see why he would want him to be talking to her, its just an odd thing. It's your baby shower. Honestly, if you dont want her there, tell her yourself. If he gets mad at your for that, when you have im sure explained things to him, it doesnt sound much like he cares. :/ Sorry so blunt but thats my opinion.

[worldofwisdom]

Man: What is love?
Woman: He gave up everything to be with her!

This woman needs to get out of your lives!

[Cyn_henderson]

Oh hell. You have a lot more patience then me. I would've strangled someone by now. I really don't have any advice other then stay strong. It's your baby shower though. I think I would ask him to uninvite her. Cause she sounds like a real B.

[tkenna]

Oh, jeeze! I'm a pretty hostile person. My fiances exes were like that and I told them all straight up that that is not how sht is gonna work. We are gonna get married, expecting a child and to move the fck on! This seriously made me so mad. I was just picturing that happening in my life. Tell you hubby he needs to say something to you. He should be sticking up for you. friends come and go, i bet in 10 years from your hubby and his friend wont even be talking while you two are off happily married. jeeze! I wish I could give her my two cents. id take those pennies and shove em right up her arse!!

[missymay34]

I had gone through a similar situation with my husbands ex contacting him on face book I blocked her from contacting him and every once in a while will check to see if she has tried. I guess by me blocking her has stored her from trying to get with him again. I should also mention my best friend is married to her brother and I said something to my best friend about it who in turn told his ex to back off because he is happily married and dud not need her trying to destroy a perfectly happy family.

[donnabaker442]

Yeah he was there when she made me cry and he just kept saying that she doesnt matter to him so she shouldnt matter to me

[lizancar]

First I want to give you props for being a much calmer person than me. Cause I would have beeeeennn went off on her. You need to put your foot down and say.enough is enough tell your fiance shes crossing the line and to either put her in her place or he tell his best friend so the he can put her in her place! Thats is so rude of her. Sounds like she still has feelings for him. Whatever you do good luck hunny :)

[lovemykids319]

I would ask which on you wanna lose yor baby and I or your best friend

[lilducky2013]

Wow i would have flipped already she sound like she's not over him and is crossing so many lines...i hate when people judge you and treat you bad before they even know you that's just ignorant but she's taking it to a whole new level she sounds like a real b**** ...does your fiance know that she threw out the clothes you gave her and gave you a poopy snow suit?? I give you kudos for staying strong cuz after what she's put you thru i would have told my boyfriend to make a choice cuz you don't deserve that kind of treatment

[donnabaker442]

She would be at the babyshower because her husband is my fiances bestfriend and because he was invited to hers he invited them to ours

[mommyintraining23]

I'm confused why she would be at your baby shower?

[ShellyLette]

There's no reason for her not to be kind enough to even say hi to you, especially since she doesn't even know you. Sounds to me like she's jealous, such an awkward situation. I can understand how your husband doesn't wanna face the situation at hand but in all fairness if she gets any more flirtier I think her husband should know. That's not right

[ShellyLette]

You left that part out.. she would be dealt with by now! I am a very jealous person.. I would text her back from his phone and tell her you don't like how she thinks she can hang out with your husband without you and if she wanted to see him shed have to see you too so get used to it

[donnabaker442]

Exactly Shelly. I am not someone who is good at having ppl mad at me and I hate awkward situations so I at least like to know why but I feel like she just cant stand that my fiance isnt her puppet anymore and that he would rather be with me than her

[donnabaker442]

We have tried getting together for bbqs and the moment I go to talk to her she makes some excuse and leaves. She still sends txts saying that she misses him and right before she found out she was pregnant she was trying to get him to go drinking with her for her b day and when he asked if it would be alright if I tagged along she flat out told him if I was going not for him to show up. Its not like we have ever had drama. By the time I got with my fiance they had already broken up and she was married to her best friend. We didnt even know eachother beforw since we grew up in differebt towns. I just wish I could tell her to f*** off. I refuse to even let them know where we live because I know she would randomly show up when I was gone.

[ShellyLette]

Well that was definitely rude of her to give you dirty clothes, even if just a snowsuit. Which I would take into consideration the next time id even think about giving her anything in the future. I'd just tell your husband you're not fully comfortable with her, and you would politely like to talk to her about how she ignores your existance, and yall have seen eachother on a regular basis. But I'm just an open person, I don't like anyone who doesn't acknowledge my presence atleast if we have to be civil on a reg basis. And I definitely wouldn't want someone who isn't comfortable enough with me to even say hi, at my babyshower.

[shelleversole]

What a c***. Thats a tough situation. I personally being who I am would just ask her to lunch and talk to her like an adult about how she has hurt you and what issues she has with you. I would then sit down with your fiance afterwards, and have a talk with him about your talk with her. If it went well maybe you can arrange a double date hang out more, and if you really.just cant make peace with her because shes such a b**** then I would just tell your fiance youd rather him have guy time, because you dont like being around her and they ca still be friends without her being shoved up his a** constantly, which would also mean that you would be giving them guy time.