i agree with spade22, maybe you could have like a lunch date gradually bring up being pregnant .....talk about how excited you are that your both pregnant see if shes as excited as you. talk about things like how your babys could be due around the same time etc get her to realize that she needs the proper care, buy her a bottle of prenatls as like a gift saying congrats its worth a try good luck with your friend
I agree with spade in telling her that the Xanax is unsafe to take right now...How far along is she? Maybe she just hasn't made an appt. b/c she feels that she's not far enough along?
This is a tough one and you have right to be concerned in that Xanax should NOT be taken during pregnancy unless ABSOLUTELY, ABSOLUTELY necessary. I don't know how you can get her to see a doctor but tell her that by continuing to take Xanax during pregnancy can result in severe consequences and that there are safe medications that can be prescribed for panic attacks to get her though this time in her life (vistaril, for example) - hopefully if you can get her to realize what the impact could be on her baby, she will seek medical help.
Just another thought - do you think there is a possibility that your friend isn't actually pregnant? Is it possible she is saying she is because she wants to "fit in" or for some form of attention? Women that have had a MC are typically VERY concerned about subsequent pregnancies and it seems odd that a) she is taking a category D medication ESPECIALLY during her 1st trimester, b) is not bothering to see a doctor, and c) told you she was pregnant AFTER you said you were and she just happens to be due at the same time as you.............