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Depression in Pregnacy : (
Hi Everyone,
My Names Carrie im 22 and just gone 22 Weeks Pregnant due a little Girl around Oct 3rd time.
Before i found out i was Pregnant i was Engaged to be Married and things seemed Really good for me appart from the Fact that my Big Brother was and still is in Hospital (over a year now).
My Fiancée lived in America which is where i was going to move to, i went over for a Month over the Christmas Period and a Couple of Weeks after my return i started feeling strange and my Monthlys were getting later and later so i went to the nhs walk in center to see if i could find out what was wrong, and as my best friend predicted i was pregnant. I had to ask the Nurse to Repeat herself as i couldnt believe what i was hearing, but even knowing how difficult it was going to be i was over the moon and couldnt wait to get home to tell everyone... but... the one person that i thought would be overwhelmed turned out to be different.. I sent the Fiancee a picture of the Pregnancy positive test to which his response was "Now we have to decide whether to keep it or not, its just a bunch of cells at the Moment so it doesnt matter" in the Space of the 2 seconds it took him to say that my heart had Shattered in to tiny peices, i couldnt believe the thought has crossed his mind so i turned around and said it will be a cold day in hell before i get rid of this child, its a blessing already in the making" i thought that would have made him realise but he persisted to try and convince me this was a terrible idea and when i wouldnt listen he got his Family to try and convince me to get rid (to my shock and awe) together they made me feel like something on the bottom of a five year olds pair of trainers and even made me feel i was going to be a bad mum. I know i wont be a bad mum! Times went on and when he started trying to change everything i decided i couldnt continue our relationship and broke our engagement, i dont think i could look at him and then the child thinking he never wanted this heavenly creation. At that one point my world seemed shattered, id sit and cry for days on end thinking how much of a dramatic change has happened in such a short time. I started getting my morning sickness, that was not normal either... Ive been getting sickness 24 hrs a day till present date (i just wish it would leave me alone)
So now ive faced the Facts im going to be a Lone Parent and ive been doing all i can to get my Sickness gone but its useless.. Im staying with my mum right now but... Shes recently become very very ill and ive been taking over every duty that she has. I feel myself getting very worn out, with the sickness on a permanent basis it makes it hard for me to do things anyway. I Cant sleep anymore, Baby already kicks me silly, im worried of losing my mum and stressing over when my brothers going to get out of hospital. With all of this rolled into one it drives me insane. I cry all the time and have been getting real bad headaches, i try not to let anyone know how i feel as i need to help my family as much as possible but inside im hurt in many ways. Im sick of Sick and im pretty much sick of everything.
i just dont know what to do anymore, im really struggling!!!
SORRY 4 BABBLING.... Had to let it out somewhere....
P.S Lisa if you read this then i want to Thank you for what support you have given me, we maybe far appart but to have you as a friend means more than the world!
My Names Carrie im 22 and just gone 22 Weeks Pregnant due a little Girl around Oct 3rd time.
Before i found out i was Pregnant i was Engaged to be Married and things seemed Really good for me appart from the Fact that my Big Brother was and still is in Hospital (over a year now).
My Fiancée lived in America which is where i was going to move to, i went over for a Month over the Christmas Period and a Couple of Weeks after my return i started feeling strange and my Monthlys were getting later and later so i went to the nhs walk in center to see if i could find out what was wrong, and as my best friend predicted i was pregnant. I had to ask the Nurse to Repeat herself as i couldnt believe what i was hearing, but even knowing how difficult it was going to be i was over the moon and couldnt wait to get home to tell everyone... but... the one person that i thought would be overwhelmed turned out to be different.. I sent the Fiancee a picture of the Pregnancy positive test to which his response was "Now we have to decide whether to keep it or not, its just a bunch of cells at the Moment so it doesnt matter" in the Space of the 2 seconds it took him to say that my heart had Shattered in to tiny peices, i couldnt believe the thought has crossed his mind so i turned around and said it will be a cold day in hell before i get rid of this child, its a blessing already in the making" i thought that would have made him realise but he persisted to try and convince me this was a terrible idea and when i wouldnt listen he got his Family to try and convince me to get rid (to my shock and awe) together they made me feel like something on the bottom of a five year olds pair of trainers and even made me feel i was going to be a bad mum. I know i wont be a bad mum! Times went on and when he started trying to change everything i decided i couldnt continue our relationship and broke our engagement, i dont think i could look at him and then the child thinking he never wanted this heavenly creation. At that one point my world seemed shattered, id sit and cry for days on end thinking how much of a dramatic change has happened in such a short time. I started getting my morning sickness, that was not normal either... Ive been getting sickness 24 hrs a day till present date (i just wish it would leave me alone)
So now ive faced the Facts im going to be a Lone Parent and ive been doing all i can to get my Sickness gone but its useless.. Im staying with my mum right now but... Shes recently become very very ill and ive been taking over every duty that she has. I feel myself getting very worn out, with the sickness on a permanent basis it makes it hard for me to do things anyway. I Cant sleep anymore, Baby already kicks me silly, im worried of losing my mum and stressing over when my brothers going to get out of hospital. With all of this rolled into one it drives me insane. I cry all the time and have been getting real bad headaches, i try not to let anyone know how i feel as i need to help my family as much as possible but inside im hurt in many ways. Im sick of Sick and im pretty much sick of everything.
i just dont know what to do anymore, im really struggling!!!
SORRY 4 BABBLING.... Had to let it out somewhere....
P.S Lisa if you read this then i want to Thank you for what support you have given me, we maybe far appart but to have you as a friend means more than the world!
oh missy i had no idea you was feeling this low :( you know i'm here if you need to talk , i wish i lived closer to help you in more ways x you need a big hug x you mad the right decisions hun with baby and america ,you would have been so lonely over there , and we would have all missed you n baby so much x i'm sorry your mums not doing good atm , has she been to the drs ?? you need looking after to , i wish i could take some of that sickness from you , i remember how bad that is . i'm always here for you x i love you missy x heres a liitle poem that i wanted to send to you xx
Once in a while
everyone needs
to know that they
are wanted
that they are important
that they are loved
If you
ever feel this way
i would like
to be the one
to reassure you
that you are wanted
that you are important
and that i'm here for you
Always xx
Once in a while
everyone needs
to know that they
are wanted
that they are important
that they are loved
If you
ever feel this way
i would like
to be the one
to reassure you
that you are wanted
that you are important
and that i'm here for you
Always xx
THat was a lot to read. I know how you must feel about your ex/pregnancy situation. When I got pregnant with my first my boyfriend said the same thing to me but when I told him there is no way I would even think about losing the baby he acted as if everything was fine but cheated on me with EVERYONE until leaving me all together. I was only 3 1/2 months pregnant and all on my own. I lived with my mom but she always makes up some excuse for why she can't do anything for herself and makes me do it and was no help with my son.
I know it must be difficult with dealing with your mom's illness and your brother in the hospital while dealing with your pregnancy and knowing you're gana be a single mom. You can get through it though. Women are sooooo much stronger than I think any woman really realizes. You never do until you've endured soooo much and still find yourself standing strong and going on dealing with life. Just hang in there. If you feel the need, you can talk to your doctor about anti depressants that are safe during pregnancy to help you cope with everything.
You know after what happened with my first son's dad, who did want to marry me then just left me, I felt horrible. After having Aries I had the WORST depression problems and felt like I just couldn't do it. I even thought of giving him up for adoption once or twice but hated the idea of losing him. Well, I made it through and found my husband Jaison. he treats Aries as his own and we are having our second child and I couldn't be happier. I know you will get through it too. It may seem like you can't handle it and won't get through it but you will. You will meet a guy who really cares about you and your baby and everything will work out.
About your other difficulties, I don't know what to say but hang in there. It must be real difficult feeling that you will lose your mom with your brother in the hospital and everything. I just lost my son last year and that was real hard. It's always hard losing someone you love, especially when you see them sick and know what's coming and can't do anything about it. That's how it was with my son. Just hang in there. I'm sure you will find you are much stronger than you thought. You really need to take a break though. Ask another family member like an aunt or uncle or cousin to help out for a bit. You need to let someone know that it's a bit too much for you and ask for help.
I know it must be difficult with dealing with your mom's illness and your brother in the hospital while dealing with your pregnancy and knowing you're gana be a single mom. You can get through it though. Women are sooooo much stronger than I think any woman really realizes. You never do until you've endured soooo much and still find yourself standing strong and going on dealing with life. Just hang in there. If you feel the need, you can talk to your doctor about anti depressants that are safe during pregnancy to help you cope with everything.
You know after what happened with my first son's dad, who did want to marry me then just left me, I felt horrible. After having Aries I had the WORST depression problems and felt like I just couldn't do it. I even thought of giving him up for adoption once or twice but hated the idea of losing him. Well, I made it through and found my husband Jaison. he treats Aries as his own and we are having our second child and I couldn't be happier. I know you will get through it too. It may seem like you can't handle it and won't get through it but you will. You will meet a guy who really cares about you and your baby and everything will work out.
About your other difficulties, I don't know what to say but hang in there. It must be real difficult feeling that you will lose your mom with your brother in the hospital and everything. I just lost my son last year and that was real hard. It's always hard losing someone you love, especially when you see them sick and know what's coming and can't do anything about it. That's how it was with my son. Just hang in there. I'm sure you will find you are much stronger than you thought. You really need to take a break though. Ask another family member like an aunt or uncle or cousin to help out for a bit. You need to let someone know that it's a bit too much for you and ask for help.
i do not know now it was a while ago i got them and i had them on script. no names as of yet ... i wanna know bumps character more lol
Do you know the name of the MS meds you have taken? Zofran is a prescription medication that has done wonders for many women.
I see you are having a girl! Any names picked out?
I see you are having a girl! Any names picked out?
Hi thanks u 2 for your kind words. I dont get along with most of my Family just the ones i have previously mentioned. I have tried morning sickness tablets but they didnt help at all :( i know im sure things will get better and talking really helps
I, like jenkaye21, am very sorry for what you are going through.
After reading your post, the best thing you can do is talk to your OBGYN about how you have been feeling. There are a lot of medications that are quite safe that you can take for i) severe morning sickness, ii) headaches, iii) depression/anxiety. I really do think its important to discuss this with your doctor so you can get some help with your medical conditions which will make your pregnancy a lot more bearable - of course this doesnt change everything that has/is happening but it will make things more tolerable. Are there any other family members or friends that can help out and take some of the burden off of you?
After reading your post, the best thing you can do is talk to your OBGYN about how you have been feeling. There are a lot of medications that are quite safe that you can take for i) severe morning sickness, ii) headaches, iii) depression/anxiety. I really do think its important to discuss this with your doctor so you can get some help with your medical conditions which will make your pregnancy a lot more bearable - of course this doesnt change everything that has/is happening but it will make things more tolerable. Are there any other family members or friends that can help out and take some of the burden off of you?
I am sorry about your situation. I cannot say I know how you feel, but I can imagine how difficult and scary it must be for you. I do know that there are ladies on this board who are in similar situations who would probably love to talk to you; it is a very supportive group, I hope you will stick around!
Also, please know that you have made a difficult decision and that you have made the Right decision. It is hard to believe now, but I believe God has a plan for you (and your baby) and that eveything will work out. ((Hugs))
Also, please know that you have made a difficult decision and that you have made the Right decision. It is hard to believe now, but I believe God has a plan for you (and your baby) and that eveything will work out. ((Hugs))
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