Husband help

[farO_jan]

I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my second child. I want to know if all men are caring when their wife or partner is pregnant. Every time I complain about some thing my hubby tells me its not my first pregnancy. I get so mad to the point that I start to yell al him. How do I make him understand my problems? He is a loving and caring guy but he believes

[Lesley27]

Ya no my guy is absolutely clueless and hasnt changed with this pregnancy...  when we were trying to concieve and would talk about another baby i told him over and over that he had to be more supportive... somedays he almost seems like he wants to help then the next day not so much! i told him next time he gets the flu that im gonna make a list of tasks for him to do and then to try to go through the nauseousness for months and then he might have a clue lol i wish he had a clue that it really is hard to be pregnant... so FYI not all mommies to be are so lucky as those other ladies! and i should note that my guy is a really hard worker out of the house, he has a job and we have cattle so i get he does a lot but somedays i still wish he wouls step up for me

[MsKitty84]

I think this is pretty normal. This is our first and he has been  under a lot of stress with a business startup. With me pregnant he feels like he has to do everything and is not handling it well -- basically told me he couldn't focus on or deal with anything except his precious company for the foreseeable future. Wrong thing to say to a very hormonal lady! LOL we are slowly working it out but it's been rocky to say the least.

[farO_jan]

Thanks for the comments ladies!!!! Will deff teach my hubby, and hopefully he'll understand me.

[Kelci0104]

I had some issues with my husband, but we're both very young and he just doesn't show much emotion as it is. If it's something he really cares about you can see it, but it's almost like he tries to hide it because he's afraid he'll lose what he cares about most. He's the sweetest guy and is kind to everyone, but just doesn't get overly excited about things. Finally I'd had enough and talked to him about how I felt he wasn't involving himself except for at the appts. We had a bit of a tiff, but the next day he apologized and has lately been voicing his opinions and feelings about the pregnancy. Lol he's really anxious to know the gender. :) He's also been more caring about me and more attentive. Although he wasn't super bad before, he just sorta hid in his video games, which is a defense he has when trying not to show emotion.

[breonsun]

My fiance was worse.  He had no understanding...I tried to get him to read books and articles to get a better understanding on what I'm going through and why I was so emotional, but he would only say "can't no book tell me nothing...you can control your emotions". I even offered to read to him, but he declined.  He told me that I can't "use" my pregnancy as an excuse. Needless to say, three days after finding out that I was pregnant, he decided that he didn't "like" to see me crying and that he counldn't deal with the minor mood swings and he left me.

[Ms_ro]

Yeh he should be patience with u during this time & u need a lot of attention. Its normal for us pregnant women to feel this way...My hubby does everything for me he even shave my legs that I can't reach lol & he is so sweet not to make me do anything.

[bthatch]

My husband is doing something similar to yours. He expects me to carry on as normal (which is fine I want to) but if I ask for anyhelp he says your not crippled your pregnant. I don't know what to do about it though. Just wanted to let you know your not alone

[farO_jan]

He loves me, there is no doubt in that. But I just feel he should be more supportive of me and even when I complain. He does have a sweet side, but I just want to see more of it now that I am pregnant. Am I asking for too much attention?

[Mommyjeep11]

At the beginning of my 2nd pregnancy my husband was kind of a jerk. But after realizing that this pregnancy is much different than our first. My pregnancy with my son went very smooth and this one has been very stressful with lots of complications and bed rest. But now he is being a sweetheart and is even helping with house work and changing our sons pull ups when he has an accident which used to NEVER happen. But I'm also a lot bigger at this point in my pregnancy than I was with my son. I haven't gained any weight still but I was barely showing with my son at this point as now at 25 weeks I look like I'm almos full term! Hopefully your husband comes around soon. Til then I would just try to ignore him or tell him that his comments aren't wanted.

[mommybear0710]

Does he ever have to depend on you for support? We are on our 3rd baby and my hubby is very understanding and kind, he even paints my toes and lotions my legs but we have a give and take relationship he got his arm caught in a machine while we were dating and even though we hadn't been together long I took care of him, then 1 1/2 years ago he fell out of a shelf system and the metal ripped his finger off so I went back to work full time and took care of him and never missed a doc appointment or physical therapy session. He understands what it feels like to need someone to lean on. Maybe explain to him that doing it before doesn't make it any easier, some women are lucky and have easy pregnancys but most aren't in my experience and just because you've had the flu before does'nt make it easy the next time.

[la_reina87]

In my opinion, each pregnancy gets a little more difficult. Well at least for me anyways, I feel like my body is way more sore with my 4th than I was with my 1st or 2nd. After we've had babies our bodies just ain't what that uses to be lol.

[la_reina87]

Idk... My husband babies me a lot when I'm pregnant! This is our 4th baby, and he still babies me as is it were our first! He even shaves my legs and trims and paints my toe nails when I can't get past the bump to do it myself! And looking at him you wouldn't imagine he would be such a teddy bear! But I thank God for blessing me with him and our children!

[farO_jan]

a woman needs to be strong.