Living Conditions (a long read)

[whitty93]

I'm living at my boyfriend's dad's house and let me tell ya. Yuck! I'm 28 weeks pregnant and there is so much work to be done here. This house is so gross. I've tried over and over to clean it but nobody helps me. They leave garbage everywhere. They're too lazy to even flush the toilet it's that bad. The dad says he doesn't have germs..seriously.. My boyfriend and I live upstairs. Our room is pretty much always clean besides from the laundry sometimes. Another room upstairs ( that i wanted to turn into another bedroom) is stacked full or garbage. Even found mouse bones. Sick. At first I wanted to remodel the upstairs; floors, walls, etc.. but then found a lot of water damage because they roof was never capped.. It's not even worth it especially with their lifestyles. It would never stay clean no matter how much i worked on it..
     Anyway, i want to move out sooo bad. I tried talking to my boyfriend and he doesn't want to move out again.. He doesn't understand that babies cannot live in unsanitary conditions.. We both have jobs, both have vehicles. But he wants to spend his money on play things for himself and refuses to understand we're having a kid this summer. I'm 20 will be 21 soon and he's 22. I don't know if I should move out on my own and try to get housing for a little while or what. I feel so stuck. I need advice :(

[whitty93]

I will probably stay at my parents house for awhile after baby comes. My boyfriend (who is the father) has sooooo many plans in the summer like concerts, races, camping, etc. I keep telling him it bothers me. I'd rather have him drive me to the hospital when I go into labor. His family doesn't help either, just keep inviting him to do stuff right by my due date. They think I'm a b**ch for not wanting him to do some things. I'm not controlling at all. He does things whenever he wants. It's just different when it comes to baby. He hates going to by OB appointments, there's always an argument before we go. Doesn't want to get out of bed. I'm so sick of feeling like I'm doing this alone.

[nanny_alijah]

My mom and sister are the same way! If he's not willing too and you know you can make it on your own then move out before you get to far ahead it'll take awhile to get housing but do put your name on the list to get help. I'm due next week and i'm just now packing my stuff to move and its a struggle!

[proudFTMTeTe]

if he doesn't want to move then let him stay but u shouldn't...a baby does not need to be.around filth find your budget n move before the baby gets there nine time outta ten he is going to follow u

[mommytrishalove]

And no offense but your boyfriend just doesn't seem to be doing a stunning job at preparing to be a daddy (if he is the dad) at least not supportive of your motherhood... and I think that is important to work on before baby arrives

[mommytrishalove]

Definitely get to where you are most comfortable with bringing your baby home to. I had to live with my grandmother a few months and it was disgusting plus she smoked in the house. I would never bring my baby there. Now I live with my mom since my husband is working in another state and we won't have a place for at least a few months. Do whatever you need to do though. I don't recommend you having your baby there if you feel as if it's not safe. Even if your only option is to tru to apply for housing benefits and what not... totally worth it for your child

[whitty93]

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