How did you decide?!

[julianovak]

Sooo....... My first pregnancy i was thrown from one doctor to another, I didnt have a "set" doctor..... I dont know why that was..... I didnt like how everything turned out, i hadnt really gotten comfortable with one person, and id go see someone new.Oh and my Ob/gyn doctor that saw me during my first pregnancy "popped" in to see how i was "pushing" how absolutly pathetic. I found that SO RUDE..... And i cant stand to see someone who does things like that.... Im not a "number" im NOT a "patient" whos being treated for an illness of some sort. I want to be treated with the respect and dignity i was treated with in the delivery room.....

After delivery i realized that the women (midwife) who delivered my baby was someone id never even met....... Now, as akward as this sounds, I remember this midwife so well, i remember her being so gentle and caring towards my daughter at birth and being so patient with me...... I actually now know her name, and with this baby Ive decided i want to see her, and i hope to have her present for my second childs birth as well..... My heart is set on it.... Its so strange how sometimes you "just" know"......... What are your experiances with "choosing the perfect midwife/ob/gyn".......

=)

[mom2ariana]

also about the c section thing i do not think that is fair to put OB's in that category because the doctor that delivered my baby did EVERYTHING they could to avoid a c section, including giving me oxygen, putting me in different positions, and (despite the nurse thinking it unnecessary) giving me an amniofusion...only after my baby's heart rate had recovered did the OB tell me she and my primary OB were both concerned i would need a c section.

[mom2ariana]

well i am just picturing any scenario where the baby's life is in danger, be it a cord accident, heart rate fall, etc... and it will take a few seconds for the OBGYN to get into the delivery room. if you are delivering at a hospital where i live and a midwife is delivering your baby, the OB is not in the room they are just on call in the doctor's lounge. anywhoo i am not saying it is unlogical to have a midwife deliver your baby, im just saying strictly IMO OBGYNs are what i consider safer and what i am more comfortable with. you asked how we chose our doctor/midwife and i was just telling you how i came to my decision. i am by no means judging you for chosing a midwife, just like i do not judge pregnant women that do certain things during their pregnancy i wouldn't be comfortable with and vise versa.

[Shayne1989]

WItht he OB office out here for prenatal care, it seems all of them are where there are anywhere from 2-5 different OB's working in that one office and you go around and see all of them and whichever is on call is the one that delivers your baby for you. I think its stupid. Especially since atleast at my old office, i liked one but not the other. I had to change since we moved but out here its the same way! has anyone else seen OB offices run this way?

[julianovak]

Why do you think that midwives are not safe? That's so funny for me to hear bc ob gym doctors  didn't even exist, midwives mAde all the deliveries..... Ob gyn doctors came into the view only when the world realized they wanted to make money off of our births.... You should research that you would be surprised to find most ob gym doctors have never seen a natural childbirth before. Ob gym are only neeed for those that are high risk.... That is the only difference between ob doc and midwife is that ob knows how to perform c section. You make it seem as if making the choice to have a midwife deliver my baby is unlogical, when in actuality it's the only logical decision one can come up with, as that is all they do is deliver babies... And precious seconds? I don't know wher you live but here where I do the doctors are doing c sections and midwives aee delivering. Ob gyn are AlwYs around should the need arise, and usually a problem is usually seen on heart monitor well ahead of time. Not talking seconds but a decent amount of time, regardless of whAt emergency should Arise either way you have to be prepped and wheeled n to c sec room if that s what you meant. But seriously do look into the history

[Graciemom77]

My first group with dd they bounced you around so you could get  to know everyone. My labor was so Long I had two of them   Anyway this time I asked around and my gf have me the name of the ones her and her fam use. They seem really nice and small so well see.  

But finding a good ob your comfortable with is hard Just keep looking and don't atop till your happy.

[mom2ariana]

i chose my ob because she was already my gynecologist when i wasn't pregnant so the decision was easy. i never even considered a midwife because i think its somewhat unsafe....at least IMO i'd rather have a doctor present just in case something were to go wrong. i dont want a doctor to be down the hall if something happens...those precious seconds it takes them to get to your room could be life/death. idk maybe i was paranoid but i felt much safer with an OB. i don't care if im a number or a patient, as long as the took care of my daughter. which they never failed to do. my ob did make me feel like that somewhat but to this day i dont care, because my daughter is perfectly healthy and was delivered safely.
i was rotated around as well, because there are 5 doctors in their practice and she wanted me to know them all in case they delivered ariana instead of her. i saw one that was WONDERFUL. she was one of the doctors that is safe beyond measure. she admitted me to the hospital for a night because she saw dips in ariana's heartrate, she gave me an NST because i was worried ariana's femur measured short, and she also gave me an advanced ultrasound to check for other soft markers. she told me she didn't think it was necessary but she didn't want to scare me. so some OB's don't make you feel like a number, and they are extremely kind and considerate. she ended up being the one that was on call when i delivered. but even if she wasn't,, i wouldn't have cared. sure, it was irritating sometimes to be rushed out but as long as ariana was taken care of i wasn't concerned.