potty training- mothers of boys and girls

[ammanda]

So some say its easier to train girls then boys.... And some say the oposite.. so what is your experience?

Or is it more of the trainer then the trainee??  My niece is almost fully potty trained and she just turned 2, but my nephew is 3 and half and just now getting to the point to where my niece is

[Missy8809]

My daughter is two and a half, and ive been working on potty training since 18 months......she goes about once a day and gets a reward, but when her step brother is home, she's not interested in going. She is VERY independent and knows exactly what she wants when she wants it...so it's kind of a struggle but we just keep trying!!!!!! Her step brother was a breeze and fully trained by 2 though

[wannabeamommy0124]

I work at a preschool and teach 2yrs olds... we potty train them and its really all in how often you remind them... and how ready they are... but mostly on how the parents work with helping the teachers by doing the same things we do at school... cause if the parents just let them pee on themselves when they get home then what we do in school goes down the drain... anyways i have a sheet that we give parents, im going to see if i can get one and post it on here, i havent personally experienced any potty training other than with the kids at school, but my nephew 2 1/2 just now started to go... as soon as he wakes up in the am and right before bed at night... soon he'll hopefully be going all the time... just be patient.. ad about the paci's... ask them if they think they are babies or big kids they will always say they are big.. therefore tell them big kids dont use paci's and give them something else to comfort them during nap or at night... it seems to work with my kids at school... they usually dont want to be treated like babies specially at this age when they think they can do everything themselves...

[connorethansmom]

Yes we bribed our son with a sticker chart and M&Ms.  It worked great!  He is a very relaxed, go with the flow type of child.  We tried with our daughter and she could care less.  She just wanted to go to the bathroom and move on, no big deal to her.  She is very picky, emotional, and demanding, so it was hard to come up with a new plan for her.  She is doing great though and I have hopes that she will decide to move to a big girl bed and learn nighttime potty training soon.  She turned two last month.

[ammanda]

Does anyone use bribes?
My niece gets a sticker to put on her " Ronee goes Potty" chart lol.... she loves stickers and she has soo many, the sticker worked fantastic.. sometimes she even gets a piece of candy, which helps, she actually pooped on the potty for the first time like 2 weeks ago and she just turned two at the end of july.  but shes been peeing on the toilet for about 4 months now.  and she does so good, she loves to wear underwear.  my sister lets her pick it out herself so that helps as well.  im just so proud of my niece, and i hope my son is the same

[Limonada]

I think that boys generally train later than girls - but it's not necessarily harder to train a boy than it is a girl.

We waited until our son was showing definite signs of readiness (complaining when his diaper was wet or dirty...even going so far as to pull it off himself, etc.) before we actively started training him - and that was when he was 2.5.  We had been sitting him on the potty for months before that, starting when he was about 1 year old, but there was no pressure, it was more just to show him what it was for and get him used to sitting on it.

Bottom line....if your child is ready, he/she is going to train more easily and faster.  Kids do this on their terms and on their schedule, not ours...unfotunately! ;)

[connorethansmom]

I think your method of going about relates to the child, but I have found both easy.  My son was fully trained, naps/nighttime before 3.  My daughter was day time trained before 2, we are discussing her nighttime use of the potty.  She isn't someone you can push.  Our son we could push and bribe, her we just have to wait and wait for her to make up her own mind.  That's true with everything though, not just potty training.

[smjmekg]

Elijah was going pee every day until we moved, and has finally started wanting to go again in the last month or so. He's reached and went past where we were in Korea and is now only wearing diapers when he is asleep, he will poop(first time yesterday, YAY!) and pee in the potty. We're still working on underwear (he'll scream when I try to put it on him saying he wants to pee in the potty), and he's still in a diaper when we leave the house. I'm taking one step at a time, he goes in the potty, now it's just adding on the underwear and going in public.

I started introducing the potty (let him sit on it when DH or I went to the potty) at around 15 months, and he was peeing all the time by 18-20 months. We moved in May when he was 22 months, and now at 26 months he's potty trained, at least at the house, lol.  

[tiredbuthappy]

I've helped train dozens of kids (at least 50, probably more over the years as a toddler and preschool teacher). In general, it is easier to train girls and they do tend to train earlier. However, that is not to say that some boys don't train early. And we've had a couple of very stubborn girls who were well over 3 1/2 before being trained.  One thing I do know for sure- trying to train any child, boy or girl, before they are ready, backfires almost everytime.

[ammanda]

Thanks ladies, I still got a ways to go obviously, but its good to get others thoughts on the subject.

[Babyno2onway]

I think It totaly depends on the child me and my friend started training our kids at the same time a boy and girl,my friends boy is fully trained and off nappies at night within a month!!on the other hand my daughter is still not fully trained and not night trained at all,there is only a 6 month age gap but my daughter is better at talking ect than him I think it just depends on the child

[julianovak]

My daughter was potty trained once she turned two. I just took her diapers off, and let her run to her "froggy" ( a potty that looks like a frog)................ And within a week or two she got the point. Would run to it herself. Obviously shes still very young and if we go out to the store i like to "remind" her to tell mommy when she has to go pee pee.... Or i just stop by a bathroom and have her pee, then im worry free for a hr or two! =) Shes wonderful, took quickly to forgetting her diapers.

[Cassandrajane]

most babies/toddler with toddler maybe a bit older but still little brothers/sisters want to be big like them so potty training is easier. Thats what my other brother was like (I have 7), and my 2nd youngest with my dad well, he wanted to be like us, and so he didnt like nappies, if that makes sense??

x

[Shayne1989]

LOL yeah im really trying to get the pacifier gone before the new baby comes, i dont want DS to steal his poor sisters binky! I've gotten him to the point of not having one at all during the day but omg you don't give him one at nap time or deb time and he'll just scream and scream. So I dont know how i'm gunna knock him of that lol.

I agree with you though ashelen on the potty training, out of helping alot with my brothers being potty trained it all depends on the child and personality, DS hasnt shown any interest other then thinking he's cute standing over the potty with him pants down and playing with himself LOLLL. I think it may be a battle i'm going to start in about 6 months. we'll see.

[Ashelen]

bleah stupid editing..I said               LOL    @   Shayne^^^  

[Ashelen]

Kahlan turns 2 in a few days and she was nearly potty trained back in May (at about 19/20 months) when we had to take care of DH's grandfather, and leaving town for a few weeks threw off her schedule and we had to start over....she's nearly re-trained again already. my nephew, on the other hand, is still not potty-trained and he's nearly 4 1/2....but he also has developmental delays.

I was potty trained fully by 18 months according to my mom, and DH and his brother were both potty trained by 2 years....so I think it has more to do with personality than with gender.

***@**** daughter still won't give up the binky either. it's worse now that she sees her brother with one too by far. o well one battle at a time

[Cassandrajane]

With my brother.. well, i was pretty easy, cause we got certain napppies that feel uncomfortable when wet (They dont absorb water) so he didnt wanna wear them. with my nephew, my boyf's sis doesnt do it properly... he uses the potty, but he runs round naked, so when he is dressed and needs it he doesnt pull down he just wee's. And he doesnt wear pants yet, he is stll in nappies when he is dressed and its confusing him...

and I dont remember what it was like with my sister!
LOL

x

[Shayne1989]

From what i experienced helping my mom with my brothers (i was 9 and 12 years older then them) it depends on the kid. My mom said she had a very easy time with me, my middle brother was pretty easy but my twin brothers were a PAIN.  DS is turning 2 in november and i've gotten DH to show him and everything and he tries but i just don't think he's ready for it yet. I gotta get rid of his stupid pacfier first LOL. so IMO it really depends on the kid, I have mostly brothers (step and half brothers, 9 altogether) and some of them were a breeze and some were a PAINNNNN.