did i do something??

[ashdensmommy]

Here lately it is like i have to force my man to even hug or kiss me. i am 21 weeks pregnant and don't even look it at all. But anyways i will use today as an example of what i have been dealing with-- he comes home from work and goes straight to the room to turn on his video games so i decide to go back and join him.. i asked if i could play and he didnt answer, i ended up going into town for a few thingsand came back, i told him dinner was done and that i love him and no answer.. he then walks out an hour later and says "its cold" talking about his food. I blew him off and asked to join him playing his game again and he said "im trying to level up" i said well id like to spend time with you and do something with you so he tossed the remote into my lap and said fine then. by this time im in tears and he gets mad at me. so i started cleaning and then he turned the game off and said its time for bed. i just dont understand what i did? :(

[sbaby1212]

I ******* hate the video games. Omg with an intense passion I swear COD is all my boyfriend thinks about

[bunnyh88]

That was exactly my partners problem, his dad left when he was 6. My partner was so terrified of becoming a bad dad, that he started bein an arse so I would end it. I now realise aswel that when our son was born he got depression as the baby only wanted me. He id more understanding now of what a  newborn needs, and is ready for whatever this baby brings. Dont forget men take a lot longer to mature, and sometimes you have to force it on them. My partner now loves more because I made him realise what he would miss. He still apologises to this day for how aweful he was to me.

[newmom2012]

I agree with bunnyh88 before I got pregnant when I wanted my baby my husband  acted like that he still wanted to act like a kid saying that we were to young for that. I'm 27 and he's 28. Anyway I was like OK I'm not going to force u to give me a baby. So he stopped kissing and sleeping in the same bed. Made me feel like crap. He even started fights with me for no reason it got to the point were I couldn't stand to look at him. So I put him out and told him how he made me feel. He was gone for about two weeks when he came back we talked more he opened up about the fears of failing as a Dad because he didn't have one. 4 months after that he threw away my pills and knocked me up.LOL. do wants best for u and your baby.

[Raevicious]

Same thing happened to me but I wasn't pregnant. It was a long distance relationship and I moved there to be with him like he asked. Well, there was nothing. Always playing video games, we never even had sex! I moved into a different room and just stopped paying attention to me and I started living my own life. Soon enough I told him I was moving back home and he said he would miss me...a couple weeks later he's back with his ex, who shares the same name as me

[bunnyh88]

I went through a very similiar thing with my first baby, but my partner started drinking and name calling, hanging around with other girls, I was only 21 at the time and very paranoid. He eventually left me 3weeks before I was due sayin he needed time to think as he didnt no if he wanted to be a dad anymore. He came back  just before I was due, and everythin was fine for a few weeks. Things gradually went the way they had before, then worse and worse everyday. I kicked him out, made him get his own place amd grow up, it absolutely killed him but it worked! Hes the man I fell in love with again, and were expecting our second baby. My advice would be to do the same, make him grow up, its hard and heartbreaking to do, and it will go one of two ways. If it works then you will have your family, if he takes it as 'an easy way out' then as much as it will hurt for a while, you will no that you and your baby are better off alone. I hope this helps x

[ashdensmommy]

You are right!! I spend as much time as i can talking to my baby girl and telling her that i love her. she kicks like crazy when i talk. i am going to make a promise to myself, that no matter how upset anyone has me, i know that my baby girl loves me and needs me more than ever right now! <3 thanks for the support! My baby girl is awake and kicking like crazy now :) i cant believe how much i love her already!

[Amberly27]

I have gone through difficult times like this too with my boyfriend, constant fights to not sleeping in the same room. You have to remember its them not you and do not ever feel bad for being happy for your pregnancy. Regardless this is your child, although I know its sad but if your the only happy one for her then so be it. This is time you will never get back do not let anyone ruin it for you.

[ashdensmommy]

It just upsets me and when i get upset he gets mad. this would be his 6th baby... he has two that he sees all the time, two were aborted, i had a miscarriage and now im pregnant with this one. he doesnt even want to feel her kick or anything hes just not that into it i guess? It makes me feel bad, this is my first baby and im very excited but with his acting this way i am afraid to be happy for my baby. It is very hard, we also go into days where we dont sleep in the same room and he seems happier. it takes all i have to stay calm but here lately i just want to cry. my baby and i are already having problems with our oxygen levels being low... but honestly ever since his ex wife made the comment that he cant have a baby girl and that if he has this baby he wont treat their boys the same is when this started. It makes me feel like he wishes our baby girl was their baby girl sometimes :(

[jennkenn2000]

Let me tell you, I am going thru the exactttt same thing. Not video games n whatnot but my man is completlyyyy different the past couple months. I am 31 weeks. He doesn't hug, kiss me sleep in the same bed at times. I confronted him tonight said I think ur cheating. He swears up n down he's not. He says its not you, its me but I don't know what's wrong with me. I can't figure it out. I feel like my relationship is one sided. I am sooooo frusterated, I have tried to do everything possible to make it work. I don't know what else to do.... I soooo feel your pain. This is my 1st baby his 5th. Idk what to sdo girl. Ima pray for u.

[trying43]

Nothing. Sounds like he's the one with the issues.maybe try talking to him tomorrow when things are settled down a bit.  Good luck.