Should I stay or should I go??

[Butterfly1415]

Ok.. Sorry this is long. hope someone can help me with some advice.. So I started seeing this guy a while ago. And I ended up pregnant shortly after. I took the morning after pill but didn't work.. I have finally decided to keep the baby. He does NOT want this child and is not happy bout my decision. His family does really want it either. He has 2 kids and I have one already. Neither of us wanted this right now and tried to prevent it.. After I found out he said he was completely lost and needed someone to talk to so he called his x(not his children's mom) and while they were together he was a total ***!! Telling me he loved her and I was just for sex.. He lied bout who he was with til I busted him and showed up at his house(2blocks from mine) to get my stuff..     Now he says he needed someone to talk to and there's nothing going on between them and didn't mean what he said.. We have been hanging out again.. We just don't talk bout the baby(I'm not showing yet)
I'm worried bout this child not having love from his side like his other kids. And be the odd one out. Baby will have plenty of love from me since I am already mother and father to mine.
I'm also worried that he's only hanging out with me as a time waster til that x leaves her boyfriend she left him for. Am I just there for sex so he doesn't accidentally get someone else pregnant too?
So.. My question is.. Should I stay seeing him or leave?? Am I setting myself up for hurt?

[Butterfly1415]

I dunno for sure if he's not going to be there for me or baby but know he's not really happy with me keeping it.. Guess am hoping he comes around and becomes happy and excited. Or this will be my second pregnancy where I go to all appointments and everything alone.. I fear that most of you are right bout leaving.. And I'm sorry to disagree that staying with someone just for a baby is wrong.. Children do feel the tension between parents even as a baby..
Isn't half of being pregnant being excited and talking bout it?
Guess him and I really need to talk sooner than later..

[jwilliams81]

I'd be gone not even a question. I don't have time to devote to someone that is only wasting my time using my trust and can't be counted on. He's made it clear he doesn't want to be there for baby and right now that is all you need to know about him. Just my opinion

[Butterfly1415]

We both have been avoiding the talk we both know we need to have. Don't think either of us really want to have it. Thinking I might/probably not want to hear what he has to say. He kinda makes it hard to leave and stop talking to him. But feel if I'm going to go through this alone while bring with someone I might as well do it completely alone- which is one the reasons I left my x.. I don't know if I feel like he's using me for sex cause its not all the time. Might be just nervous and over thinking things cause of what he said..  Like every time he says he's with his dad now I second think it because he said he was with his dad when with her..

[Optimysticmama]

Only you can make that decision. If i were you, id say leave cuz of ur baby. But i kno its hard when emotions come into play. If i were you, i wouldnt be having sex with him though. Cuz if u feel hes using u for sex, ur letting him. This is a hard subject to try to help on but like i said, only u can truly make the decision. Good luck

[OorahMommy]

If it were me I'd leave! The fact that he refuses to talk about the future, which you clearly could have one together, is a red flag. Is he showing you any signs that hes serious about your relationship or this baby? If not then ya you are probably just some action on the side. I hate to say it like that but the truth is ugly