He Asked Me To Marry Him ??

[JaidennsMommi]

Ok so iv been a single mother ever since i had my son in 2011... birthcontrol failed and im now 20+0 with my 2nd lil boy...since i found out my plan was to just stay single and basicaly never go out or realy tlk to ppl(was embarrassed of my situation)..when i was barely 2.5 mnths an old friend of the family poped back in my life and well we are now dating..he loves my son to death and helps me so much with him and understands my mood swings and does everythng to make us happy..well last night he asked me to marry him...i told him i wasnt sure and had to think about it which he completwly understood...what would yall do in this situation??

[maybaby2013]

I think he just really wants to show u that he wants to be ther for u and ur boys. I defo wldnt rush into anythng to fast, but its very nice that he has proposed to u to show tht he means it. He obv knws uv been let down befor and just wants u to kno he will be there.

[shellie409]

Thats very sweet of him :) but it would probably be good to try things out first. What if he stayed over for the weekend and you dont change your routine and see how it would be to live together when you get married? My husband and i moved in together after about 5 months of dating we had been spending every weekend together but there was still an adjustment period for us once it went 24/7
You.also have to think about whether or not hes in it for you AND your kids or does he have daddy syndrome and just wants to play daddy? I hope everything works out for the best and Congrats on all of your exciting news :)

[ftmom2beaug28]

I agree with anniebrooke for the most part, although I dontthink your hesitation is that revealing. you just need to ask yourself the right questions, anniebrooke has pointed some good ones out..some others are is he going to be a good dad? have you both set the foundatios of a successful relationship? (expectations, boundaries, future plans) I sure hope this helps. your being smart by thinking it thru but he sounds like a great man that treats you and your kids right so if you love him I hope you go for it! :) good luck!

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm glad he is an old friend of the family, that helps a lot.  At least you can trust his intentions.

Do you love him?  Or does he just look like the answer to being a single mother?  Do you see waking up next to him when he's 60, pudgy and balding, and saying, "Good morning, darling!" and meaning it?  (If so, why did you hesitate when he asked you to marry him?  Hesitation in this situation is kind of revealing.)

If you know you want to be with him the rest of your life, don't wait, marry him.  If you suspect you might be subconsciously allowing fear of a future as a single mom of two come into the decision, then wait and see how things develop.

Good luck!

[DelainaN]

I wouldn't yet, you have been dating for a few months, I would wait for sure. The situation is too delicate to jump into that, with a baby on the way and all. Or maybe except it and have a lloonnggg engagement ?