Midwifes without children

[Toni100388]

This may sound odd but do any of u ladies have male midwifes or female midwifes with no children. My midwife shared with me that she doesnt have any children and its odd because I kind of feel like how can u answer any of my questions or concerns if u cant relate to ever being pregnant. I know college and universities teach u so much but u've never experienced the joys and pains of pregnancy and labor and delivery.

[Spiket77]

I don't think it's odd that there are male midwives and have been since the 70s. It's not as common as male OB/GYNs but I don't find it odd at all. Also, I don't think it's odd for a midwife not to have children. Maybe she doesn't want children or maybe she just hasn't started having children yet.
My doula doesn't have any children. After I had my first I decided it was good she didn't because I think she stays more calm then i could in the presence of another woman in labor.  I really believe it gives her a different perspective that is calming and relaxing in that chaos. I imagine it could potentially be the same with a midwife.
I'm sorry your midwife was rough you. You need to just tell her you need her to be more gentle. You could probably even ask her about the kid thing. I bet she has been asked before.

[Aaron_N_SophiasMommy]

I loved my obgyn, he was informative, caring, gentle. Only thing I didn't like was his staff nurses,receptionist were either interns or fresh out of college. I had an anxiety/panic attack each time I went in to get blood drawn.

[mommyd2012]

Before we moved I had a male ob/gyn! He was amazing! I have always had females and they just wrote me off! Almost like I should of known how all that scary stuff was suppose to feel or be! With the male doctor he takes the extra time to make sure you understand and is in good hands....maybe it's a way to prove to me he knew what he was doing! I however hated and I do mean HATED his midwife she was very unprofessional and just threw off that vibe I was wasting her time at MY appointments! I simple requested to see him every visit and told them if it's not possible to see him (usually due to him doing an emergency delivery) to reschedule me!

Now don't get me wrong....after the move I couldn't find a male ob/gyn so I am back with a female who also has two different mid wife's! I love this doctor too but it most likely because she has been doing it for 30+ years! I trust her and I figure if she hired the mid wife's obviously they were up to her level of care or she wouldn't have them in her practice under her name!

I'm also in the same boat with our peditrician! The old one I had set up was actually mine when I was growing up but once we moved I had to find a new one! The doctor I found is only 32 years old and been practicing for 3 or so years but the group practice that he is with is highly recommended and the guy that is ahead of it has been also practicing medicine for over 40+ years! So again if this doctor thinks te doctor we were placed with is up to his level of care....we don't have a problem with his fresh out of medical school background!

I guess it just comes down to your preference! If your not comfortable with the midwife I would just request seeing the doctor! They can not refuse you to see the doctor! (unless they are on an emergency call or delivery!) This is a situation that if you really are not comfortable with the care (or lack of first hand pregnancy experience) you need to inform your doctor!

Hope everything works out!

[having_twins]

I've had rough female and male doctors.I think it really depends on the person.

[Toni100388]

Oh I DEF TOLD HER

[MissKellee]

oh by all means yell at her and tell her she can learn to be a little nicer about it and not be so rough!

[Toni100388]

Idk Ive never had a male OBGYN. I don't think I would feel comfortable with another male seeing my lady parts other than my husband. I know a few women who don't mind males..I say to each her own. But I could believe that males are more gentle. My midwife is a lil rough, two weeks ago she was checking my cervix and she was ramming her fingers up there which made me very uncomfortable.

[MissKellee]

i really like this question!! but have you ever noticed that Male OBGYN's seem to be more careful and are more thoughtful towards pregnant women as opposed to women OBGYNs...Males really dont understand what women go through so they just try being careful.....or at least thats how my doctors are...