Babies in moms bed

[Lissaleigh]

How old was your baby when you started letting him or her sleep with you? And weren't you worried about squishing them or getting them caught in the covers?

[Sarah765]

Oh yeah and the actually being able to get sleep thing is a life saver!

[Sarah765]

I co slept from the start with mine, done properly it is very safe.  I love it and feel safer with them next to me.  I have never once rolled on them.  Its amaizing how even asleep you are completelly aware of them, there breathing, and where there at.  I do put them on the opposite side from my husband because he is a hard sleeper, plus i like to snuggle with him.  Studies have been done that have shown that your sleep patterns will start to line up together, and your breathing can help regulate their breathing.  Mine all were moved out at about a year, and have not had difficulties transitioning to their own bed (we have three kids) and as for sex life its never caused a problem for us :) we make use of the bassinet, bouncer, or simply find another room!

[Lindsmit]

Ive coslept with both mine. My son did till a month and switch over fine. Dont use its as a lazy excuse to feed every five mins if you breast feed. Ensure you get up and get a full feed or you will be feeding every five mins all day. But there dad is not in the bed and i beleive monther has the instinct not to squish them. He slept better and im not so worried about sids plus i get the sleep i need.

[Lissaleigh]

Thank you! You have been very helpful!

[Ashdub07]

If you have any other kinds of questions about this you can send me a message. Lol this thread is getting looooong!!

[Lissaleigh]

If I were to put him in my bed I think I wouldn't be able to use pillows or blankets

[Ashdub07]

I used to sleep like a rock but once you have a baby in the bed you will be surprised at how still and light you sleep.

[Ashdub07]

My daughter started sleeping with me the week I brought her home. My room was too hot so we slept on the couch then we out central h/a in and I was afraid the ceiling vent would blow in her face or something so I moved her in my bed. Then my second, the week I brought her home.
Never used a cosleeper

[Lissaleigh]

I wish I was a light sleeper. Never thought I'd say that lol

[sml143]

My son started sleeping with me first week home from the hospital..I wasn't nervous about it bc I sleep extremely light!!

[nixsie]

My hubby let our son sleep in our bed without me knowing while i was working nights and by the time i found out it was too late and he didt.leave our bed.until he was 3 and a half :(

[sml143]

Definitely don't do the cry it out method..he's too young for that..I'm a believer in the cry it out method but not until at least 8 months..I had to use it on my son so I didn't have to rock him anymore bc he would wake up every time I laid him down and within a week he was going to sleep on his own but like I said cry it out method is for older babies..if you want to Co sleep then give it a try!

[Lissaleigh]

Or daughter* sorry

[Lissaleigh]

So how old was your son when he started sleeping with you? Did you use a co sleeper? And how did you prevent squishing or suffocation?

[Ashdub07]

Also with new babies, this is from experience with the husbands mistress' baby which we thot was his but really wasn't....she used to let him scream and scream and he ended up with an umbilical hernia. It was aweful the poor widdle guy :((

[Ashdub07]

If you WANT to try cosleeping don't let anyone put you down. Different strokes for different folks. My sex life was just fine just have to get creative. And honestly nothing put that spark back like sneaking around the house like a couple of teenagers in heat! Haha but like i said, different strokes. I love sleeping with my kids. I'm only 24, and I ask my 6 yr old sometimes if she wants to camp out in moms room and she says umm no way dude. :( It's a sad day when they don't want you anymore lol

[mommabear27]

Poor you :(   Do what you feel is right, have you asked your midwife or health visitor what they recommend?   I couldn't let my baby scream it out either, I'd get too upset listening to him, x

[Lissaleigh]

Thanks for all the input everyone!

[Lissaleigh]

Yes I don't like him to cry out for too long. Not my thing. I just pray one of these days something I try works! The swaddle thing under the arm pits seems like a good idea, ill try that tonight.

[jwilliams81]

Also try swaddling only legs not arms. Wrap blanket under armpits. The blanket won't go in mouth and he may learn to self soothe if he can find his fingers. I personally can't let baby cry it out that's me. I'd rather be up 2 hours at 3am than have her scream.

[breee08]

And nothing ruins your sex life like a baby in the bed

[Ashdub07]

Boo! I don't know, lady. :( I also think my kids get sick of seeing me so much every day that night is their only escape from me lol!! I'm sure you'll figure it out though.

[breee08]

Don't give up! Once you get a routine down, you'll be able to get the baby to sleep. Keep him awake around dinner time until your ready to put him to bed. Then lay him down and prop a bottle. You gotta teach your baby everything, including bed time :)

[Lissaleigh]

That's my thing. He's so small I just don't think it's safe right now