Kind of a rant. Just need to get it off my mind.

[tamararae19]

I am currently 30 weeks and 2 days. And I just moved the beginning of this month, which was very exciting for both my boyfriend and I. It makes the fact that my due date is approaching fast, and now we can start setting up for the baby.

My mom has been nothing but cause a lot of stress on me throughout my entire pregnancy. I don't mean to sound selfish or anything, but it's like since I got pregnant, she's been trying to control everything in my life. She's been trying to say I have to do this and that, and makes a big deal over nothing. She will put her financial problems on me, and expects me to give her all my money. I don't live with her, haven't for over three years. I've asked her to back off, and to give me space because I know the stress isn't good for me or the baby. I did that, and she accused me of just causing a fight with her. I wasn't, I was just trying to get some space. I moved across the city to give us some more space, and now all she wants to do is come over. I don't have an issue every so often, but I just moved and haven't had much time to unpack. I haven't been feeling good, and the weathers been so up and down where I live, that doesn't help. I finally get energy to unpack and she kept telling me she was coming over, and I asked her to not because I wanted to get as much done as I could. I told her this, and she said I was being ungraceful and got mad at me. She also keeps trying to interfer with my boyfriends and my relationship, doing anything it feels to break us up. He's been nothing but short of wonderful throughout the entire pregnancy. She also just informed me, she booked off two weeks of work when I'm due. She than told me that she's staying at our place for that entire time. Both my boyfriend and I do not agree with this, we have nothing against people coming to visit, but do not want people stepping in. We want to have some time with the baby and give us a chance to get use to becoming parents.

Sorry that was a lot longer than I expected, I just needed to get it off my chest.

[tamararae19]

Oh I have talked to her, been straight out blunt, even been rude with it. I'm to the point if she doesn't back off, she won't be seeing the baby at all, or it will be a max of 30 minutes when I decide.

[ks_mommy85]

It may sound harsh... but sometimes a big dose of reality is what people need. Even family. Let her know that u don't need her at all. Let her know (even If u do have a problem with it) that u have no problem raising your baby completely without her. Let her know you don't need her. Don't return or answer calls or the door for a couple weeks. Let her see what being cut off feels like.  Best part is... you are pregnant... and we pregnant girls are known for being a bit emotional and over the top. No one can hold u responsible for being extreme.  Good luck lady. And hold your ground. Because after the baby gets here... it could get worse if you don't!

[missb94]

Sounds like you need to be straight to the point with her. It is your baby and you will make the decisions you want to. She needs to back off and let you do it yourself. Don't let her make you feel bad. Stand your ground and say you are doing it your way, you make the choices and if she doesn't agree then tough.
I know its hard to put it so bluntly but obviously nothing is getting through to her.
Take some time to yourself and don't let her in on anything and she may realise that's what will happen if she keeps being so pushy.

[tamararae19]

I have sat down and talked to her, she straight out told me she doesn't care what I think. She does everything I've asked her not to, I've asked her politely quite a few times. Anytime I try to bring it up again since, she says I'm being insensitive, selfish, and ect. And the weird thing is, the things with her trying to break us up, didn't start until the last two months. We've been together almost four years, and she's never had an issue at all.

[Mushroombaby1]

Firstly congratulations on your new home.. I'm currently still saving for mine and currently living with my partner and his mum so i know how you feel about your mother over stepping the mark.
my MIL is very old fashioned and disagrees with anything i want to do.. especially baby related. She even started an argument when we brought a bottlewarmer as was ununnecessary in her eyes. It's harsh but i think being blunt is the best possible option. She may be hurt but eventually she will understand that it's not her child and you are an adult and make your own choices. I had to do this with my MIL and we had a huge argument but now she seems to have respected mine and my partners choices with bringing up baby - although I'm only 23+6.
As for problems with your boyfriend regarding her just be blunt and tell her to keep her beak out.  
Good luck with everything and I hope you get it sorted :) x

[proudFTMTeTe]

Tell her how u feel sit down n have a heart to heart but the part with her taking off work to help is nice but maybe say u just want her to come over instead of staying the night even tho staying the night alot of help on u my mom comes over everyday n watches my baby girl so I can catch up on sleep seeing I'm up every 2-3 hours thru the night n still healing from labor u should take as much help as u can but limit it if she's getting to clingy