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Midwife vs. OB
ok, i just called about 10 different ob/gyn offices in the area. we only have 3 hospitals that deliver babies...... and only one has waterbirthing. and not all ob/gyn offices are affilated with which hospital i choose. uhh, so confusing. ANYWAY..... sorry for rambling on............. what do you think about a birth with a midwife vs. an OB.............
tell me all you know........... im getting confused....... do midwives help you with breathing throughout labor? or maybe other techniques???? LET ME KNOW GIRLS....... I want to get everything to go like i plan on. (first pregnancy i saw like 3 or 4 diff docs. --- i couldnt connect with any of them........ I hope this time around will be different!!)
tell me all you know........... im getting confused....... do midwives help you with breathing throughout labor? or maybe other techniques???? LET ME KNOW GIRLS....... I want to get everything to go like i plan on. (first pregnancy i saw like 3 or 4 diff docs. --- i couldnt connect with any of them........ I hope this time around will be different!!)
My previous birth experiance i basically had no control over it, i didnt know how to control it......... i never did research on how a midwife or ob differ from one another. i too once thought that an ob just delivers babies, not that they are mostly for high risk patients. This was posted up here just to here everyones opinion on how there birth went with either a CNM or OB. If you have never delivered then obviously you dont know the difference yet................... Bc you do not know what your doctor/ob will try to convince u with or how that doctor will stick with your birth plan...................... that was the sole purpose of this post............ ;) any more thoughts girls ;) everyones experiance isSO diferent!!!! wow......
In sorry you feel the way you do and I wish things were different for you and many in you situation. In the back of our minds mine for sure... Speciaists are needed for high risk and obviously a natural child birth isnt for everyone like in your situation. Evrything stated above is true though but we all know that not all obs are bad, it is just as a whole that naturally delivery is best unless you are high risk and you can't just hide things incase it may hurt somones feelings and not cater to no risk be only worry about high risk. Everyones opinions here seem to cater to both I for one am not high risk and am quite capible of having a natural birth. I 'need' to hear(read) the things mentioned above. It is common sense that high risk needs doctors and extra care and we all know this. I am sorry it bothers you however and I wish you well and I am sure you will be in good hands. This is it first and I want a natural birthing experience.
thank you, i really appreciate your post...it made me tear up a little...lol again with the hormones....but thank you.
it really hit home with how im feeling.
it really hit home with how im feeling.
No matter what anyone in these posts have said, you are making the RIGHT decision for you and your baby. As I have said in my previous posts, my OB is fantastic. She has a great bedside manner and will do anything possible to follow my birth plan.
It all boils down to one thing...having a healthy baby. That's it, nothing more. The rest is icing on the cake. You do not have a choice between OB and midwife, but the bottom line is always the same. A baby. You have a medical condition beyond your control and the health of your baby is FAR more important than a person's title.
There is no way any delivery cannot be "natural". I have always disliked that term as it does make those that cannot do it a certain way feel less. If that baby comes out of you, whether it be vaginally, c-section, induced, medicated, or otherwise, it is natural and don't let people make you feel bad about it.
I'll tell you something. You know what I remember most about my delivery? It wasn't the person that actually delivered my son or the title of that person or how they spoke or anything like that. It was his very first cry and seeing that wonderful sweet face. That is the miracle of birth. However we get there, that is what it is all about. :)
It all boils down to one thing...having a healthy baby. That's it, nothing more. The rest is icing on the cake. You do not have a choice between OB and midwife, but the bottom line is always the same. A baby. You have a medical condition beyond your control and the health of your baby is FAR more important than a person's title.
There is no way any delivery cannot be "natural". I have always disliked that term as it does make those that cannot do it a certain way feel less. If that baby comes out of you, whether it be vaginally, c-section, induced, medicated, or otherwise, it is natural and don't let people make you feel bad about it.
I'll tell you something. You know what I remember most about my delivery? It wasn't the person that actually delivered my son or the title of that person or how they spoke or anything like that. It was his very first cry and seeing that wonderful sweet face. That is the miracle of birth. However we get there, that is what it is all about. :)
i dont really know how to explain myself on this one....im sure im probably just being an emotional, hormonal freak (excuse me, its been that kind of a week) but this post sort of makes me feel like im making a crappy decision. i wanted an as close to all natural birth as possible and i wanted a midwife and a very calm quiet delivery and i wanted to avoid a C-section at all costs...But, i have a rare medical condition that makes it so i Can't choose a midwife...they take one look at my chart and shutter. i have to see a high risk OB with all of my children weather i like it or not.....i will NEVER get to experience a "normal" ..."healthy",,,,"natural" delivery. it hurts my feelings that those of you who think midwifes are the best way think its the only way to have a natural delivery because here i am talking with everyone in my clinic to try and get the most natural birth that i can and you guys going on raving about how natural and amazing having a midwife is sort of makes me feel like you are looking down on those of us who dont have one....or who cant have one. and i know you say that OB's are here for high risk/ c-section patients and thats what there good for but then its like ....thats your one line,,,thats all there good for. well what about the ones who actually dont have a choice...id like to hear great things about OB's too because this is the only way i can ever go and you guys jumping up and down about how amazing midwives are and how s hitty Ob's are does not make me feel like im gonna have a very awesome birth experience because according to you guys he wont have any bedside matter and will treat me like s hit. so thats great. because my medical condition keeps me from a midwife i wont get any bedside manner and will regret that forever?
i dont want to personally attack anyone but im just please asking that maybe some of you think about those of us who HAVE to have it this way....who arent aloud to make a choice. i have a clinic with 10 high risk ob's i wont know who will actually deliver me on that day and i have 4 specialists involved in my pregnancy...but i deserve to have a baby and my birth plan isnt wrong...even if it isnt much of a plan :(
i dont want to personally attack anyone but im just please asking that maybe some of you think about those of us who HAVE to have it this way....who arent aloud to make a choice. i have a clinic with 10 high risk ob's i wont know who will actually deliver me on that day and i have 4 specialists involved in my pregnancy...but i deserve to have a baby and my birth plan isnt wrong...even if it isnt much of a plan :(
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