just some thoughts

[LACh1]

hi ladies

well another of my close friends has just told me they are pregnant.  I now have 4 that are pregnant and 2 who have newborns.  I have two children myself - Charlotte 3.5 and Harry 18 months and we plan on trying for a third at the end of this year or early next year, however i am finding it really difficult to hold out until then.  I have spoken to my husband and he says he is ready when i am but i know that i myself am not ready and would like a larger gap.  We are also going to try and sell the house at the end of the year and i am a head bridesmaid in late October. So all these things combined tell me it's fine and i should wait and not let others lives influence my own but i just wish my time would come again sooner lol.  I really want to be ok with all these pregnant people and i really want to enjoy my kids ages now without being tired or sick.  I also know that i will probably feel this way each time i find out a friend is pregnant in the future and that i can't just have 20 kids to keep up with everyone else. Anyway i know all the logical reasons but well i guess i just wnated to express how i was feeling to people who agree getting pregnant and having babies is so exciting and special.  

[LACh1]

gillianl - so sorry to hear of the trouble you are having getting pregnant - I now feel like a big winger asi already have 2 beautiful kids.  I didn't mean to complain just wanted to talk about how hard it it to wait and not feel left behind.  I readlly hope all works out for you and the wedding and house are lovely.  Sometimes concentrating on something else can help you to relax which I have heard is when many women who are having troubles fall pregnant.

[gillianl]

i know how you feel to an extent.  I don't have any kids and have been ttc for 3 years and have now been told IVF maybe my only solution.  In teh past 5-8 weeks i have heard of at least 6 family and friends who are pregnant and it always seems to be when 1 person conceives, they all conceive but i always seem to be left out which can be pretty frustrating.  i'm just concentrating now on saving for my wedding and for kids and i'm also keeping busy with decorating the house and things.  You will know when the time is right and when it is go for it, only you will know.  best of luck

[LACh1]

lol - the grass is always greener hey - i'm sure if i was to get pregnant now i would be saying what am i doing, i feel sick, am tired and how am i going to cope with another little one with 2 little ones already. But like you said you just cope with what you are given and yes i'm sure if you had waited another 6 months then it may have fitted into your plan better but then life is not always planned.  At this time I have a 3.5 year old who is not doing well with night time toilet training and an 18 month old who is badly teething and has tonsilitis - so being pregnant would be hard at this time.  oh well - thanks for all your thoughts.

[kristastewart]

I also had a bad case of baby fever, EVERYONE I knew was getting pregnant, eveywhere I looked all I saw was babies and pregnant women.  I am almost 6 months pregnant now and BUSY!! I have an 18 months old and a 9 yr old, I am constantly chasing after my toddler and busy taking my oldest to tap, swimming lessons. friends housed, school activities etc... I am exhausted.  With the nice weather here some days I wish I could just sit by the pool and have a cold STIFF drink..(i guess it is true that you always want what you dont have). not that I regret this pregnancy but sometimes I wonder if I should have waited 6 more months. I am honestly scared that come October Im not going to be able to manage with a newborn.  I know these fears are natural and that this baby is going to fit right in to our chaotic lives and be loved and cherished just like our other 2 girls but this is IT for me!!  

[JoyRenee]

I get baby fever when I hear all the announcements, too! But I, too, am holding off.

[jrobertson20]

It's a normal reaction when you also want something that other people are having.  I am pregnant for this first time.  We knew last year we were going to start trying in January as I would be done with nursing school by the time I had the baby.  Well talk about having it rubbed in your face I just so happened to have my OB rotation right when we decided to start trying in 1 year.  Seeing all those little babies and being there in the delivery room did not help my wanting at all.  Then my sister (my little sister) got pregnant with her second child also that semester.  OMG was I jealous.  So it's a natural reaction I think.  Don't worry I am sure in time you will be happy for them.  Good luck when you do start TTC.

[LACh1]

thanks for your comments and understanding, i know i am happy for my friends but am just haivng trouble waiting for 'my turn'.  I just need to remember that i already have two little ones who i had no trouble concieving and that we have a plan that will help us all if i stick to it.  I can't imagine what it would be like having to go through fertility treatments and all the ups and downs that go along with this - i was bad enough waiting the 1 and 2 months it took me to get pregnant with my two lol.

[nickieb85]

Ah ((((HUGS)))) I think that everyone on this site know how you feel. I have 2 boys (7 and 3 years--I always wanted a 3.5-4 year gap between each kid) and tried for over 30 months to get pregnant (22 weeks now) with my little girl. I never had a problem conceiving and was going through fertility treatments for a year before I gave up on them and cried every time I saw a pregnant women anywhere! I was just so crushed! I think that baby fever really kicks in when our littlest ones start to do bigger things and we are their mommies and want them to stay small forever! I think that you are being very responsible because you are realizing what is going on with you and your mind and body and are not giving in because your friends are pregnant. It is a very hard thing to do but I commend you for it!