nervous excited and scared

[Excitedxoxo]

Ok here's my sto. I suffered from anorexia excerising bulimia andmore recently binge eating. I lost a lot of weight and thus my period beg of last yr. Got it back around oct 15 and have gotten it on 15th since then. Till last month.   My boyfriend and I have been using pull out lately but on april 6th he didn't pull out. Got a weird light lmeduim light period early on the 10th. Then I felt nausea and tired and gained a lot o weight. But it could be frm my unrelenting bingeing daily since august. I took 2 pregnancy tests at home btn then an now. Neg. I did nt get period this 10th so I saw gyno Friday and she said I was pregnant. But therewas nothing on vaginal ultrasound. Took blood Friday and I have to do more bldwrk Monday to make sure hormone doubles. If nt it may be an ectopic pregnancy. That scares me so much. I was excited at first but then dr had to tell me that. I don't want to get my hopes up..my bf says nt to worry but its scary. I have enver been thru his before. and this stres has caused me to binge tonight. I had salad roll 2 bowls of pb cereal and bananas some sauce and grapes and yog.  Bad I know. And I'm scared if I am pregnant I hurt them bc I had champagne on the 3rd and a little bit Thursday night and just my eating in geral. I hv stretch marks all over me from bineging and my teeth have thinned and hurt so much after bingeing.  And when I do try to eat normlly my teeth boher me nowandmy heart beats fast to digest it. It would be so exciting to have a baby..but I don't kno wha= I'm doing. I'm cared right now. I would rather hv a beautiul baby then a surgey.. please offer me some truthful reasurng thoughts and advice. Much appreciated. Put my woorried mind to ease. Than.k u.

[Excitedxoxo]

I already hv bills and bills to be paid and daily expenses puls monthly bills plus masters this fall plus baby...and my current insur is awful and waste of 300 a month and no dental ir eye. My boyfrends is great tho lol. He never uses it tho. Anyway nt telling anyone else I'm preg til 3rd month don't needany stress or neg...want a heathybaby...and what can cause miscarriage that ure referring to

[Clysta]

I would check your insurance plan. You might also be able to set up payment plans. Pregnancy is a time where you need to take extra care of your teeth. Pregnancy also increases your risk of getting infection and such. Some can also cause problems with the pregnancy itself including low birth weight, preterm labour and miscarriage. Your health isn't worth a dollar amount. (speaking from experience. I have a few grand in medical bills----after insurance)  

As for telling your family, you have to just be blunt and say it. As you said, you're an adult. Just come out and tell them. They might be upset, but it will likely be short lived.

[sweetpea03]

First off, you need to get your eating disorder under control. I'd look into going for counseling to work on it. Second, there really isn't an easy way to tell the family. You'll just have to tell them and be straightforward. You can say that this may not have been the best time to get pregnant, but are excited about having this baby and would like their support. If you are on your bf's insurance, does he have dental insurance? Can't you use his?

[Excitedxoxo]

Tnxx yeah idk.....how d I tell family as well. We r excited but I don't want them to ruin it for me. Its nt like I'm a knocked up teen. I'm a college grad. Yes I have many bills to pay which is another reason I'm nt gonna to dentist. That and no dental insur...thous of dollars I'm sure... anyway I don't need the neg stress on me. Now I'm havng a baby I want to havea healthy one. what do u think

[Clysta]

I can't give much advice on the doctors part...I saw 4 different midwifes when I was pregnant and had two strangers deliver my baby---at the time though, an alien could have delivered my baby and I could have cared less. You can talk to them and see if you can see only one particular doctor. Or you could find another practice and see what they say about it. You need to see a dentist. No point in letting the pain last if there's no point for it. Make sure you tell them you're pregnant and they'll be able to take the proper measures.

[Excitedxoxo]

Thanks..an I o on my boyfriends insur since we r living together and baby wil as well in jan..my teeth r awful scaredto go to dentist...I am 5 w 4 d..saw sac in ultrasound. May31st we should see heartbeat... its weird tho. I hv to see all the dif drs in the practice b anyone of them can delvr my baby. Uncomfortabl with that...any thoughts on all of this...thanks so much

[mami2karina]

Good luck and if you are pregnant most insurance programs cover dental for pregnant women!

[Excitedxoxo]

Sorry I'm typing on a phone and tired which makes it hard to type haha

[Excitedxoxo]

Plus I was fine most ofapril but then past couple weeks I get pain in my side or in my vaginal area. That's what scares me. Told dr that but she didn't seem to care. Thought maybe I have a uti or yeast infection bc I didn't go to bathroom b4 sex two weeks a go. Could that be it. I don't want to take any meds. I want to eat we'll no sugar caffeine etc. But my teeth hurt so much. And are looe and thin. I am scared to go to dentist bc it wil be so costly and I hate having mouthwork done. Had a root canal 2 yrs ago.   Also I tend to not sleep well sometimes being excited or nervous or whatever. Id don't want that to affect baby.

[Excitedxoxo]

I don't want tool get too excited then get let down if pitt didnt work out tm. Even ail I need support to eat right drink fluids and exercise healthfully. Is Anyone in a simliar position where they can be that support for me.  I don't want to messed this up.  Also I tend to get stressed and worried easily. I don't want that to hv an effect on baby. I want it to be a great pregrancy. Plus I don't like the gyno I went to  she was very impersonal and acted like I should know abt these things. She caught me off guard. This is all surreal and new.

[Excitedxoxo]

Thank you. Still stressed abt possible ecotopic Pregnancy . plus money Is a stresSor too   what about those things. Plus I'm sure though it would be, exciting for my family they wouldn't think itsa good time to have a child. I would hope it would force me to get healthy . anyway if I am in deeed  having a child should I tell them tm. I'm sure they would notice anyway but up don't need any negativity yet I don't exactly want to alone bc this is new to mwe, thanks so much

[Clysta]

I've never heard of eating a lot doing anything to baby. Many pregnant women eat more than they usually would anyways. There's nothing wrong with the list of foods you put down. In fact it's actually quite good. It would be concerning if it was nothing but junk. You do however need to get your food problems dealt with. You need to eat decent healthy amounts each day. This means you can't go two days without food and then gorge yourself and then go back to starving yourself. You should aim for 3 good meals a day or 6 smaller meals--this works best, especially as pregnancy progresses. However, if you eat and eat and eat you will put on obscene amounts of weight. (There are women who literally eat for two-or more-and gain 100 pounds while pregnant) You want to aim for roughly 35 pounds the entire pregnancy if you were at a normal weight prior to being pregnant. Your doctor will be able to give you a list and recommendations if you need it. You can also talk to a dietary consultant and they will be able to help you out with eating/meals as well. Just remember you're not alone in any of this. There are hundreds of resources and people you can talk to out there.

Also-the champagne you had won't do any harm. Just make sure to avoid smoking, drugs and alcohol in the future.

[Nayna23]

Hop every thing works out for u good look babe