This year I have been really good, but in my teenage years I have struggled with various mental illness and at times it has been very serious.
I am going to start trying to get pregnant soon, and as a result, I think I am going to lose one of my closest friends, who doesn't believe I am stable enough.
I have tried to explain that I am so much better now, that I am supported emotionally and finantially, that this is an overpowering instinctive urge, what I feel is right for me, what I believe I have to do, what I believe I will be best at, what has always been my biggest dream of all - ever since I was 13, I have wished I would just wake up pregnant one day.
But she can't get over my past.
I am deeply upset, that I have to give up my friend, in order to have my baby. Has anyone else experienced similar judgement, or loss of friends? Because people don't think you can deal with it?
As for your friend, I would think that if your "friend" was truly a friend she would support you with your choices rather than turn her back on you! And I know this sounds bad but you can do this without her. I don't have many friends, I have never been one for friends, I go through phases of having them. They revert back into acquaintances after short periods of time. I have lost friend's and family from falling pregnant but I've come to realise they don't matter. I told my brother I was pregnant and he told me to get an abortion, I told him where to go and now he isn't gonna be a part of mine or my son's life.
Some mental health might be genetic but you cross that bridge when it comes to it and you get all the help and support you need.
I think your friend is selfish and I wish you all the luck in the world. Don't let anyone make you think twice about having this baby. You will be a great mother!