PLEASE READ THIS EVERYONE DONT BE OFFENDED THIS IS JUST MY OPINION

[sexyhot_dandy]

I understand people here are tryin to conceive babies and loosin babies which is very sad and i know it hurts but please remember to respect everyone opinion regardless if u like ir or not am not please with some of wat u all said to Jban seems harsh it hurts to me see someone is here to get advice and help and because some of u are against abortions u decline to give advice and tell her to find another forum this makes me mad am against abortion 100% when i was young i had 2 of them one when i was 16 cause my mother made me and another later on in life this change my life forever i wanted to dy i want to kill myself and i took me years to get over i felt everything for my last abortion they didnt put me to sleep this change me i took nearly 7 yrs to go back to normal again.  Instead of tellin JPan u will not advice her and find another forum u should tell her wat an abortion is and provide comfort regardless of her decision and opinion i hope i didnt offend anyone but i was touch by wat i read i think i wasnt fair to her because of something we are against

[g8r grl]

The name of this forum is "Pregnancy 34 and Other", not "Trying to conceive." The people on here who are considering abortion are in a difficult situation and are looking for help.

I have a 17 month old son and have never had an abortion. I know what it's like trying to conceive and the disappointment month after month when you can't. At the same time, I am completely pro-choice, because having a baby isn't always the best choice for everyone. There was another post on here recently about a 16 yr old who was raped and got pregnant. People were actually telling her to have the baby....that's absolutely crazy! Shame on the people who were pushing her to keep a child that was the result of violence.

I know most of the people on here are trying to conceive, but that's not only what this forum is for. I think we could all be more considerate and give these women the help and advice they need instead of yelling at them.

Just venting...

[kcs08]

Many have said she should have looked at a different forum-I only saw one for adoption on medhelp.org. None on abortion. Abortion wasn't even her question!!!  Her questions were pregnancy related.  I know there are many other places she could have looked but she probably just googled her question and it sent her here.  Let's just be supportive not attacking!

[sexyhot_dandy]

am sorry if i sayin i had 2 abortion offended u u dont have to respect me i ask God for forgivness and am sure he did understand y i did what i did as i said before everyone is equal and deserves to the same love and affection.

[sexyhot_dandy]

am not here to judge anyone we do what we have to do all i wanted to point out is show the girl some love regardless wat her decison is u never know she may change her mind.

[njeosys]

Ladies, it doesn't matter if the woman wanted advice on abortion and this is a pregnancy site. You need to speak to them with love and offer solutions, NOT attack her. I work at a pro-life pregnancy center and we have people wanting information all the time on abortion. We never tell them what they can and cannot do. We show them love and if they are willing, we show them options. Some hang up on us and others CHANGE THEIR MINDS and end up keeping their babies or giving them up for adoption.

Kindness is key when you might be dealing with someone considering abortion. Show her love, show her the love you have for her unborn baby, and offer solutions. Never attack or she WILL have an abortion and live to regret it.

Let's not attack one another either. kjbutcher was right when she said it could've been a troll, too. But always treat every poster as though they are being honest JUST IN CASE they really are in trouble.

You can have your beliefs, but please try to address them in a mature, non-judgmental way or don't post at all. If you truly want to help, then you'll do that.

[KellyA74]

Hi There...I think that you are referring to the comment that I made on the others post.....I was simplay trying to help her out in saying that if this is something that she wants to discuss, in depth, with others, that she may find a more benficial website that is molded to what is going on in her life and what choices she plans on making...I in no way was telling her NOT to visit this forum, simply suggesting that she may find more answers in another.  Sorry about the confusion.