How Do I? Please Help!

[BTS1022]

So I just found out that my 14 year old niece is pregnant. I do not judge people for their mistakes, but this one is a toughie. Like I said she is 14 pregnant, and she told me she has narrowed it down to 5 men who could be the daddy, and all the men are over 20, 2 which are married.

BUT, Her and her sister who is 16, her mother and mothers boyfriend all live in a dinky little travel trailer like an RV, no running water, no electricity and hardly any food for 4 people to survive on alone. My sister isnt the best mother out there, she is far from clean and far from responsable. Her kids run a mok all over texas having sex, doing drugs and not doing their schooling or anything and she allows it.

She has decided to keep the baby which infuriates(sp) me. How is she supposed to pay to feed and diaper this baby, and this baby which is a little girl will end up with a crappy life making more mistakes than her own children.

Well her answer to that was- I will just press statitory rape charges on the father, collect money from that, and collect child support....!!!! HOW in the heck will a judge allow her to do that when she let her own 14 year old daughter have unprotected sex? She wouldnt even take 30 min to have her daughter go to the free clinic to get birth control or anything to that nature.

She is 14 for crying out loud, and they can't even take care of themselves let alone a helpless baby. How do I explain to her that she needs to put the baby up for adoption. Hubby and I would be willing to do a family adoption but her response to that was *why so you can collect the governments money and not me?* Im not on any government help besides hubbies disability from the army?

Im just pissed off and ready to drive down there and call CPS, because that baby wont make it in a harsh life like that.

[BTS1022]

Thank you all for your concearns and opinions, Thankfully my step mother is a family lawyer she has actually just passed her bar exam. Hubby and I do plan on trying to recieve custody of the baby, but if anything we will fight for this baby to be placed in a home where she can have the life she deserves. It would be tough to raise 4 in my situation as well, but im willing to make sacrafices to make sure this baby has a good outcome and quality of life.

I have also contacted the police in my sisters county and notified them of the situation, they have contacted CPS in my behalf and an investigation will be conducted. My sister can be charged with child endangerment/neglect for the way her underaged children are being raised. I will continue to fight for what I believe no matter the outcome of my relationship with my sister or neices.

Thank you all once again, and I will update you as this long grueling battle continues.

[sameerab]

ok i wouldnt waste my time being angry because it seems like your family knew she was  out sleeping around what did you guys expect to happen??..I don't believe that its the little girl's fault it started with your sister she is just a product of what she is growing up around i feel the worse for the baby but just because it is born into a terrible situation doesnt mean that their life will be terrible forever i know people who have been born into worse sitatuions...i hope everything works out for your family

[natemomma27]

i dont know the laws there, but i do know that here in PA you can consent to sex at the age of 14...if you consent and agree then no statutory rape charges can be filed and your parents can not file on your behalf. if the laws are different there the thing that will 'screw' her would be the fact that she's had sex with multiple men, multiple times therefor erasing the 'rape' from the case and she won't be able to use the child as a 'paycheck'

the best thing you can do for her and the rest of your family is call and get them help!

[Hope2OneDay]

Couldn't someone press charges against the mother for not taking her daughter to the doctor and getting her medical care? There could be all sorts of complications since she is only 14 years old! If something were to happen to the baby OR the girl, she could be in big trouble for not having her seen medically during the pregnancy.

I'd report it to DSS immediately. It sounds to me like the girl needs to be put in a place where she can not only receive medical attention, but also live in a cleaner enviroment.
If someone doesn't help her, then this family will just continue the cycle with each child they bring into the world. What about school? How is a 14 year old going to go to school while pregnant? She needs to go to a special home so she can continue her education, get medical help, and live healthily.

[spade22]

"my niece is due a month after me which is november, and she refuses to make her an OB appointment"

Definitely call CPS ASAP- two lifes are currently being endangered.

[bioclock1]

i used to work for cps in Arkansas and state laws vary, but CPS might consider this a rape charge (which is separate from the parents filing a statutory rape charge) and remove the 14 year old AND her baby from the home since the 14 y/os' mother is responsible for what arkansas called, "failing to protect."
If it were me, i would be equally concerned about the teenagers and your neice's baby. CPS can handle this one if given the opportunity. However some cps agencies ROYALLY STINK and this may require you taking it to court to prove the mother unfit..which then may result in your option to adopt the baby.
I wish you the best of luck, this is a really sticky situation but it sounds like someone resonsible needs to step in. Good luck!