Should I feel bad?

[starryktty]

It seems as if everyone around me is getting pregnant. My best friend recently found out she is 11 weeks. Also, two women I knew in school are now 6 and 4 months pregnant. I have been trying for almost two years now with no luck. I have this overwhelming feeling of jealousy towards them and I am starting to feel bad that I do. I am happy for them, but I just hate how it is so easy for everyone and I have to struggle. Am I wrong for feeling this way? It's just so hard to smile back.

[BeautifulPrincess]

Don't feel bad. Your turn will be soon. Maybe its not time yet for you to have a baby. If I was you just be happy and be there for your friends. maybe get a ovulation kit and eat healthy for 4 months.

[sweetangel7]

I soo understand the whole jealousy thing!  It is completely normal!  I had a mc last year and three people I worked with were pregnant alongside me and then my single, jobless, living at home, younger cousin got pregnant and was due a month after what would have been my due date so her baby is pretty much the same age as what mine would have been.  I was sooooooo jealous...I couldn't even go to her baby shower (I did send a gift which was difficult enough!), I couldn't see her at Christmas (I had mc about a week before Christmas so it was all too fresh for me).  It sounds silly but I was even jealous of people on here that I didn't know lol  Anyways, one day, I let it all go...some time you will have a moment of awakening and you will be able to let it go but until then, try your hardest to move forward and stay positive!

[jjsh44]

Absolutely not you should feel bad.  You are human it is ok.  Also, because it's making you feel bad about it that just shows what a good person you are.  I remember always feeling exactly what you are going through.  Dh and I would be with friends at dinner or a party or something and everyone would always ask "so when you are two going to have children?"  I know it's because they were just wondering but I would totally freeze.  I didn't feel like I was a woman you know?  People who weren't even "trying" would call up and say we're pregnant!  I mean of course we were happy for them.  But deep inside we couldn't help but to feel some sort of jelousy or remorse.  I totally understand.  Hang in there.  We are all here for you!

[leighanne143]

it is totally normal what you are feeling.  after my 2nd MC in 5 months, i could not even be around another pregnant woman.  I did have to sit down and have a talk with myself though about the bad energy i was releasing.  I convinced myself to start think positive thoughts and low and behold it worked and i got pregnant and did not have a miscarriage.

Have you been to your doctors to have tests run to see if you have PCOS and maybe need clomid or glucophage?  if you ahve been trying for 2 years with no luck, insurance usually pays to have some work up tests.

[kikicoates78]

No it's normal to feel that way, trust me I was that way for 5 yrs! As long as your not wishing bad thoughts on them....that would be mean, your time will come honey, and it will all be worth it in the end! Good luck dear!