not ready to be a mom!

[shortimama123]

I just feel like I am soooo not ready for this! I didn't think id ever be a mom. So I just partied all the time. Figuring my life would never have a purpose. And now. Its sad to say. I feel like I'm gonna be a bad mommy.

[distortedmind89]

I get the same feelings sometimes, it a scary thought in all honesty. Everyone keeps telling em it will come to you naturally though, and you will have a lot of support around you anyway so you won't be at a complete loss.

In regards to the partying etc I used to be the same was out 4 times a week before i found out I was pregnant, but in all honesty when I look back over the last 3 months nearly i have realised i was wasting my life.

These two babies inside me are my life now, and yeah I dont think I will ever feel ready even when they arrive but I know I will try my hardest to give them as best of a life as I can. I had no reason nor purpose till them came along. No one is ever going to be perfect you have to remember that honey xx

[Mrs_Baze]

Ready or not, it's happening! And it's true, if you were likely to be a bad mom, you wouldn't be worrying so much about it. I was 19 when I had my first. I had a rebel phase when she was 2ish. Now she's 6 and I'm waiting for our second, who was planned. You can certainly still have fun, you just need to plan and it probably won't be as often that you go out drinking. It's not the end of your life.

[sharichajewski]

We all have a choice to be a.good mom or a bad mom. If you decide your going to be the best mom you can for your child then youll b a great mom. We all make mistakes and trust me ive made my fair share of mistakes with my son who is now 3.5 but i have a choice to learn from those mistakes or make excuses for myself. We all have potential to be amazing mothers and the fact that your all worried about what kind of mother your going to be means that you.care. Being a mom doeant mean u have to.give up everything jut means you have to reprioritize! you will all be fantastic mothers if thats what u choose:)

[cassidysmith95]

I was a heavy partier. I will be 18 when my baby arrives but as soon as I found out the desire to do those things went away immediately. My love for my baby is already way stronger than for any of those things.

[mrsmcveigh]

Ladies stop worrying :) I was 19 when I fell pregnant with my daughter, yes it's hard and you will have to put life on hold for a short while. But just cos youre a mom doesn't mean you can't be YOU! I still had fun, just instead of partying all weekend every weekend I'd go out once every few weeks instead, and I'd enjoy it more cos it wasn't as often as before! Im now 35+3 with my second and im still determined that I will be me, not just MOM! Doesn't make us bad parents, it makes us human! Also I took a college course during this pregnancy and im now a qualified teaching assistant, so I know once my baby is old enough for childcare I can apply for jobs :) you'll be great mommies!

[aurora92]

Like TexasBby said.. my mom had me at 18 as well. I learned from my own pregnancy, that she struggled with the idea of having me because she didn't want to be with my dad (she eventually left him) and she didn't want to give up her dreams (she found new dreams). She didn't go out very often during my young childhood.. if at all actually. She worked incredibly hard & sacrificed a lot, but now she travels all around the world (Morocco, Spain, Italy, etc) & she is in love with her life. It was hard for her, but she did it & now she has everything she didn't think she wanted then, but it so grateful she has now. I think you will both be great & although it seems impossible now, it will change when you have the baby :-)

[texasbby13]

I had my first child at 17 and my second at 18. Now  24 and 23wks. When.that baby is in your arms for the first time you will realize then that it will all be worth it! It gets easier but sometimes you will doubt your parenting but just remember that every mom feels that way and more than.likely. you will be a great one!

[MorganDale123]

we sure can
and same I went pretty wild last year
havent had a job before :(
live with my mum
but all that matters is you and the baby
abd your little family
I need to find a job even :(
its hard because a lot of people wont take me on because im pregnant
obv they dont say that but i know its the reson
and if i dont get a job we cant afford to keep up the rent
its silly and scary :(
i sometimes worry im going.to be a **** mum
but have to try and keep ypur head up

[shortimama123]

We can do it ladies!

[brittak92]

I'm going to be 7 months pregnant on my 21st bday. So I know how you feel. :(

[shortimama123]

I guess that's a good point. I sure am worried. I'm 23 and I had 2 miscarriages at 21. I didn't think id ever have a child. So I went crazy...drinking, smoking pot, cheating,....you name it. And I know that I can't do that **** anymore. Its time to get my act straight. So that's a start. I know what I gotta do. Just hope I can follow through.

[MorganDale123]

I know how you feel :/
I havent even had my 18th birthday
I will be 8months pregnant then :/
its sad because I know i wkll never be able to go out drinking or clubing without your baby in the back of your mind or some responsavility
but you cab still have fun and go out drinking just need to plan it all out in advance
and you will be a great mum
its the mums that dont care at all if they are a good mum or not that are bad