giving the child his last name...

[mom2be225]

So the father of my child and I are not together anymore, and I am having trouble deciding if I should give the baby his last name. He wants to be involved in the baby's life, and so far has been there for the appointments and such. Part of me feels like it's only right to since he wants to be involved. But I'm torn. Any suggestions?

[linderman3]

My daughters bio dad and I aren't together anymore. At the time we were I still had my daughters name hyphenated instead of just giving her his or just mine. When she gets a little bit older she can decide which one she wants to keep or have both.

[Baybeemommaaa]

i gave my son my last name & his fathers name . Adrian Matthew Navarro Tejeda , & im having another one by him & if its a girl it will be Jareli Marie Navarro Tejeda & if its a boy its Antonio Nathan Navarro Tejeda. It doesnt change the rights to anything , & for some reason he has to pay childsupport if i didnt even put it on him ?

[katiekat22]

I went through almost the same situation but my former partner and i are no longer speaking and i was in the same situation but since we're no longer talking or anything i decided my child is going to have my last. Good luck with your decision and i hope the best for you!

[Brittani_Alford]

I gave my son his dad's last name, out of respect that he's the father and we aren't together but he helps me and buys anything for his son.

[Kjens12]

I personally would give the child my last name in the situation. People are saying it's his child, but it's also your child. If you will be the primary care taker I think the child should have your last name. It should not affect him having to pay child support. Also, a joint last name isn't a bad idea, then he won't be as upset. If you're in doubt, go with your last name. It is much easier to change it to his later. If you put his and want to change it to yours you will have to have him sign off on it.

[mom2be225]

Yeah I don't know if he would walk away one day. I mean I hope he doesn't. We've known each other since we were 12, and since he has come around and wants to be there and goes to the appointments with me and everything I don't see him walking away. It's hard having someone's baby that you are no longer with. It's stressful.

[kiwi6511]

If you are second guessing the situation I would just go ahead and give baby your last name. You can still get child support if need be and what if someday he just decides to walk out on him/her?

[mom2be225]

Thanks everyone for the advice!  It's very appreciated.

[mpattea]

U can still get child support if the baby has ur last name...but I wouldn't give my baby his last name n if u have to think about it then just give ur child ur last name  

[12_4_14]

If you dont you cant get child support from him, unfortunately im in confusing situation with the birth certificate. The babys dad wants nothing to do with the baby, but my bf has decided he wants to be the father even though its not his. But if my bf signs the birth certificate and takes his last name, i cant get child support from my babies biological dad.

[RedMommy20]

Don't do it if he wants a DNA tests only because he's doubting the child instead of accepting his responsibility. Just give the child your name to make it easier for yourself.

[showard022]

Is her kid to though. If you worried about it already I would really think about it.

[mom2be225]

Well at first he was an ******* to me when I found out. Telling me to take him to court and get a dna test. We weren't together long before I got pregnant, but we have known each other for years. Now he's back with his ex gf and I kind of feel like that's the only reason he is being okay with things now. Part of me is worried that he will eventually just stop wanting to be there also bc of her. That's why idk if I should or not

[squidbabeh]

Why not a conjoined last name. Like Smith-Williams or etc.

[showard022]

Married*

[kay1027]

I would put his last name unless he is abusive or a danger. I mean it is his child right?

[showard022]

See I don't know. I'm not in that position but if I was I wouldnt. Why should you have to deal with your child have a different name than you? You would have to go to doctors appointment and everything with them having a different name then you. Also when they older it can be confusing for the child I feel. Every has different views and opinions though. I wouldn't unless I was narrowed so my kid didn't have a different name.

[ewilliams_]

I think that you should,my mom did the same thing with me. Gave me her last name and ended up having to get it changed anyways.

[RedMommy20]

I feel that if he is ok qith it then whats there to lose? That is still that child's father so why not? Even if you don't that's still gis child.

[veronicae7]

Same situation here. You should just give the baby your last name due to they say if you put the dads last name he has more rights to the baby.  Thats what they told me