please help :(

[excitedmommy62013]

I really need some opinions. So basically here it is. The father of my baby shortly after finding out I was pregnant. We broke up. He was using drugs wouldn't stop ect. Then a friend of mine started spending time with me a lot and he know my house j was living at was a bad situation. So we ended up in a relationship. Were together he got us an apartment. Its been almost 8 months now. And the father talked everyone in awhile to me just saying he loves me and wants me back. But I kept ignoring him. Now that I'm 3 weeks away from having the baby I've been thinking about him. And I was told by his family member he was in jail. I went as far as calling the jails I thought he was at today and sending him a message asking where he was..... I just don't know what the hell I'm doing. I love the guy I'm with. But I can't help but think about my baby's father :(

[excitedmommy62013]

I would never have the baby around him. It was just me simply saying I had an impulse to see if he was OK. And contact him because I missed him. And I'm just wondering why this is happening all of a sudden. I was fine basically my whole pregnancyaand now that I'm 3 weeks away. All of these feelings and memories and blah blah came back. And its just confusing.

[excitedmommy62013]

Thank you guys. I just don't ever have anyone to talk to. And I'm either completely alone or with my boyfriend. I most definitely don't want to get back with him. I just miss him sometimes and wish he would just be a normal guy and be apart of his sons life. But I'm just coming to and realizing that's never going to happen. I'm just hurt by the whole thing. I'll get over it. Thanks

[mrsMartinez91]

Don't downgrade. You need some one who's gonna be there for you and baby no matter what. If he's only gonna get your hopes up and leave dont go back. Plus being in and out of jail doing drugs isn't gonna be healthy for baby or you.

[chocobella]

If u have a good man who is there for u and loves u and ur baby and u r happy with the man in ur life right now then don't mess that for urself.ur bd is an adult and made a bad choice for abondening u.move on and live ur life happily with the one who loves u and there for u.

[Mrsortega]

Hun this is no longer a situation were "I" can be used. If you go back to that situation then you're taking not only you but you and your child. Do you want your child to be raised around someone doing drugs and in and out of jail? Or a man who treats you right and the child which isn't his but treats it like his own. Just be aware what you're putting you and your baby into. Good luck sweet heart!

[MrsPaige]

Tay9662 couldnt have said it better!!!

[katngary143]

Its normal to think about the father of your child bc itd thr father of your child and u guys have that bond so u r entitled to feel the way u feel but obviously he hasnt stepped up to the plate and is doing him right now this other guy seems alot better for u..I just think u r emotions are just running high and u r confused which is ok but I think u know deep down inside which guy to be with..

[Tay9662]

girl if he didnt treat you good and the guy your with now does and you know hes going to love that baby you shouldnt leave him for less