Aa
ugh so stressed
i am 38 weeks as of tomorrow with my first. Me and my fiance live with my mom and stepdad and i just cant take it much longer. I got pregnant late last year and i was trying to find a job so we could move out, then i landed pregnant and gave up when i was about 30 weeks. My fiance finally got a job in may working with walmart making 8.20/hr but he only gets 32 hours a week working 10p-7a. We are trying to save money now to move out but i am going insane with stress living with my mom and stepdad.
I am so tired of living with them because they are such slobs and my stepdad is just a complete jerk. For example i had my WIC sitting on the kitchen table so my mom could run and get milk because my doc told me not to go outside as it was suspoed to get to 110 degrees, well my stepdad spilt soda all over my WIC and ruined it and i cant get it replaced till Tuesday and then blamed his 12yr old daughter. And i do ALL the house cleaning and normally i dont complain but the last 2 weeks my mom, step sis and stepdad have been major slobs, well my mom told me 4 days ago that she would do the dishes and now its been 5 days since the dishes have been done and she still hasnt done them she keeps saying she will do them tho, and now i know im going to get stuck doing a weeks worth of dishes because she promised me she would do them. Not to mention i seem to be the only person who knows how to bag up the trash and take it out. My mom and stepdad just pile the trash in the bag until it looks like a mountain. I can clean the whole house like all dishes done, swept, mop, vacuum, dust and tables all clean and visible and within 2 days you wont be able to see the surfaces of the tables, dishes piled up and trash all over the floors. Im not even exaggerating, my mom and her husband are slobs and my stepdad is a jerk. My fiance had to work tonight so i was laying in bed relaxing and watching tv while he was sleeping and my stepdad comes in and shouts "Chet you HAVE to change the oil in the car (meaning my moms car) BEFORE you go to work"
Im just so stressed out! I can not stand living here anymore. Im writing this in tears because i just dont know what to do anymore. I'm sorry this is so long but i had to vent..
I am so tired of living with them because they are such slobs and my stepdad is just a complete jerk. For example i had my WIC sitting on the kitchen table so my mom could run and get milk because my doc told me not to go outside as it was suspoed to get to 110 degrees, well my stepdad spilt soda all over my WIC and ruined it and i cant get it replaced till Tuesday and then blamed his 12yr old daughter. And i do ALL the house cleaning and normally i dont complain but the last 2 weeks my mom, step sis and stepdad have been major slobs, well my mom told me 4 days ago that she would do the dishes and now its been 5 days since the dishes have been done and she still hasnt done them she keeps saying she will do them tho, and now i know im going to get stuck doing a weeks worth of dishes because she promised me she would do them. Not to mention i seem to be the only person who knows how to bag up the trash and take it out. My mom and stepdad just pile the trash in the bag until it looks like a mountain. I can clean the whole house like all dishes done, swept, mop, vacuum, dust and tables all clean and visible and within 2 days you wont be able to see the surfaces of the tables, dishes piled up and trash all over the floors. Im not even exaggerating, my mom and her husband are slobs and my stepdad is a jerk. My fiance had to work tonight so i was laying in bed relaxing and watching tv while he was sleeping and my stepdad comes in and shouts "Chet you HAVE to change the oil in the car (meaning my moms car) BEFORE you go to work"
Im just so stressed out! I can not stand living here anymore. Im writing this in tears because i just dont know what to do anymore. I'm sorry this is so long but i had to vent..
I dont get food stamps at the moment but i get WIC and i use that to help them. We help in all ways we can as well but its been hard to. I never have ate a lot, neither has my fiance, and my moms husband always complains that we eat everything in the house before anyone else has a chance to get to it which of course my mom believes him when she knows that i dont eat alot, i eat what i need to for my baby and then im ok.
I dont blame you for not wanting to go to your in-laws! Its deff not the enviroment that you want your baby in.
Im just to the point that i dont care how my mom and stepdad feel, im about to go off on them.
I dont blame you for not wanting to go to your in-laws! Its deff not the enviroment that you want your baby in.
Im just to the point that i dont care how my mom and stepdad feel, im about to go off on them.
Same here housing right now is closed except here the waiting list is from 2 to 4 years. I help in each possible way in this house. I buy the food from my food stamps and wic n I cant buy whatever I want since my moms excuse is.that I have buy for everyone. The food doesnt last, n my brother sees that theres nothing on the fridge n he leaves to go out to eat, n my mom doesnt complain about him since he gives her money to keep her happy. Then I cant say anything because im afraid she kicks me out of her house. And I have nowhere else to live. Yes I can go live with my mother in law but the situation there is worst, her n her husband are alcoholics they get so drunk they just fall asleep wherever they fall down.
agrell - i hope your situation is resolved soon as well, i do the same i just let them say and do what they want as i continue to save and penny pinch to get out lol.
july29 - i totally understand, we cant afford an apartment either and the housing based on income here is all full and the waiting list is over a year. Right now im trying to make extra money until i can find work after my lil man is here and i got mad at my mom aswell, she keeps saying when i get a job that she WILL babysit but she doesnt seem to understand that i am the only one who cleans anything around here, god only knows what this place would look like if i moved out, i doubt i will trust my child here after we move out.
july29 - i totally understand, we cant afford an apartment either and the housing based on income here is all full and the waiting list is over a year. Right now im trying to make extra money until i can find work after my lil man is here and i got mad at my mom aswell, she keeps saying when i get a job that she WILL babysit but she doesnt seem to understand that i am the only one who cleans anything around here, god only knows what this place would look like if i moved out, i doubt i will trust my child here after we move out.
Yup I know what you feel, im almost in the same position. I live with my mom, I have to clean every single day there mess. Im 36 weeks pregnant im running out of energy and all she dies is complain about me laying down supposably her all day. She doesnt see that every day when she gets out of work her house is clean. My bf is supposed to be moving in with us soon, but I just dont want to have more problems with my mom. Yes my bf works but right now we cant afford an apartment. Its so stressful. A few days ago I got mad at my mom because she was telling my grandma that she still doesnt understand why did I even got pregnant, that for me was an insult. Because she s always touching my stomach and talking to my baby and I idk but now I feel like shes been a hiprocrit. I just hope I can move out of this house! I hope the same for you ladies, that you have your own place.
Oh hun I know exactly what you mean...my h usband gets mad at me all the time for letting them say and do the things they do...I just try to take it day by day even if it kills me...well hopefully once your little one comes yall will be able to get out of that Hell hole
its totally okay! Im sorry your going thru all of that. I understand how frusterating it can be to deal with family members. Luckily my fiance will do whatever i ask him to do because he knows it stresses me out having the house look like a bunch of moneys live here, although he tells me i should just stop doing all the housework but its just not that simple because if i did just quit then itd never get done.
You must be a really good person because i honestly dont think i could put up with all that and not say something or just move out, i want to move out so bad and i would live out of my car at this point if i wasnt pregnant.
You must be a really good person because i honestly dont think i could put up with all that and not say something or just move out, i want to move out so bad and i would live out of my car at this point if i wasnt pregnant.
I know exactly what you are going through my husband and I moved in with my mom the beginning of 2011 because she list her job and has so many medical problems that she just can't work so we moved in to help pay bills well at first all was fine than my grandma moved in Jan of this year and it has been Hell this women hates me for no reason she babys my cousin and loves to tell me how skinny and perfect she is when hello I'm pregnant but that doesn't seem to matter like I had to get rid of my dog because of this woman and now my "perfect" cousin moved in and my grandma is babying her so bad that she doesn't pay for anything all she does is go out partying...if it wasn't for my mom losing her house if we left we would of been gone back in Jan...the stress if living here having a two and a half year old and hearing ky unborn child could have a heart problem has became so much most days I just cry...sorry I vented on your post just wanted you to know you aren't alone
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