Teen, Need Help please

[NikkyS22]

I am 18 and so is my boyfriend we have been together for three years. I'm a senior and he's a freshman in college. We have had unprotected sex but he does use the pull out method. I am not on birth contorl. I have been feeling kind of odd the past two weeks. I have been sick feeling a few times at night and than one time in the morning drinking my coffee made me really sick. I do urinate more than usual. I am tired, normally i can stay up all night long and be fine but not sleep is all i want to do. I am have cramps in the center of my lower abdomne and I feel bloated all the time. I am expecting to get my period on the 8th or the 9th of october. I was wondering if there was a possible chance i could be pregnant. Also when he pulls out sometimes he gets off on my butt (i know to much info) and i noticed alot of times it just runs back in me. sorry for the info i just need some helpful information. Thank you

[NikkyS22]

I'm not really worried that I am. I am starting to get those period symptoms. I just felt weird when i felt bloated on month. I'm sure that must happen to alot of girls once in awhile tho. I've also been really gassy at night, that can also be a period thing i think. I'm not sure. I'm not worried about it because no matter what I know i'll be alright. Secretly tho I really do want a baby. I am extremly mature for my age. I have a job. I work in the health field. My teachers even grade me harder than everyone else in my classes because i'm so much more mature than everyone else. I hate it sometimes but it all works out. Than you guys for all your help. I'll let you know if i am or not. but just a heads up i'm pretty sure i'm not. Thanks for everything!!

[tandria03]

I just wanted to say not to jump the gun on thinking you are pregnant.  Since you period is not due until the 8th or the 9th, it is somewhat unlikely that you would be having pregnancy symptoms so early, though not impossible.  You can take a test that tests for hcg 4-5 days before your missed period.  (I know they are pricey)  If it is negative and you don't get your period, wait a week to take it again.  Its nervewracking to wait so long, but its not worth wasting money taking them every day.  If you turn out not to be pregnant , I would go to planned parenthood.  (I am assuming you have been there before) and find out if there are any other options for you for birth control that wont make you feel sick, or it they have alternative condoms. The pull out method is really unreliable.   If you are pregnant, it is great that you are against abortion.  All babies deserve the chance at life.  I am sure you will be able to provide a good life for the baby because you sound like you have the desire to put the baby first. That is one of the biggest keys to parenting. Good luck and I hope it goes well.     (Also if you are not pregnant and still feeling sick, it wouldn't hurt to go to the doctor and rule out things like anemia, mono etc.)

[Skylynns_mom]

No problem.  I just think it is good to let young mothers know that because alot of people think the opposite so I want people to knowi t is possible to have both.  A happy family and do the things you always wanted.

[NikkyS22]

That is so sweet! I know that I can do it. It maybe hard but i'm not worrying about it until i know that i'm 100% prego. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I love hearing those kinds of storys. Congradulations on everything. I'm sure your a wonderful mother to!! Good luck keep doing what your doing! Thank you for your support

[Skylynns_mom]

I am a young mother and still go to college and work.  Its doable, you just have to put your mind to it and use your child as a driving force to make its life better.  It works for me.  I was 19 when i had my daughter(18 when i got prego)  I am now 21, still working, still going to school, and we are happy.  My little girl is the world to me.  A baby doesn't stop your future or even get in the way of things you want to do.  A baby just brings you down a slightly different path towards those dreams/ goals.  A path that is more enjoyable by far.

[NikkyS22]

Thank you tons you really have helped me along with all of these laides. I never would have thought i'd be going through this. I'm glad that i can relate to someone to. I moved in with my boyfriends family when i was in 10th grade because of family problems. They are so kind to me and love me to death anyways. I'm just trying not to worry because i'm sure i'll be fine either way. I'm nervous about college and what i'll do if i am but that'll be something to worry about later in the year. I kind of think i'm not because my boobs aren't sore. They have started to feel a little heavier but that normally happens to me before i get my period. I love babies . I want to become a midwife. I know what you mean about the small town drama stuff. My gramp owns most of my town and he believes i should behave and not date. This would be a total shock to me and make a bad rep for him. Thats alright tho. Thank you ladies so much for your help. I will keep you poster

[ridgegirl1]

Hi Nikky,

It really sounds like you may be pregnant!  Just to let you know, my husband was doing the pull out method trying to prevent me from getting pregnant, and well, my daughter is now 12 1/2 weeks old!!!  So, that is definately NOT a form of birth control!

[Ayla_J]

Hey, Im glad it helped somewhat, and its weird because I was in the same place as you when I was 19, I was pregnant with my bf's baby and I was homeless living with him and his parents due to some problems with my family, and I totally understand where you are coming from..but just know this, that no matter what the in-laws say or may influence to you, im sure they wont want any harm for the baby due to it being "half" their son,and they will love you even more because their grandchild is going to be half you as well...so they will love you even more than before...babies usually bring everyone together...I was scared to tell the in-laws but whenever I got the guts I told them, and they were HAPPY. Their feelings with me were weird as you know, not many people like taking in the "homeless gf" , but whenever the baby was involved they treated me so good. Everything has been differant from that moment on...and I am very close with his family now... so just be brave like you already are. We seem to have alot in common! Keep me posted, I would love to know if you are or not.

[Ayla_J]

tell him, every man deserves the right to know he has a baby...or four...wow...thats quite the bundle...but its his human right to know, but like i said, its your human right to keep them no matter what any sperm donor may say....*sperm donor - father*  ......I cant imagine four.....Thats exciting, a lot of work, but exciting non the less.....They are going to have their own cliche in school, thats so awesome. be happy! lots of people cant even have one baby! You must be strong and do whats in your heart.

[DADDYSLITTLEPRINCESS]

I AM PREGNANT WITH FOUR BABIES ON THE WAY MY BOYFRIEND DOES NOT KNOW
SHOULD I TELL HIM OR NOT
WHAT SHOULD I DO.
RENEE IVANOV

[NikkyS22]

Thank you tons that really did help. I'm trying not to stress because we've messed up a few times in the past and i never got pregnant so i think theres a slim chance on me getting pregnant with the pull out method. I know being in a small town is awful everyone knows everything. I just hate that because i don't know what i would say to my bf's family. I live with them and they are extremly nice but i think they'd flip a lid if i was. I'm glad I can talk to someone else from a small town as well!

[Ayla_J]

btw i come from a small town as well...and i gotta say, that makes the situation harder....i hate the coffee time gossip...and everyone knows everything...its so sickening...lol. But dont take no **** from no one...you deserve to be happy no matter what.

[Ayla_J]

no matter what, you make the choice, its your body. and if he didnt want to keep the  baby and support you no matter what,then he shouldn't be having sex. plain and simple. to some guys it is all about pleasure, and they dont think of the consq. that are involved and abortions are a cheap way out for them. dont let a guy stress you, especially if you are pregnant. When my mother was pregnant with me, my parents made the decision to abort me, but my parents had too much guilt to go through with it...and they say they cant believe they even thought about it...im not trying to sound like a preacher, everyone has their own beliefs and situations, and everyone is in control of their own life, but just think about it thoroughly and make sure you do the right thing, and even if you do end up aborting, you may suffer alot of guilt....i have a friend whome is going through it right now. make sure YOU are happy.Good luck!

[NikkyS22]

Thank you ladies. I live in a really small town. Everyone around here is having babies its like its in the water. I'm nervous but i know everything will be alright. just scared to tell him if i am. i wouldn't know where to start because i'm against abortions and hes not. I guess we'll see what happens next week thank you so much for all your help!

[migsufferer]

I think you can use sheep's skin condoms.  I don't know if they protect against std or pregnancy.  check with a doctor.

[Ayla_J]

I believe there is an alernative condom for people who are allergic to latex....its made by something else, im not sure though, just sorta heard through the grapevine, you may want to look into that...other than that...I had the early symptoms of pregnancy before my period was expected on my first pregnancy so it could be possible,every pregnancy is differant...congrats if you are, and good luck either way...

[babyscience]

Well if you arent suppose to get your period until Oct 9th, I would say it is odd to have symptoms so early.  I dint get prego symptoms until I was at least at the end of week 5.  But I guess anything could happen.  If you are going to use the "pull out" method, I would suggest buying books about fertility and the rythm method.  Which means mid-cycle, when you release an egg...Stay away from having sex.  With this method you really have to know your body and the signs of ovulation.  But it still isnt a surefire method.  The only thing you can do now is wai for your period and then tes if you are late.  That is too bad birthcontrol doesnt agree with you, it would be so much easier

[NikkyS22]

I am 18, I've tried about 11 different birthcontrols they have all made me sick, bleed everyday i took them, i've had the shot that turned out horrible. I've tried alot so me and my boyfriend started using condoms.. turns out i'm alergic to latex to. It would be odd if i was pregnant because my mom is pregnant as well she is 16 weeks and its a baby boy. My JMG teacher told me that is sounds like i might be and that kinda scared me. I got really light headed in his room the other day and had so sit down and i do get headaches really easily now. The thing that worried the me the most is how hungry i am lately. I eat and i'm full than all of a sudden i'm hungry again. Thank you for your help. If I end up being pregnant i know this baby will have a good life. Thank you once again

[Ethan/Kayleigh's Mom]

Pulling out is not a surefire method of protection, you should be on birth control if you indeed do not want to have a baby.  Also sperm can travel into your vagina if ejaculated outside of it, they are very determined little guys.  I hate to tell you but you could be pregnant.  I'd take a test to be sure and I'd also talk to your parents about it and the possiblility of gettin on birth control.  It won't probably be an easy conversation but it would be better than a baby you aren't really prepared for.  Good luck!