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So I plan on keeping the father of my daughter away. 

He says he "gave" me this child because it was his "sperm" and that he doesn't give a damn about me and that he should do anything for me. Just for her. Which I get, it's fine too. But I at least deserve respect and he is simply immature and negligent. 

He will not be on the BC or anything but he says he will come to my house walk in and take her. How can I stop this? I'm due in 3 weeks or less and I'm scared he will just steal her away. I don't even want him to meet her!

mommylex · Answer

I just want this to be over with. I would hate to take the long route but I'm very willing to do things legally only. We can't make amends apparently. He just doesn't want too! I don't want him to take her and never give her back! It's scary as hell. I'm going to try to get a restraining order.

brooke_mama92 · Answer

Even if hes not on the birth certificate he has rights if paternity has not been established he doesn't have rights you need to get to a courthouse family court deals with stuff like this and you can start the custody papers so if he gets a hair up his butt about having a dna test custody is already established or in the process.  I made the mistake of not getting custody papers with my son now I have to let the pos see him every friday to sunday

KitnRod14 · Answer

Court can force dna test whether one parent agrees or not. Not a good idea. I've went thru this with a friend and the dad name wasn't on the bc they forced a dna test. So really you can't refuse a dna test and you would get in to big trouble for lying that he's not the father. You should discuss this matter with the police and see what they say. That way he can't take bub off etc.

Ftm1994 · Answer

I wouldn't put him on BC that way he can't get any rights to your baby. I'm putting my fiance on the BC because he was the one there for me not the real baby daddy. The real baby daddy denied his son from the beginning. He will not be seeing his kid at all. Good luck hun.

cinthia1995 · Answer

He has the same rights even if hist not on the birth certificate. Save msgs were he tell you that hes going to harm you or take the baby have prof then put a restraining order or talk to authorities .

mumma2bee · Answer

All you have to do is lie n say he isn't the father. Sounds shady but he seems crazy. He can try taking you to court but if you say he isn't the only potential dad they can't force you to do a DNA test on your child.

mommylex · Answer

He does have a drug record. He got discharged from the marines for that exact reason.

mommylex · Answer

She's not born yet is it valid to make a restraining order right now? I'm willing to give him visitation and stuff ONLY if it's done legally that way there are no excuses or none of this "he said" "she said" stuff but he refuses.

February13boy · Answer

This can get very ugly if it goes to court. If he doesnt have a record or drugs n his system they will grant him visitation etc. U cant keep a man away from his child if he wants to b involved n takes it to court wether his name is on the bc or not Good luck

taianasmum · Answer

You can file a restraining order it's free. You just have to tell them that your afraid for you and your daughters life.

lwolfe520 · Answer

Make a police report and get a restraining order. Tell the hospital you dont want him there.

mstehley · Answer

You don't have to put him on the birth certificate if you don't want to... I don't know about at home but Iwwould definitely let the hospital know he is not welcome in your room and they will make sure security is made aware.  I would almost call your local authorities and ask thwm.. let them know he is threatening to steal the baby once she is born.. sorry dear! I hope everything works out.