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Ok so I just need opinions on what to do.my fiance has been sleeping with another girl :( so of course we broke up and I moved out.well im pregnant and dealing with a lot.i hate picturing them together.im heart broke.ive been moved out for a month and now he wants me back but yesterday I found one of her little sexy outfits n his dresser, now reality is setting n and it makes my skin crawl.what should I do? Im so sad
Lol I meant there is a fine line between love and hate. Not what I said up there lol
Exactly girl. I think what kind of woman is that....after she he cheated on the woman he got pregnant. But he has obviously manipulated her like he did me. But my blinders are off. Now don't misunderstand me. I still love him but there is a five line between love and agreement. I'm on that line. U need a break. I'm taking the next 15 weeks to be at peace and enjoy the rest of my pregnan ncy. Oh but let me mention my babydaddu is 38 and this is his first child. Lol so trust me darlin i get it. It hurts because u r havibg his child and it means the world to u and nothing to him....not even to thinl teice about the decision he IOS making and how it effects his family only thinking abouy himself and what he wants. Thats not a man at all. But in my case I will have to wait and see what happens. U have a child with him already. I know this ia hars....trust me i know. But u just keeep sayong over and over that u will get past this part. It doesnt feel lime youre dying inaide forever. U will get past this and when u do u will so strong for it.
So true! I cant get over him and her.ive told him to just forget about us for the time being.i can see where ur coming from, I dont get how some girls think.like n whos right mind would it b ok to have ur family an someone on the side.i have a bad guilty conquence and if I was the other girl id get the picture tht he isnt a real man if he cheated on his fiance for me.i need to move on its just when I see him I fall for him.then it ***** bc wither we r having sex or he is holdin me I cry bc I feel he has done it all to her.
Yup I think u can tell a lot about how much someone loves u by how fast they move on. Hey my baby daddy new girlfriend is the one he cheated on me with and then he asked her if the baby and I could live with him and he take care of us lol she said OK....hmm how pathetic is that? I'm no ones charity case. That being said u deserve better! He's done it before and he will do it again! That's just the name of the game.
My bd is my first, been together 6 years and expecting out first baby in 4 weeks.
I love him to death, moved 200 miles from family and friends do he could get the job he wanted and would do anything for him! That being said he knows if he ever cheated on me I'm gone! A man who cheats can't love you and it sounds like he's done it before and will do it again. Gain some respect and tell him for now just to be a dad. If he can keep it in his pants for a few months then maybe he's worth another try but sounds like he'd just move right on to the next girl.
I love him to death, moved 200 miles from family and friends do he could get the job he wanted and would do anything for him! That being said he knows if he ever cheated on me I'm gone! A man who cheats can't love you and it sounds like he's done it before and will do it again. Gain some respect and tell him for now just to be a dad. If he can keep it in his pants for a few months then maybe he's worth another try but sounds like he'd just move right on to the next girl.
I agree, will you ever be able to trust him again? If not, don't go back, you can't live your life wondering, and it's not fair to you to have to think about your man having sex with another woman while you are! Some things are worth working through, but cheating is not one of them in my opinion, if my husband can't love me, and only me, I don't want to be with him!
you cant go back because your pregnant with his baby so you have to make sure thats not why your thinking about getting back with him. You also have to be 100% sure he is not still with her. also if you take him back are your sure you can move on from this, cause if you cant dont go back because this is something you will always fight about and in the end your baby will suffer. I cant tell you what is right or wrong but you really need to sit down and work out what is right for you and eventually your what is right for your baby, because your baby deserves to be brought up in loving home and if you cant do that with him then you should probably do it on your own. Finally if you do take himback you need to be absolutely sure he want do it again. Remember love and trust are 2 different things but you need both to make a relationship work
U should ask him how he would feel if u did it....and yeah my BD new gf met his mom i think a couple weeks after i found out about her. Lemme tell u girl....get out now! I love my ex but hes an *** hole and i hate him for doing this because he is sitting pretty while i am tortured. But u deserve better. U r better. Dont let him do this to u. U need time to think about this before u make rash decision to stay with him because u r scared. Im sure u r too. Just like me. I am scared. Esp since now he says he is taking me toncourt. Everyone tells me not to worry but if i dont worry and prepare then he cod totall screw me pver and of i worry tpoo mucj and hire a lawyer and he doeant evem show up then i wasted $1500 on nothing. Its hard to know what to do. But time will tell what is right but dont give in and move back in with him. He needs to prove he really is sorry. That he wont do this again. But I can honestly say I don't see how it wouldn't happen again. U deserve so much more.
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it to I guess. I am sorry you are dealing with this and it breaks my heart for your kids. If he is not willing on the things I mentioned then I guess you have your answer. Be strong momma for your kids, they need you! Best of luck to you.
He sounds like a winner!
But seriously... Just re-read what you have posted already and you will see that it is time to move on. He is the source of your depression. The controlling ownership thing scares me more than the cheating. Don't let him make you look like a fool. Show your children how to love by providing them a good example.
I apologize if any of that sounds harsh. I just get really ticked off at immature men and women that can't respect their partners....especially parents. You deserve more.
But seriously... Just re-read what you have posted already and you will see that it is time to move on. He is the source of your depression. The controlling ownership thing scares me more than the cheating. Don't let him make you look like a fool. Show your children how to love by providing them a good example.
I apologize if any of that sounds harsh. I just get really ticked off at immature men and women that can't respect their partners....especially parents. You deserve more.
Well the girl he is seeing has known bout me from day one and knows im pregnant.she doesnt care.he even went and met her parents ugh I hate him so much.and our 3 year old asks me why we moved out and why cant we stay with daddy.i always ask him how would he feel if a guy did this to our little girl?
Girl, I feel exactly where you are coming from. I still feel the anger. I pretty much hate the man. I love him bit I hate him. He chose this **** over his family and still continues to see him after she knew about me. Now he lied tonher atbfirat and deceived her too. All i can say is he has that gorl manipulated. Ots sad because i do deserve better. Anyone who wpuld do that to me and our famoly does not deserve any kind of consideration. And guess what hthis guy cant control u inless u let him. U dont belong to anyone. A person is not a possession. Possessiveness is not love. No matter what they say. Thats a sign of a very controlling peraon and insecurity. If he has done deceitful things before like talking to other women and that is cheating to a point just not physical cheating but to me its still cheating. But looks like he doesnt really love u but sees u as property and be careful with a guy like tha get out now before pu r there with ur baby and u feel stuck. Love is not the end all. Respect and consideration and truthfulness and faithfulness....those are also very important and love doeant last very lomg without tjem. So u need to respect yourself anD's realize that by stayimg with him u r telling him its ok to treat u this way and no one deserves that.
I'd say once a cheater always a cheater. If u take him back now its basically giving him permission to do it again. I know from experience that once the trust is lost inna relationship its very very hard to get it back. I would say be very careful about the decision u make cuz there is now a child involved.
We already have a 3 year old together.ud think he would care more bout his family but he says I didnt make him happy bc idk how to give him affection
Nope he has talked to 2 other girls b4. This is just the only one he has actually slept with.plus heres the kicker..he is the only guy ive ever slept with so he has it n his head that he owns me.he tells me I can never be with anyonee else bc.im his.he doesnt underarand I do love him but the pain wont go away bc he was supposed to be mine
its hard to say what to do if he was truely sorry i dont think he would be still seeing her.by him still seeing her well thats not showen u much love and respeck tell u what i think i think he a still cheat on u even if u did take him back because he is still seeing her beings u found her outfit in his dresser that tells me he is still seeing her so to me thats not much love for u if u truly love someone u dont cheat on them.has he even told her about u and that you r haven his baby?if not i would tell him tell her in front of me that u love me and were haven a baby together and she was a mistake he made and its over between them.if he cant do that then i would think he does not truely love u and just move on you dont need a man that cheats u can do better.
Hun, I hate to say this but what kind of man cheats on his pregnant fiance? And has her clothes at his house and just expects u to come back to him. Shes right....he needs to ear your trust back but....really do u honestly think unwilling ever be able to really trust him again? I would always wonder. My babysat say did the same to me. He is now with this girl and threatening rivalry away my baby. All I can say is that u r the only one that can decide if u can ebb er trust him again an D's actually stand to touch him. Lol I know i couldnt. Bit maybe if u at least try it will give u peace of mind. Because u did what u could. I think about the same things u do. It's only been 2 months for me but my heart is healing. And I don't really think about him being with her that much anymore but when I do it feels like a knife in my heart. Do what is best for u but I know I could never trust him again. At least not witbout counseling for us.
Well a lot if people are going to say leave but let me give you a few things to think about first. Is this a first time offense? If not that tells you he may not be serious about you. Is he truly sorry and remorseful? If not, then that tells you a lot. Is he doing things to prove to you he is sorry and committed to you? Things like answering questions you need answered, not being secretive, etc. Is he willing to go to counciling alone and to couples counciling? That is very important so you both can learn what to do to cope with the aftermath. Do you really love him and are you willing to work to make your relationship better? (It will never be like it was but you can as a couple recover and make things better but its hard work) these are all things you need to sit down and answer. I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for you.
Well a lot if people are going to say leave but let me give you a few things to think about first. Is this a first time offense? If not that tells you he may not be serious about you. Is he truly sorry and remorseful? If not, then that tells you a lot. Is he doing things to prove to you he is sorry and committed to you? Things like answering questions you need answered, not being secretive, etc. Is he willing to go to counciling alone and to couples counciling? That is very important so you both can learn what to do to cope with the aftermath. Do you really love him and are you willing to work to make your relationship better? (It will never be like it was but you can as a couple recover and make things better but its hard work) these are all things you need to sit down and answer. I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for you.
Dont just go back with him like if nothing happened. Cheating is a big thing for me and i will never forgive if my husband were to do that. Make him want you back by taking you out like if you both are just getting to know each other and things like that. Its gona be hard for you to trust him again. Its all up to you if you really want to go back with him.
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