Double digits now my choice is made...help.

[Krysma]

Tomorrow I will be in the double digits. I feel like it was only last month I found out I was pregnant. I am super excited that in less then 4 months I will be meeting my little girl and hold her in my arms. My question is,I decided that when I got pregnant and the baby daddy decided he no longer wanted to be with me. That I would give him a chance at being a dad and being around,that he had to earn the last name. Well tomorrow is that day. I haven't seen him since my first appointment. That was back in September . He texts me once a week with the same question "how are you feeling" I feel he hasn't done jack sh!t. He did not even come to find out the gender or any appointments or er visits even though I tell him at least two weeks before. He did buy the car seat and stroller when he got his bonus at work and had them sent to my house. But I feel buying things and being here are not the same thing. He hasn't told his current girlfriend,nor his parents he is going to have a kid. I am so frustrated. So I have decided that he doesn't get the privilege of having my daughter with his last name. Nor do I want him in the room. He doesn't get to show up in the 11th hour and get the joy of things. Am I wrong thinking this way. Am I being to much a whitch in thinking this way? I want the best for my daughter and I feel he has not proven to me that he will be best for my daughter. Any advice would be amazing I am sitting here crying again thinking this all threw and sorry so long just need to get this out of my head

[Krysma]

Thank you ladies for both your input. I feel like I am doing the right thing. If he isn't here though the start what is going to change when my daughter actually arives. I am trying to keep my head up and get everything ready for my little one to get get here 99 days today time is flying by.

[Nana_27]

Same thing with me but my baby daddy hasn't bought **** or gave me money no doctor visits with me and my daughter won't be having his last name . My motto is if he isn't thete from the beginning atleast trying he doesn't deserve itt . Hel want to see the baby eventually but hel have to earn that as well no worries momma lots of us are gping through the same thing keep your head up and be glad your baby has you (:

[Bumpno2]

For alot of men tge realisation that you are going to have a xhild wont hit them until they are actually here i would see how he reacts when he sees her and see if that changes things she should be enough to make an effort for once he sess her and if he still isnt interested then atleast u can say u gave him the chance... and the fact that he hasnt told his parwnts or girlfriend really isnt your problem he is the 1 being dishonest and he will have to explain himself when the time comes