Im pregnant, what do I do now?

[jessko]

I took a pregnancy test last night and found out it was positive, I bought another one 4 hours later and same thing, positive.  My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and live together, and I know he will support me and the child for the rest of his life.  I am just worried about our parents (especially my dad) and what everyone else is going to think.  I told my mom this morning and she replied "get rid of it" and said that we are so irresponsible.  I am not excited or mad that I am pregnant, but I am confused whether or not to have this baby.  My mom does not believe that I was using birth control (I finished my pack on December 1st) and is not happy that I am pregnant.  I run a daycare so I know what it would be like to be a mother (in some way since I am the "mother" of these children all day) but I do not have a clue what to do.  My boyfriend is totally against abortions so what the hell do I do??????

[jessko]

okay, thats true.

[Ashelen]

all of your feelings are 100% normal!!!! don't doubt your mothering abilities just because you're feeling all these things; even those of us who planned our pregnancies go through these doubts!!!!  it all falls into place when you feel the baby kick, and then when you hold him/her in your arms....all of a sudden it makes sense.

don't doubt yourself, just trust your heart you'll be a great mommy!!!

only bad moms don't doubt themselves at SOME point because doubting yourself proves that you want the best for your child and aren't sure you can provide it....which shows you care!!!

[jessko]

one doctor told me 4 weeks another said 6 and another said 7 1/2

I dont know what I want to do.... I dont want a child, I am not ready for a child, I want to have privacy and freedom, I dont want anyone to be disappointed in me and I dont want anything bad to happen to this baby if 4 months down the road I need a surgery and the baby is deformed.

I dont want an abortion either because that is against my boyfriend and dads beliefs and i dont want to live with myself knowing i killed my child.

I cant say my heart is telling me to have it, because I know its not. but its not telling me to have an abortion either.

It is all messed up, I know I sound crazy and rude and selfish but I do not know what to do.

I cant even imagine myself with a baby and I run a daycare.  I cant see myself carrying a car seat into the grocery store.  If I was 23 or older I would not have a problem with this.

I wanna go to vegas when Im 21, I want to enjoy my relationship with my boyfriend and raise our dog and have ENOUGH money to support this child and make sure we are ready to have a child, i wanted to get married before i have kids and do it right but I dont see that happening

IS this bad?

[tarrah87]

12 wks you enter your 2nd trimester is what my ob doctor told me bc when i had to have a cerclage put in. once you hit 12 wks its ok for the anestisia and etc, and i agree with CA25 i feel that in your heart you know what to do and what you want to do, you are just scared, i feel that you do want to keep this baby but are scared of the pain, as mentioned above just pray and have them give you SOMETHING that would at least try to take the edge off. you should only have about amonth left or maybe a lil more b4 the operation would be successful and ok with your pregnancy.... do u know how far along you are yet?

[Ashelen]

How long until your first trimester is over? (14wks)

[CA25]

GIRL PRAY!!!!  STOP asking what you should do, you know what to do... Keep the baby. He/she is a blessing. You might regret it later, if the pain is too intolerable they may remove them as the pregnancy gets more stable and the baby is alot bigger too also.  God bless you, but I believe that you already know what to do in your heart!

[jessko]

The only way I can get surgery to remove the cysts is after the first trimester is done because the doctors said it is really unsafe to be on anesthetics and drugs when the baby is in the growing and developing stage.

The only problem Im having is IF i can last that long with this pain and IF they do surgery will be the pain be gone 100%.

I dont know what to do..................

I dont want to kill my baby by getting an abortion but I cant go through this pain for 9 months.  I have done it for not even a month yet and I could honestly kill myself or something.  How do I know that I will be able to live with ovarian cysts plus another medical problem that is not yet identified plus a pregnancy.

[tarrah87]

sorry i didn't mean to post already but we see it all the time in medicine pregnant women getting tumors/cysts removed..... my brother in law is an ob and i know of has removed cysts from pregnant women....... best of luck to you

[tarrah87]

that is a tough decision but one only you can make. see if there is ne way to have the surgery while pregnant would be my only guess but idk .

[AKJD2209]

Sheash, i wish I would have read through these before commenting. I'm glad you're deciding to keep your baby, you won't regret it. I had pains the first two months from cyst on my ovaries, they just basically told me to bear through it. I found out if I curled up in a ball it would ease the pain just a bit. I don't have the pains as badly as I did before, I get them randomly sometimes, but my doctor said nothing to worry about everything is good. I wish you the best of luck, I'll be praying for you and your pregnancy, because I know what it's like to have complications with pain and what not!

[jessko]

do i take care of myself and abort the baby to keep him/her away from any possibilities of not being healthy or being harmed OR do i deal with the pain i am having ON TOP of a pregnancy and any other obstacles that come my way?

what the F should I do.  If only someone could make a decision for me based on what is best and what options I have.

i could not think of putting my child up for adoption

[AKJD2209]

I am totally against abortions too, but it is your body and your decision. Luckily my mom is very supportive right now, she had me at 18 and I'm 19 years old and almost 20 weeks pregnant. There is always the option of adoption, my mom had given her child up for adoption because she didn't have the money to take care of this child, he had some problems at birth. She met with a lovely couple who weren't able to have kids, but really wanted them and went along that way. I would talk to your boyfriend about options, there is always something better then abortion. I would also take the time to look online and read about everything possible, there is help out there. I am in college and will be staying here even after the baby is born!

Best of luck to you and your decision!

[tarrah87]

i do hope you make the best decision, good luck and like rosa said one you get to about 12 wks or so you can have an epideral to have the surgery if needed. i had an epideral at 13 wks and all was fine with my baby and i was also given stadol(sp)

[jessko]

so, the morphine is not working, it is making me SICK in every way possible.
in order to get surgery on my ovaries I will have to abort the baby and I think that is the only thing I can do.
Im scared to death!

[Rosa20]

oh hunny thats a tough decision!! But its yours..maby you can put a little heat on you belly..not alot cuz thats bad for you but my doc always told me a little heat is ok...do tylenol help at all?? If you can wait a little..can they give you an epidural or something to remove them?? I dont know what else to tell you..your in my thoughts! Good luck hun in what ever your decision is!! :)

[jessko]

apparently morphine isn't bad for the baby if you are not given it for long periods of time.
I am still having BAD cramps and it is from the cysts on my ovaries.  the baby is fine so the doctor says but now I have to make the decision of getting surgery on my ovaries to get rid of the cysts and have a chance of having a deformed baby because of all the anestetics id be on OR I can deal with the pain until the first trimester is done.  I am not sure what to do...I cant live with the pain my ovaries are giving me but I do not want to have an abortion either. what do i do?

[Rosa20]

I would think that because your bleeding there telling you a threatned misscarrige! (sp) sorry its early here!! I had spotting and they told me i had the same thing and that things werent looking good...pretty much to prepare myself to not have this baby and im 14 weeks and like 2 days now!! So things docs say...are only said to prepare you for the worst..you for that "just in case factor" which i think should be kept until a definate but im not a doc so!! lol...Y did they give you so much drugs while pregnant!!?? what a stupid doc...

[JoyRenee]

He said it was a good thing AND threatened miscarriage? And why on earth did they give you morphine AND Tylenol with Codeine?!

[jessko]

Okay, so I just got back from the ER.  I was on intervenus and was given morphine and tylenol 3's.  I got blood work done and a urine sample.  The urine sample showed positive but my blood tests showed that my hormones are very, very high.  the doctor said this is a good thing but also said that it is a threatened miscarriage, I have NO idea what this means.  What are the chances of me keeping the baby? I am sooo lost right now.  I go for an ultrasound tomorrow at 9 to see what is going on.  Someone please let me know if you know anything about a threatened miscarriage, Im scared and worried like i have been for the past 3 days!!

[JillyHemp316]

I would say go to the ER without a doubt. It's always always better to be safe than sorry. Especially where a baby is concerned. I hope you decide to go to the ER and let us know how it goes if you do. I hope everything turns out alright. Our prayers are with you.

[JoyRenee]

You cannot wait for your appt. if your pregnancy is suspected to be ectopic. Make sure you keep your Monday appt. and you may get a sonogram to double check everything and see where the bleed is coming from. Too early to actually see the baby, though.

[Rosa20]

OMG hunny im so sorry...i dont want to put anything bad in your mind but this dont sound good! I really hope things turn out for the btter for you but you should go get checked now!! Not wwait espically if the pain is making you cry! This may turn out to be a misscarriage...hopefully not..fingers crossed ok...were all praying for you!! Go get checked and let us know what happens ! ( oh by the way your cyst can be giving you pain like that too) i had one on my overy (sp) the size of a grapefruit before and it hurt when it broke...!! I mean cant walk hurt so it could be that too! With any hope..although none of it is fun!! Keep us posted!!

[jessko]

so im having SUPER bad cramps all day and Im scared to death.  the doctor I went to last night at the medi center said there is a possibility that the egg is on the outside of the uterus.  I have an appointment on Monday at 10:30 with my family doctor who specializes with pregnanct women and I have a gynocologist appointment on January 12th.....do I wait and talk to my doctor about the cramping and bleeding? or go to the er right now?  the cramps have gone away a little bit but all day today I was crying on my couch in pain and didnt know what to do.  Im scared to death!!!

[Heatherm4]

Glad to hear your keeping your baby. :) I hope the spotting turns out to be ok! I wouldn't tan all together and you should start taking prenatal vitamins!